We've been fascinated with the lives of famous people for centuries now. Honestly, we've all been endlessly entertained by other people's private lives for so long that it's kind of impossible for some people to understand that these are people just like us. They put their pants on one leg at a time like we do, and they can't stand being put into boxes like we so often try to do. It's really easy to forget that sort of thing, but it is something that we should take care to remember. Celebrities have made it a point to bring up that putting them in boxes doesn't really do anything helpful and it even hinders us from getting to know them better. Never has this been more relevant than when we talk about a person's orientation.
A lot of people tend to think that there are two kinds of people: straight and gay. However, that's not the case at all. There are many orientations that include all genders: it all depends on what that person likes. There are a lot of words for those genders as well. This can lead some closed minded people to think that people who don't fit under the labels of straight or gay need to pick a side. No matter what some people think about this sort of thing, I can tell you right now that people who like more than one gender aren't really "picking and choosing sides." In actuality, members of the LGBTQ community outnumber those who only like one gender. Here are fifteen celebrities that have gone on the record about not needing to pick sides when it comes to love.
15 Amy Winehouse - "So What? I Like Girls As Well."
Amy Winehouse spent years owning her orientation, which is why it's a crying shame that her posthumous documentary Amy sidesteps this major part of her life. She spent the majority of her adulthood before her death at 27 in a long-term relationship with a man, but she was pretty upfront about her relationships with women. “There’s nothing restrained about Amy’s sexuality,” a close (female) friend said about the singer. “Most women can appreciate another woman’s beauty but Amy definitely takes that to the next level.” When she was on vacation in St. Lucia, she hooked up with a few women and even broke up a lesbian couple. She spent a long time rooming with bi pop singer Neon Hitch and said in 2010 that she found women "very satisfying."
14 Margaret Cho - "I Refer To Myself As Gay."
Margaret Cho has gone on record saying that she refers to herself as gay, but the comedienne is in a loving marriage to artist Al Ridenour. For the last ten years, the marriage has been open, and according to Cho, her orientation is part of her being polyamorous. She's gotten some criticism from activists who aren't comfortable with Cho's sentiment that because she's bi, she can't be monogamous, but Cho is pretty clear that this is just her personal experience. “Oh, I do [have to have sex with people of both genders],” she told the Huffington Post. “That’s my response [to critics]. Good for you. But I can’t stop up that hole. But also, I don’t care too. There’s part of me that is a little detached from both emotional and issues in the bedroom with other people. The reality is that people don’t stay in relationships for very long. But I do.”
13 Billie Joe Armstrong - "It's Something I've Always Been Interested In."
The lead singer of Green Day, Billie Joe Armstrong, is an out bi man who came out in the mid-1990s. He's still kind of shocked when people express surprise or outrage over this because this was addressed decades ago. In a 1995 interview with The Advocate, Green Day singer Billie Joe Armstrong said, “I think I've always been bisexual. I mean, it's something that I've always been interested in. I think people are born bisexual, and it's just that our parents and society kind of veer us off into this feeling of 'Oh, I can't.' They say it's taboo. It's ingrained in our heads that it's bad when it's not bad at all. It's a very beautiful thing." Back in 2010, his private life made the news again and he was pretty clear that he didn't want to rehash it. "The fact that it is an issue is kind of phobic within itself. At some point... this should be something that's just accepted. I don't really classify myself as anything. And when it comes to sex, there are parts of me that are very shy and conservative. I want to respect my wife."
12 Evan Rachel Wood - "Just An Observation."
Evan Rachel Wood has been famous for a while now, but her role on Westworld has basically made her a superstar. She came out via a tweet in 2012 with very little fanfare, saying: “I myself am bisexual and have always "joked" about Miley [Cyrus] giving me gay vibes. Not a bad thing! Just an observation.” She went on to accept a Human Rights Campaign Visibility Award at a gala dinner earlier in 2017. She gave a speech that was actually really heartwarming. "I thought women were beautiful," she told the crowd at the Le Méridien hotel in Charlotte. "But because I was born that way I never once stopped to think that was strange or anything to fear." She's only become more open since then.
11 Kesha - "I Love People."
Back in 2013, when singer Kesha still spelled her name Ke$ha, did an interview with Seventeen where she showed a more subdued side of herself while coming out as bi. 'I don't love just men. I love people,' she revealed. 'It's not about a gender. It's just about the spirit that exudes from that other person you're with." She went on to mention that she's against all forms of bullying, not just because she's into both genders but because nobody deserves to be bullied. "I'm all about standing up for gay/lesbian/transgender bullying, but it's also about my little brother. He's 13 and he gets made fun of because he has a stutter. I just have zero tolerance for people making fun of others." Today, she's also at the front of the #MeToo movement.
10 Marlon Brando - "I Find It Amusing."
Marlon Brando used to be very upfront about his personal life. When asked about his intimate life during an interview, he said, "Like a large number of men, I, too, have had homosexual experiences and I am not ashamed. But if there is someone who is convinced that Jack Nicholson and I are lovers, may they continue to do so. I find it amusing." While the jury will always be out on this one, we can draw a lot of conclusions based on his actions and words in life. Marlon Brando once claimed that actor James Dean was gay and obsessed with him. There's even a picture of Brando circulating around the internet of him doing some very NSFW things.
9 Drew Barrymore - "I Used To Go With Lots Of Women."
Drew Barrymore has been linked to several men in Hollywood throughout her career, but that doesn't mean she also doesn't like women. Back in the early 2000s, she was open and frank about her experiences in several interviews. For example, she once said: “Being with a woman is like exploring your own body but through someone else. When I was younger I used to go with lots of women. Totally. I love it.” While she's been upfront about her orientation, recently she's kept quiet about any possible relationships she's had with women. To be fair, Drew Barrymore has been in Hollywood for something like forty years at this point and has earned the right to a little privacy.
8 Allan Cumming - "I Don't Believe That Monogamy Is Feasible."
Allan Cumming has had multiple long-term relationships with both men and women. He's been married to two women and is currently married to a man. “I have a healthy sexual appetite and a healthy imagination,” Cumming told Instinct magazine. “I still define myself as a bisexual even though I have chosen to be with Grant [Shaffer]. I’m attracted to the female form even though I am with a man and I just feel that we have a bad rap.” He also feels like we have a ways to go when it comes to true marriage equality. “I have also been married before to a woman. But it struck me when I got married to Grant, how great it is to be able to do this with all of our family. We first got married in London and then here in New York on our 5th wedding anniversary. I think we have a long way to go even though great strides have been made.”
7 Anna Paquin - "It's Not A Lack Of Decision."
Anna Paquin is attracted to both genders, and she's possibly one of the most patient people in the entire world. Back in 2009, she said in an interview: "For me, it’s not really an issue because I’m someone who believes being bi is actually a thing. It’s not made up. It’s not a lack of decision." When she went on Larry King back in 2014, she had to deal with a ton of misguided questions about how she "was" bi because she's married to her former True Blood costar Stephen Moyer. Larry King actually asked her if she was a "non-practicing bisexual." Paquin then had to explain to King, a grown man, that just because someone is married to someone of one gender doesn't mean that she still can't be attracted to other people of a different gender, and that doesn't mean she's not monogamous, which she is.
6 Andy Dick - "It Doesn't Mean I'm Gay."
Andy Dick talked to the Daily News, telling them that he's a "trisexual." "I'll try anything," he told Tyra Banks when he appeared on her show in 2009. "I really have tried everything, except nothing with animals. There's only room for one animal - that would be me." However, because he's bi, he feels like an outsider in both the gay and straight communities. "I say, 'I'm bi, my love knows no gender,' and the straight community says, 'Oh right, that's just a cover-up - you're gay!' And the gay community says, 'Yeah right, that's just a cover-up - you're gay,'" he went on. "They both want to push me gay." He told the Washington Post about this as well. “Just because I’ve been with guys — and I’m bi — doesn’t mean I’m gay.”
5 Angelina Jolie - "Of Course."
Angelina Jolie isn't just known for being a good actress who's been romantic with a variety of Hollywood guys, including ex-husbands Jonny Lee Miller, Billy Bob Thornton and Brad Pitt. She's also known for her longstanding attraction to women as well. When she was asked if she was bi in an interview back in 2003, Jolie was direct, saying "Of course." She spent several years in the late 1990s and early 2000s dating an actress/model named Jenny Shimizu, who is an out lesbian. “I fell in love with her the first second I saw her,” Jolie said in a 1997 interview with Girlfriends magazine. “Actually, I saw when she was being cast in Foxfire, and I thought she had just read for my part. I thought I was going to lose the job. I said to myself, ‘Oh, my God, that’s Legs.’ She’s great. We had a lot of fun.”
4 Carrie Brownstein - "People Just Always Assume."
For those of you who don't know who Carrie Brownstein is, chances are you've heard of her work. Before her stint on Portlandia, a show she helped create, she was the guitarist and singer for the band Sleater-Kinney. She didn't get the chance to come out on her own: she was outed as being interested in women back in 1995 by Spin Magazine, and in 2006, the New York Times would describe her as openly gay even though that wasn't the case. She set everything straight herself back in 2012. “It's weird because no one's actually ever asked me. People just always assume, like, you're this or that. It's like, 'OK. I'm bisexual'." She sat down with the Advocate recently, talking about how she had the chance to come out on her own stolen from her. “I had not yet figured out who I was, and now I was robbed of the opportunity to publicly do so; to be in flux.”
3 Cynthia Nixon - "It Is A Fact."
Cynthia Nixon once went on record saying that she is "gay by choice." This is kind of a weird way to say that, so she got a lot of backlash for her word choice. She ended up clarifying what she meant in a 2012 interview with the New York Times, "I believe bisexuality is not a choice, it is a fact. What I have "chosen" is to be in a gay relationship." She went on to say "I do, however, believe that most members of our community - as well as the majority of heterosexuals - cannot and do not choose the gender of the persons with whom they seek to have intimate relationships because, unlike me, they are only attracted to one sex." While she knows people will disagree with the way she said this and about her orientation in general because of the lack of respect people in the LGBTQ community get, she stands by her statement. "In terms of orientation, I don't really feel I've changed...I'm just a woman in love with another woman," she told the Daily Beast.
2 David Bowie - "I've Used That Fact Very Well."
David Bowie was a trailblazer in life, death, and love. During the 1970s, he was basically trying everything with everyone. When he was married to Mary Angela Barnett during the 1970s, neither one of them were monogamous and both of them were bi. They actually met because they'd both been sleeping with the same man! "I was a little suspect of him," Angie once told an interviewer. "He did a lot of cavorting. When we got married, it soon became apparent that it had to be an open marriage if it was going to work for him. I liked him, loved him, cared about him, but I was not going to be humiliated and not treated with dignity and respect. So I made sure I did plenty of cavorting myself because that means the playing field was levelled.”In a 1976 interview with Playboy, he said: “It’s true – I am a bisexual…. I’ve used that fact very well. I suppose it’s the best thing that ever happened to me. Fun, too.”
1 Cary Grant - "Deeply, Madly In Love."
Cary Grant's secret was one of classic Hollywood's major scandals. Cary Grant is one of the biggest and most important stars of the century because he knew how to play a character on and off screen. Between marriages and relationships with women, he spent his time with an actor named Randolph Scott, and the paparazzi of the day loved to speculate about them. There was a lot to speculate about, to be fair: the two were always seen together in very couple-y situations. Scott even signed a menu at a dinner party with the words "to my spouse, Cary." Sure, they could have just been bros, but considering that a friend once called them "deeply, madly in love," I highly doubt it.