‘I’m pregnant!’ It’s a statement that can send a wild range of powerful, disparate, complex feelings through a man’s body. Maybe it’s surprise, maybe it’s excitement, or some combination of nervousness, pride and fear. More than likely, it’s any or all of those plus a whole lot of others, all of which collide and disrupt and send the soon to be father into a tizzy.
It has to be the most magnified truth when it’s the first child for the man and the sheer unknown awaits. Sure, childbirth and fatherhood is as old as time, but no matter how often a day it takes place, no matter how many people you know that have gone through it, and no matter how much you read and research and investigate, it stands to reason that until you’re in position, you can only speculate. The suspense can be debilitating.
One reaction is most interesting: nervousness. Nerves arrive from the very real and drastic changes that are about to take place in a man’s world. While there is surely concern and care for the mother and child, nerves can manifest in selfish ways too. That is to say, there is certainly a lot about a man’s lifestyle that will be altered, rather substantially if not irrevocably, as a child enters the world. Those are what we want to investigate. Those secret feelings, those selfish thoughts that occupy a man’s mind in the nine months and surely beyond. It’s fear masking as curiosity about what is perceived as negative changes in one’s familiar world. So much can change, and surely once a child is born, there is a new perception of the life. Again, it’s hard, maybe impossible to imagine such a situation when you've only known this one world in which you are seemingly freer and without so much responsibility. Therefore, we take a look at the seeming universal selfish fears that men have as they await a child into the world.
12 Takes A Long Time Getting Ready
11 Potentially No Drinking
10 No Sleeping Through The Night
9 Labor Will Be Inconvenient
8 Embarrassed About Pregnancy Classes
7 Looking Bad During Labor
6 Losing Circle Of Single Friends
5 Less Freedom, More Responsibility
4 Afraid The Baby Isn't His
3 Wife Will Becomes Less Sexually Attractive
2 Less Quantity and Quality Of Sex
1 Wife and Baby Will Love Each Other More Than Him
With sex taking two of the top three in this list, we can give love the top spot, but they are all close. In one part of the male mind, somewhere deep down, the baby is a threat. Because the child was made inside the woman, there is a connection and bond that cannot be duplicated by the man, no matter how hard he tries. The mother and child will forever have this unique tie, and thus the man has to take a back seat. This would seem all the more logical if the child is a girl. Maybe this bond translates to more love, but the threat is there that maybe not only will the mother like her child more than the father, but that the baby will reciprocate such strong feelings. That leaves poor daddy and husband left as the third wheel.
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