Meghan Markle has only been a member of the British royal family for a few short weeks now, but she’s already learning pretty quickly who she can trust and who she’s better off keeping her distance from. After all, being a part of a new family is never easy, especially when your own is several thousand miles away. And even though she has her new husband Prince Harry by her side, he can’t walk her through every little detail during their royal engagements, step by step. That’s why Meghan is leaning on someone else to help show her around.
You’d think that Kate Middleton would be the royal sister-in-law that Meghan needs in her life right now, but that doesn’t look like it’s the case. The Duchess of Cambridge has three small children to take care of and her own business matters to deal with. That’s why Meghan is looking to another royal Duchess for help: Prince Harry’s stepmother, Camilla Parker Bowles. She might not look like your typical best friend candidate for most people, but there are plenty of things that Meghan and Camilla have in common, especially behind the scenes. Here’s why Camilla seems to be becoming Meghan’s new ally.
15 They Are Both Outsiders
One of the reasons why Camilla Parker Bowles might have taken a genuine liking to Meghan Markle is because they are both outsiders. For Camilla, she had a hard time fitting in to royal life just because everyone blamed her for the demise of Prince Charles and Princess Diana’s marriage.
Meghan’s introduction to royal life might not be as scandalous, but she’s not everyone’s first pick, either. As an American, a former Hollywood actress and someone who is biracial, the British media has been tearing her down and building her up back again over and over.
Here’s what the Daily Mail says after Charles tried to bring Camilla into the royal fold in 1998: “The Prince knew better than anyone, there was no possibility of bringing their relationship out into the open without the Queen’s approval. Princess Margaret, who sympathized with him, had tried to intercede on his behalf. But the Queen had told her sister she didn’t want to meet, or even talk about, Camilla. So, exasperated by what he termed an intolerable situation, and egged on by Margaret, he approached his mother one night in her sitting room at Balmoral. He asked that she soften her antagonism so he could live openly with Camilla. His hope was that the Queen, who rarely interfered, would at least not directly forbid it.”
14 They’ve Dealt With Royal Opposition
A lot of people believe that Meghan Markle isn’t what you would normally call “royal material.” Instead of picking a nice, British girl from a well-to-do family with London connections, Prince Harry had to travel across the pond to find the love of his life. And for a lot of royal critics, Meghan is just too different. And because of this, she might find it very hard to fit in with the royal family. Thank goodness though that Camilla is around, because if there is one person who can sympathize with her, it’s the Duchess of Cornwall. After all, she was in Meghan’s shoes not too long ago, too. There were a lot of people who didn’t want Camilla to marry Charles, the same way they didn’t want to see Harry marry Meghan.
Here’s what the New York Daily News reported in 2017: “Camilla, the Duchess of Cornwall, allegedly urged Prince Charles to convince his son, Prince William, to break it off with Middleton when the Prince started expressing doubts about settling down so young. Charles, over whom Camilla wields enormous influence, did just that and William ended it with Kate in 2007. But the move turned out to be a misstep on Camilla’s part.”
13 They Are Both Targets Of The Press
As many people already know, the British press is having a field day with Meghan Markle and all of her family drama, her past, and of course, some of the scandals, including her divorce and a few Hollywood photos and stills that the Queen wouldn’t want to see. Just because Meghan doesn’t fit the royal standards, the press is tearing her apart, piece by piece. Any other woman would have left by now, but Meghan isn’t letting her critics or her haters get the best of her. Camilla knows the feeling all too well because she too had a hard time convincing everyone that she’s royal material. She literally couldn’t leave her home at one point in her life just because the paparazzi and the British public were so nasty to her.
According to PopSugar, Camilla Parker Bowles once said, "For about a year, when we lived at Middlewick, I couldn't really go anywhere. But the children came and went as normal — they just got on with it — and so did great friends," she said. "It was horrid. It was a deeply unpleasant time and I wouldn't want to put my worst enemy through it. I couldn't have survived it without my family."
12 Camilla’s Royal Advice
It’s a good thing that Camilla has not only got a tough exterior, but a very good sense of humor, too. Because if it weren’t for those two personality traits of hers, she wouldn’t be where she is today, or Britain’s next Queen Consort, for that matter. If there’s one piece of royal advice that Camilla is willing to give Meghan, it’s that you have to keep a healthy distance away from everything that is happening. You certainly can’t take all of the criticism seriously and most importantly, you have to learn how to laugh. Otherwise, the press will take you down. This is something that Camilla has learned over the years and is a piece of advice that she’s willing to pass down to the younger generation of royals.
Camilla once said (according to PopSugar): "You also have to laugh at yourself because if you can't, you may as well give up. I sometimes think to myself, 'Who is this woman? It can't possibly be me.' And that's really how you survive. Also, having so many friends who, if I ever even vaguely look like getting uppity, which touch wood I never have, they would just say, 'Look, come on, pull yourself together! Don't be so [...] grand!'"
11 Could Kate Possibly Be Jealous?
At one point, Camilla Parker Bowles seemed to be rather close with Prince William’s wife, Kate Middleton. At least, it was when Kate was being introduced to royal life soon after her wedding back in 2011. Apparently, Camilla did everything she could to make sure the Duchess of Cambridge felt at home behind palace doors at Buckingham Palace.
Here’s what the Daily Mail wrote in 2012: “ Camilla has claimed the crucial role of making sure Kate that feels ‘at home’ as a royal. It was always clear that Kate would need help to see her through the difficult early years of life in the royal goldfish bowl — something no one gave Princess Diana, with tragic results. She is ‘in regular touch’ with Kate and has become her sounding board on practically everything: from how to deal with other, more prickly members of the family such as Princess Anne, to coping with photographers. She told Kate that one trick is to focus on the faces of one or two cameramen she recognizes in order to help her look more relaxed.”
Now that Camilla is doing the same with Meghan Markle, there’s a good chance that Kate might be feeling a little jealous of the new royal bond between the future Queen Consort of England and Prince Harry’s wife.
10 Camilla Sees Potential In Meghan
Apparently, Camilla sees a lot of potential in Meghan and thinks that Harry did a great job of not only finding the love of his life, but finding someone who will also be a great fit for the British royal family. After all, Meghan is the full package: she’s beautiful, she’s intelligent, she’s well-spoken, she’s a hard worker, and she’s also a fast learner.
Girls like Meghan don’t come along very often and Camilla sees that. That’s why she’s been doing everything she can to make sure Meghan feels welcomed in the family while also personally taking her beneath her wings.
The IBITimes writes, “According to previous reports, Camilla helped Markle with her pre-wedding jitters. Ryan Kay stressed that Camilla and Markle have a number of similarities which helped them hit it off immediately. The Prince of Wales and the Duchess of Cornwall have been very warm to Markle. In fact, they also welcomed her mom, Doria Ragland, and had tea with her when she arrived in London ahead of the royal wedding.”
“They would have had much to talk about anyway as both are divorcees and, like Camilla, Meghan is most probably going to be transformed from a commoner into a royal duchess,” Kay added.
9 Camilla’s Alleged Beef With Kate
It seems like the British press loves to create some sort of discord between members of the royal family. For years, they created a supposed royal fight between Camilla and Kate, leading many to believe that the two women absolutely hated each other. But according to insiders, that was never proven to be true. Even though Camilla and Kate don’t look like they are the best of friends, they aren’t the worst of enemies, either. But the tabloid press likes to think otherwise.
Camilla’s son Tom Parker Bowles told The Daily Mail in 2016, “They get on fine… I don’t think there’s any truth to [the rumors of tension]. Well, I can’t guarantee for sure, but I think that’s all [untrue].”
Of course, it wouldn’t surprise anyone if the British press tried to pull this same stunt between Camilla and Meghan. But so far it doesn’t seem like it’s going to happen. That’s because everyone can see just how warm Camilla is towards Prince Harry’s new wife.
Although, anything can still happen in the future. Watch this space. We have a feeling that a tabloid feud might be brewing very soon, with or without Camilla Parker Bowles and Meghan Markle’s participation.
8 Meghan’s Own Family Drama Is Out Of Control
At this point, it’s no secret that Meghan Markle has plenty of family drama of her own. A lot of people have even noted that she’s gone from one dysfunctional family to the next, with the royals having their own long history of scandals and controversies. But things are so bad between Meghan and her family back home in the United States that they weren’t even invited to her royal wedding at Windsor Castle. In fact, the only person who did show up that day was Meghan’s mother, Doria Ragland. Her father, Thomas Markle Senior, was a no-show after an embarrassing staged photo op made him pull out at the very last minute. He blamed his health and heart surgery for his reason to stay behind, but even the royals knew something was up.
Thankfully, the wedding day went without a hitch, as Prince Harry’s father was the one to walk Meghan down the aisle that day. And Camilla says that everything turned out the way it was supposed to be.
According to OK! Magazine, Camilla said, “Everything was just perfect, including the weather, which couldn’t have been better. It was a beautiful day […] It’s nice to have something that is uplifting rather than depressing.”
7 Camilla Sees That Meghan And Harry’s Love Is Genuine
Camilla Parker Bowles doesn’t really have a reason to get in the middle of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle’s marriage. That’s because it’s as clear as day that the two are madly in love with one another and better yet, were meant for each other, too. Camilla herself knows the feeling. Even though Prince Charles and Princess Diana had a rocky marriage, her relationship with the future King of England has been nothing full of love, compassion, support and mutual understanding for one another. With that being said, Camilla still can’t believe why so many people point their finger at her for being the other woman in Prince Charles’ first marriage. Clearly, they were meant to be, even if their history wasn’t always as pure as it is today.
Meghan told Vanity Fair back in 2016, “We’re in love. I’m sure there will be a time when we will have to come forward and present ourselves and have stories to tell, but I hope what people will understand is that this is our time. This is for us. It’s part of what makes it so special, that it’s just ours. But we’re happy. Personally, I love a great love story.”
6 Camilla Sees Meghan’s Drive And Determination
Another reason why Camilla might be so drawn to Meghan Markle is because she sees the young royal’s drive and determination to make the most of her role as a member of the British royal family. After all, Meghan has proven herself to be a very goal-oriented and driven young woman. Unlike Kate Middleton, she’s a woman who is coming into the royal family with her own successful career and fortune to back her up. And for Camilla, she likes what she sees in Meghan.
It wouldn’t be surprising if Camilla thought Meghan as a younger, spunkier version of her old self. After all, Camilla was a feisty chick during her youthful days, too.
Meghan Markle once wrote on her now defunct blog, The Tig, back in 2014, "You need to know that you’re enough. A mantra that has now engrained itself so deeply within me that not a day goes by without hearing it chime in my head. That five pounds lost won’t make you happier, that more makeup won’t make you prettier, that the now iconic saying from Jerry Maguire–'You complete me'–frankly, isn’t true. You are complete with or without a partner. You are enough just as you are."
5 They Both Held Hands During Their First Appearance Together
Believe it or not, Camilla Parker Bowles and Meghan Markle both held hands during the Duchess of Sussex’s first royal appearance as a married woman. It was a move that surprised a lot of people, mostly because Camilla never did this with Kate Middleton during one of their joint appearances together. But as we all know, Meghan is different. As an American and a former actress, Meghan knows how to approach different people and make them feel at ease. There’s a certain warmth about her that makes people like Camilla feel very comfortable with her around her. It’s no wonder that they have become fast friends. Many critics wouldn’t be surprised if Meghan even treated Camilla like her unofficial royal mother, too. After all, Camilla could use a daughter like Meghan by her side.
According to Britain’s Daily Star, “Meghan and Camilla were seen sharing laughs with Prince Charles as Harry gave a speech to the 6,000 attendees. But the two duchesses had a sweet moment of their own later on. The pair were snapped holding hands while looking into each other's eyes during a conversation. People were quick to react to the photo, with most taking it as a positive sign.”
4 Meghan Is The Kind Of Person Camilla Needs
Simply put, Meghan Markle is the kind of person that Camilla Parker Bowles needs behind palace doors right now. That’s because she knows that sooner or later, she is going to be in the spotlight as the next Queen Consort of England. Unfortunately, Camilla’s popularity with the public hasn’t always been very good, but with Meghan by her side, that might all change. If someone highly regarded like Meghan is willing to love and accept Camilla the way she is, then there’s a chance that the British public might follow suit.
Call it the Markle Sparkle, but Meghan just has that certain touch that makes people want to believe in her, if not follow her lead as well.
According to Elle, “Charles was very impressed with Markle—and showed more support for her than any of Harry’s other girlfriends. He told friends, ‘She is so intelligent and so nice. She makes Harry happy. We could not like her more.’ Harry was reportedly 'visibly moved' by his father's embracing of her. Charles and Markle really connect because of her fascination of royal history (she cares more than Harry, even) and because ‘Charles sees his work ethic and his passion for philanthropy reflected in Meghan.’”
3 They Have The Same Work Ethic
One of the main reasons why Camilla Parker Bowles and Meghan Markle are getting along so well is that because they both have the same, strong work ethic. The same can’t be said about someone like Kate Middleton. As a matter of fact, the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge are often regarded as the two laziest people in the monarchy, just because they put in so little work every year. Camilla, of course, is different. She worked hard to prove that she’s a steadfast worker during the early years of her marriage to Prince Charles, too.
The Daily Mail wrote back in 2012, “Charles’s wife is now fully accepted in the royal family despite the pair breaking royal convention with their marriage. As a divorcee, previously married to Andrew Parker Bowles, Camilla was disliked by the public as the woman suspected of diverting Charles’s affections from Diana. But after his divorce, Charles made it clear that his relationship with Camilla was ‘non-negotiable’ and slowly brought her into the royal circle through a series of carefully organized public appearances. This eventually led to her sitting in the royal box behind the Queen for one of the Golden Jubilee concerts at Buckingham Palace in 2002.”
2 Camilla Treats Meghan Like A Daughter
As mentioned above, there’s a good chance that Camilla and Meghan will have a very close relationship with one another mostly because Camilla treats her like a daughter. Even though she did the same with Kate, they are just not as close today. As a matter of fact, Camilla even gave Kate a special gift right after her royal wedding to Prince William several years ago. That’s just how hard Camilla tried to become close to the Duchess of Cambridge.
People Magazine wrote in 2011, “C is for Catherine, Cambridge and Camilla! A new charm bracelet that Kate has been wearing recently is a gift from her mother-in-law Camilla, Duchess of Cornwall. Kate, 29, was seen with it prominently dangling from her right wrist when she applauded tennis player Andy Murray at Wimbledon Monday and the previous Saturday, when she and Prince William attended a ceremony with the Irish Guards.”
With Meghan, it might be different. Her own mother, Doria Ragland, is thousands of miles away and Meghan might need someone she can rely on that’s close by.
Kate, in comparison, has her own mother Carole Middleton, who lives outside of London. She’ll go to Carole before she will go to Camilla for advice.
1 Camilla Wants Meghan To Succeed
If anything, it’s without a doubt that Camilla Parker Bowles want to see Meghan Markle succeed as a member of the British monarchy. And that’s not just because she sees a little of herself in Meghan. It’s also because the monarchy needs people like Meghan in order for it to continue in the future. Plus, Meghan has proven herself to have what it takes to be a Duchess. Even though there are many sides to her, she’s someone who is determined to make the most out of everything. Also, she is incredibly eager to learn, to adapt to new things, and most of all, put in all of her effort into the work she does on a daily basis.
Meghan told the BBC in 2017, "I think I can very safely say, as naive as it sounds now, having gone through this learning curve in the past year and a half, I did not have any understanding of just what it would be like. There's a misconception that because I have worked in the entertainment industry that this was something I'd be familiar with, but even though I'd been on my show for six years at that point and working before that, I'd never been part of tabloid culture; I was never in pop culture to that degree."