It's a mystery to men why there are apparently certain subjects that women only talk about with other women. After pondering personal life experiences and enlisting a friend to speak for the girls and collaborate with me, it became an indisputable fact. There are indeed some things females only talk about with other females. Are you guys disappointed?
Think back to sitting at the lunch table in elementary school, or possibly the library pretending to study. Remember hearing the whispers and giggles, having the intuition that females across the room were talking about something juicy? In a gutsy move, you decided to walk over and chat with them, only they stopped talking instantly upon your arrival. That may have bothered you then, but it shouldn't bother you now. Hell, maybe it was you they were talking about, and you didn't even know. Let it go, man. Girls talk to girls first, but for guys, all those trips to the bathroom can boggle the mind.
Obviously, there's the opposite side of the coin. There are subjects where a woman prefers to have a man's opinion. There's nothing wrong with that, and as a matter of fact, men lean on their female counterparts in very much the same way. If not more so! Neither gender knows everything about the other. Regardless, there are certain topics of conversation we keep for our side of the fence only. Questions, concerns, and comments like the ones you'll read about right here today.
15 Only Women: Is This Outfit Cute Or Nah?
Beyond dresser drawers full of clothes from years before and closets without one inch to spare, or the boutique trips and online Nordstrom deliveries, most men have been led to believe there's a limitless amount of things for girls to wear at home.
If any of you guys have walked in on a conversation between two women discussing how they look all done up, you've noticed they probably got a lot quieter once you showed up. That's because each of them is likely asking the other an onslaught of questions about their appearance, especially if they're getting dressed up with their bestie. A classic woman-to-woman inquiry is "does this outfit make me look great?" Which I think is usually code for trying to "get some," when referring to a date with a guy.
14 Only Men: What Was He Thinking?
"What were you thinking" isn't always a good question to answer from a woman. As men, though, we do hear it quite often from female friends. An inquiry like this one is about something foolish men do that drive women nutty more often than not. She doesn't understand and wants to learn why? In other words, this is a loaded question, so be careful.
Men who do decide to answer are revealing how they would behave in similar circumstances, and both of you can be deemed idiots very quickly. That is if you answer incorrectly. So, if you value your friendships, don't be a sucker. John Gray wrote, "Men Are From Mars; Women Are From Venus." I'm not sure anybody has ever put it any better than that.
13 Only Women: Her Favorite Object Of Affection
Well, the subject of a woman's playthings makes a lot of men uncomfortable. Why? That primarily has to do with a lack of self-esteem and ego related issues if you ask me, but what the hell do I know. A girl's significant other can't be there to please her personal needs every day, though, right?
With a bazillion options as far as the eye can see, she's probably going to do the same thing that the vast majority of other women have done in the world. She's going to find another object of her affection besides you and buy one. That's better than her sleeping with somebody else, though, don't you think? When the discussion of a female's favorite device arises, that's a conversation that stays between two women. No boys allowed!
12 Only Men: I'm Sorry, Did You Think I Was Easy?
This is a slam thing to say to a guy, and generally revolves around a man's unwanted advances. Reddit user Kittenbeaw0913 who was able to ask men any question she wanted decided to ask, “Why if a girl sleeps with several guys she's easy, but boys brag about getting girls all the time? Why aren’t guys ****-shamed?”
The answer she got was: “This does go both ways more than you think. Yes, men brag to each other. But women (anecdotally) still judge those men. So if a man has slept with, say, 100 women, yes other men will applaud him, but women are much more hesitant to date him. Double-edged sword.”
Reddit user Badhabit sure gave a great answer to a question women only ask men. Well said.
11 Only Women: Are You Going To Eat That?
"Table manners" are a part of dating etiquette where some men struggle. We know that, or at least should by now. Dinner with a female friend can be a bit nerve-racking. Especially the first few occasions we sit down to eat with a girl. Naturally, men don't want to come off like ravenous dogs. Double that fact when we're at a nice restaurant with a woman and a bottle of wine.
With that being said, I'm betting most of you guys haven't heard "are you done eating that?" from a date. Nah, I didn't think so. That's because that's a question that a woman generally only asks other women. Why? Because men aren't the only people who get a little nervous about dinner with the opposite gender.
10 Only Men: What Would You Think If You Were My BF?
Poor communication and money problems are the leading causes of break-ups in the United States. Men who have female friends can attest to the poor communication data part of that study, that's for sure.
Any man who maintains a female relationship in their life, be it romantic or otherwise, have had a woman ask them, "What would you think if you were my boyfriend?" Getting "friend zoned" has earned you this right and is a question that usually leads to more questions. After all, your female friend can't ask her girlfriends what they think her boyfriend would do. She needs a man's point of view on this topic. Many men with a female friend have heard this one before.
9 Only Women: Check Out Her Man!
I've got to admit, these are words I've rarely, rarely heard come out of a woman's mouth. If you guys think about the comment "check out her man", it's kind of like a double whammy, right? A female would be admitting that she feels a guy is way hot out loud, which isn't common, and she'd be wanting the man's company. All at the same time.
That's why this is a thing a woman is only going to say to another woman. Thus, keeping any potential damning evidence to a minimum and only incriminating herself to her close friend. A close friend of her's who is probably thinking the same thing she is. We're not ever going to hear about that, though.
8 Only Men: Would You Like It If Your GF Got Frisky Like That?
Here's a thing a woman only asks a man that tends to be fun! Questions like this are usually positive in nature and can mean that some guy is in for a real treat. At least let's hope so. Sex therapist Vanessa Marin declared to Men's Journal, "Some people have so much performance pressure and anxiety, and that's what holds them back from even experimenting in the first place."
Women know this and don't want to miss out on any fun they can have in the bedroom, or anywhere else, with their lover. With that said, men hear this question from their close female friends quite regularly if they're tight. The fact still remains that whether or not a man would like something is a thing only a guy can answer.
7 Only Women: Is She Better Looking Than I am?
The question "is she better looking then I am" is a great question for two reasons. One, I know that women ask other women this question, though we've never actually heard it. Two, because this is a question that men don't ask other men. Not only have I never asked another guy this question, but I've also never had another guy ask me this question. Shocking, there appears to be something I haven't heard before.
All joking aside, every person has an insecurity or two. Maybe this woman-to-woman only question lends itself to appearing involuntarily insecure about their appearance all of the sudden? Information women would rather keep to themselves and men desperately try and hide.
6 Only Men: If Your GF Did You Wrong, What Would You Do?
From a man's perspective, replying to the question, "What would you do if your GF did that to you?" can lead to a dicey situation. Things like that mean a female friend has done something unscrupulous to their significant other and wants comfort. Only, this time she may not deserve comforting. Studies by well-known psychologist and author Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, reveal that "More than 50 percent of all married women, at some point, cheat on their mates, says Weil, so husbands should never be too cocky that their wife won't stray. You have to be on the alert that at any moment you could lose your partner."
Hopefully, that's not the case when men hear this question from women.
5 Only Women: What's Up With Her "Hoo-Hah"?
Questions that revolve in any way around the topic of a woman's "hoo-hah" are typically forbidden to us men and for a good reason. Unless you're a doctor, you don't know diddly squat about that peach, so this is a fantastic time for men to shut their mouths. Guys who are remotely intelligent know this.
In all honesty, though, it's probably better we don't know if you think about it. 99.9 percent of men don't have anything to add to a conversation investigating what could be up with their female friend's "hoo-hah". In all actuality, most men have heard about waxing and tan lines, but aside from that, the list grows short awfully fast. Maybe that's all for the best.
4 Only Men: Why Are All Of You Men So Maddening?
Men who have had a female roommate with a boyfriend have been asked, "Why are all of you men so maddening?" and it's a difficult question to answer. Issues like this one put men on the spot. That can be a good thing or a bad thing.
Women who ask men questions like this are often confiding in a male. At times, this is a desperation question that a woman only talks about with another man. Men have information that women want, and despite whether they like it or not, women want to know why in the hell men act the way that they do. If you haven't heard this question before as a guy, you probably will someday.
3 Only Women: Let's Go To Sephora?!
Have any of you men ever fallen victim to an ill-fated attempt by one of your female friends asking you to hit up the mall and go shopping with them? Don't hold your breath, because you're not going to.
Back in 2012, a study by the Harris poll published by the Huffington Post revealed that "44 percent of women felt unattractive without any makeup on." That essentially means that 44 percent of women want someone to talk to about their makeup, hair care, nails, and wardrobe. Most men don't fit the bill, so women converse with their female friends in regards to this topic. The world of clutches, handbags, shoes, and mascara go over the heads of most guys. That's why women don't ask men to go to Sephora.
2 Only Men: How Do I Get Him To Return The Favor?
This is a big one, guys! You know that returning the favor is a big deal to women, right? If not then you do now. Jessica Wood, who authored a study at the University of Guelph between 1500 participants 18-24, told the Medical Daily, "More than half of men who had given cunnilingus reported enjoying it a lot, while an additional 41 percent enjoyed it somewhat, and 7 percent didn't enjoy it much or at all. Contrastingly, only 28 percent of the women who gave fellatio found it very pleasurable; for 55 it was somewhat pleasurable, and 17 percent didn't enjoy doing it. This pattern was more significant in casual hookups."
The best way to learn how to get a man to return the favor is to probably buy a guy a beer and start picking his brain a little. If he still doesn't do it, ditch him.
1 Only Women: Has Another Girl Ever Tried That On You Before?
"Studies at Boise State University found that in a group of heterosexual women, 60 percent were physically interested in other women, 45 percent made out with a woman in the past, and 50 percent had fantasies about the same sex."
Here's an example of another subject women talk about with each other that men don't. Most straight men don't discuss other men hitting on them with their buddies. If I'm wrong and your circle of friends is different, then my bad. That topic for a man is an uncomfortable one even when completely aware of their sexual preference. Women, on the other hand, discuss these advances with one another. Are you surprised? Wouldn't it be interesting to see a study on the guys?