Although it's something that women don't usually like to hear, a lot of men have affairs. According to statistics, 22 percent of men have cheated on their significant other. So basically, if you're a woman and you're reading this, there's a fairly good chance that your loving boyfriend has made the beast with two backs with another woman while he's been going out with you. I know, I know... how could they do that to you? All you do is love them so much, and while you're at work, he's rolling around in your bed with someone else.
These things just don't happen, though. Pretty much everyone knows that cheating is wrong, so a guy has to convince himself that what he's doing is okay. I mean, come on... guys that cheat look right at their girlfriend all day and tell her that they love her, and meanwhile, they're cheating behind their back. Personally, I've cheated a ton in my life, and pretty much every time, I had to give myself a good reason to convince myself that what I was doing okay; otherwise, I would feel like a bad person, and who wants that? Not me.
What follows are the 15 biggest ways guys convince themselves it's okay to have an affair. If you're cheating, I'm 100 percent sure you're thinking at least one of these things. And if you're being cheated on? Well, sorry.
15 You Aren't Attracted to Her Anymore
This one is huge and is probably one of the biggest reasons guys have for screwing around. Basically, they just aren't turned on by their girlfriends anymore. I know that sounds kind of harsh, but hey, the truth hurts sometimes. What do you want from us? If a guy leaves a woman because he isn't attracted to her anymore, then he's a jerk, and honestly, a lot of guys don't want to leave their girlfriends for this reason because they actually like them. So, what's the solution when a guy's hanging out with a woman he isn't attracted to? Cheat on them, of course. This stuff isn't rocket science. Then, you have a hot woman on the side and a nice girlfriend to hang out with, even if she isn't all that hot anymore.
14 You're Mad at Her
Sometimes, guys have affairs simply because they're trying to get revenge on a woman or they're angry at them. Think about it for a second... what better way to get back at someone than sleeping around on them behind her back? It's possible there might be a better way, but if there is, I can't think of it right now. It's a lot easier for a guy to cheat on a woman if he doesn't like her. Of course, it makes more sense to break up with her than to cheat on her, but a lot of guys just don't want to do that. They would much rather stay with a woman and pretend everything is fine while they meet their mistress in a hotel room. Is this wrong? Sure it is, but we're talking about cheaters here; wrong goes with the territory.
13 She Doesn't Pay Enough Attention to You
Some guys will cheat just because they need more attention than they're getting at home, or at least they think that they do. You see, a guy that's going to use this one as an excuse is obviously a pretty selfish guy, but then again, pretty much any guy that cheats is selfish; it sort of goes with the territory. There are all sorts of guys who don't even have one girlfriend, but to a guy that cheats, he needs two. At least. Sometimes, a guy's even cheating on his mistress with someone else. Regardless, this is a big one. If a guy gets it in his head that his woman isn't paying enough attention to him, there's a pretty good chance that he's going to either leave the relationship or going to have an affair.
12 She Doesn't Understand You
This one is another big one. A guy who thinks his girlfriend doesn't understand him is very likely to mess around, especially if he finds a woman whom he thinks does understand him. This is just another excuse, of course. Why should she understand you if you're the kind of guy that's going to cheat on her? But as excuses go, it definitely is a really good one. It makes it a lot easier to lie to someone whom you think isn't in tune with you emotionally. As with all the rest, the majority of guys would break up with a woman if they felt this way, but cheaters don't like to break up with women; they like to cheat on them. Why go through all the hassle of moving out and starting a new life when you can just cheat?
11 All Guys Do it
This one isn't true, of course. As I stated earlier in this article, the vast majority of guys don't cheat, but this article is about what guys that do cheat use for excuses, and this is one of the best: if you can convince yourself that everyone is doing it, then, of course, it makes you not feel as bad if you do it, too. Cheating is no different. Don't get me wrong. It isn't easy to convince yourself something as lame as cheating is okay to do, but it isn't all that hard either. Just wake up every morning and go to bed each night with the thought that men are superior to women in every way and pretty much can do anything they want to do without any repercussions. If you can do this, then you're well on your way to being a good cheater.
10 She Once Cheated On You
This one is easy. If a guy gets cheated on by his girlfriend, there are a few things that he can do. He can dump her, of course, which is probably the smartest thing to do in this situation, or he can just ignore it and be her doormat for the rest of his life. Another option is to stick with the relationship and just constantly sulk and give her a hard time, which is really kind of pointless. He can do all of these things, of course, but the one that's probably the most satisfying is to cheat on her back. I mean, why should he be mature when he can act petty and vindictive? And as awful as it is to be cheated on, it also is kind of like a lifetime "get out of jail free" card. He can cheat as much as he wants, and she just has to deal with it.
9 She's Awful in Bed
This might be the number one excuse guys have for cheating. I once had a long-term girlfriend who was super attractive, really nice, totally smart, had a good job, cleaned the house all the time, and did my laundry. But the thing was, she was totally awful in bed. Sure, I could've dumped her, but why would I want to lose all of that other great stuff? No, the solution was to just cheat on her as much as I possibly could, which I did for around 7 years before she finally figured it out. One would think I might've felt guilty, but I didn't at all. I had everything I wanted, and I was loving it, and it all was because she was so awful between the sheets. At least, that's what I told myself.
8 She Doesn't Want to Get Kinky
Some guys like to do certain things that are kind of kinky, and sometimes, their wives aren't into it. Maybe, at one point, you asked your girlfriend if you could tie her up and she looked at you like you were a total weirdo. But the thing is, you still want to tie someone up, and you don't want to feel like a weirdo when you do it. So what do you do? The answer is simple: you go someplace else and get what you're looking for. That's the thing ladies: unless your guy is asking you to do something totally awful, then maybe you should give them what they're asking for because the chances are, they might be able to find out what they're looking for with someone else. And you probably don't want that to happen.
7 You Don't Love Her Anymore
This one is kind of sad, but it is, without a doubt, a very popular reason that a lot of guys use to cheat. Sometimes, a guy just falls out of love with the woman that he's with, and he ends up cheating on her. A lot of times, a guy goes looking for a new girlfriend at the same time he's still with his old one because he would rather be with someone he doesn't love than be all by himself. Is this lame? Of course, it is. In fact, it's about as lame as it gets. A real man would just break up with her and move on, but still, it certainly is an excuse a lot of guys use when they want to cheat. It's easy to convince yourself that it's okay to cheat if you don't care about the person that you're cheating on.
6 You Love Someone Else
This happens sometimes. A guy might go to work every day and have a coworker that he's really attracted to and that he gets along with really well. He might start to flirt with her and maybe even starts to tell her some of his problems. In the meantime, his girlfriend at home has been acting sort of distant, and so, the guy ends up falling in love with the woman at work and having an affair. Of course, he probably isn't actually in love with her; that goes without saying. But he's convinced that he is. And I probably don't need to tell you that if a guy thinks he's in love with someone who's not his wife or girlfriend, he's probably going to have an affair with her, one that almost certainly won't last, though.
5 The Chick You're Sleeping With Is So Hot
Just for fun, let's pretend that your girlfriend looks a little bit like Mayim Bialik and you meet a woman that looks a lot like Kaley Cuoco at a bar while your girlfriend is out of town. You like your girlfriend just fine, but this chick at the bar is so hot that you can't even stand it. And not only that, but she's into you and wants to go home. A guy who doesn't cheat isn't going to do it no matter what the woman looks like, but a guy that does is going to go home with her because she's hot. What else is he going to do? Is he really going to turn down this once-in-a-lifetime hot chick? He would regret that for the rest of his life. I could go on, but I think you get the point with this type of cheater.
4 You Don't Like Rules
Some guys just don't like to follow rules in any way. They litter when no one is looking; they steal money out of the tip jar when they go to get a cup of coffee; and when their dog takes a dump on their neighbor's lawn, they don't pick it up. You get the picture -- these guys just don't care about anything at all. If there are any women reading this and you have a boyfriend who constantly breaks all the rules of society that he can possibly think of, guess what? He's probably cheating on you, and if he isn't, he's either thought of doing so or he already has before. Guys like this just don't care about anyone but themselves, and they're also good liars. So, chances are, they're going to totally get away with cheating as well.
3 You Want to Get Caught
There's a certain type of guy that really has a hard time breaking up with women. And when I say they have a hard time, I mean they really have a hard time, to the point that they often have an affair just so they can get caught. It takes a twisted type of logic for someone to convince himself of this, but believe it or not, a lot of guys do this. They actually convince themselves that it would be too mean to dump their girlfriend, so instead, they start banging one of her best friends in the hope that he'll wind up getting caught. It seems like a lot of work, doesn't it? But the reality of it is that this type of cheater can just sit back and wait for the inevitable implosion and then let someone else handle the fallout.
2 You Like the Adrenaline Rush
Those of you who've never cheated aren't going to get this, but carrying on a long affair is one of the biggest adrenaline rushes that you'll ever have. You might have a boring job and in many ways even a boring life, but once you start having a long-term relationship with a woman who's not your girlfriend, your life will never be boring again. If you really want to get your adrenaline going, then just add another woman into the mix; then go for three. There have been a few times in my life when I've had affairs that have lasted for years, and you simply can't imagine now many twists and turns I had throughout all of those times. Cheating is really just like skydiving, except way more fun and way more dangerous.
1 Because Sleeping With More Than One Woman is Fun
This one is the simplest one of all but is also one that a lot of people don't dare to say, but whatever, I'm going to say it. Sleeping with more than one woman at a time is really fun. Not only is it fun to sleep with a new woman other than your girlfriend; it also makes doing it with your girlfriend more fun as well. Talk about adding spice back into your relationship. In fact, ladies, I have to tell you, if your man hasn't shown you a lot of interest over the past few months and, all of a sudden, is totally wild for you and wants to do it all of the time, he probably is having an affair. The reason he's so turned on by you is that he just made the beast of two backs an hour ago. Don't shoot the messenger.