8 American Cities To Visit To Find A GF (And 7 To Stay Away From)

If you're a single guy looking to relocate to a new city, the third question you're likely to ask yourself after "Where am I going to live?" and "Where am I going to work?" is very likely to be "How easy will it be for me to meet women there?" Especially in situations where you're moving somewhere where you don't really know anyone, meeting someone who becomes your significant other can help you navigate your new location and check out all the sights and venues the city has to offer, without the discomfort of having to do so by yourself, or with someone you otherwise wouldn't hang out with.

But just like each major city in the United States is different from the other in a variety of ways, so too is the scene for finding someone to date – that's doubly the case when it comes to finding cities where there are the most single women. We might have the usual stereotypes in our head, like New York has smart, sophisticated, and sexy women, and Los Angeles has the classic blond beach babes, but that doesn't necessarily translate into places where you'll be able to quickly and easily find a girlfriend.

That's why we wanted to put this list together. After plenty of research, we have compiled the list of the eight American cities where single guys could – or should – go to meet a girlfriend, and the seven cities that you should avoid at all costs, if you're looking to meet a woman to date.


15 Best: Baltimore, Maryland

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Don't let everything you've seen on The Wire bias your opinion of Baltimore. While the city definitely still has its bad parts, over the past two decades, the western part of the city around the Harborplace has undergone something of a renaissance.

In particular, Fells Point in Baltimore has turned into a booming neighborhood filled with young professionals in their 20s and 30s, with great living options, tons of awesome restaurants, and a whole slew of neighborhood nightlife options to choose from. Whether you're into dive bars, sports bars, wine bars, or the standard nightclub, you'll be surprised as to how much fun you can have after work in Baltimore. And if you do manage to score a date, there are a ton of things to do in the daytime as well. A word of warning: if you don't like crabcakes or seafood, you probably shouldn't admit that publicly if you live here.

14 Worst: Houston, Texas

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In November of 2017, WalletHub.com – a personal finance website – ranked Houston outside the top 30 cities in the United States for singles, and the second-worst city for single guys among the seven cities we recommend staying away from. For reference, they ranked places like Fargo, North Dakota and Lincoln, Nebraska as better cities for singles. That alone should say plenty. And the online magazine CityLab.com reported in 2015 that the entire southeast region of Texas is basically overrun with more males than females.

In other words, if you happen to find a lovely lady you'd like to get to know in this area, she's probably got a waiting list of guys who have the same intentions. Conversely, Citylab.com confirms that if you're a single guy in Texas looking to meet someone of the opposite gender, the odds are much better for you in the Dallas area.

13 Best: Nashville, Tennessee

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Here's a question for you. Have you ever noticed how girls who love country music generally tend to be really attractive? Given that, wouldn't it make sense that you could find an incredible girl in a city that's basically the country music capital of the U.S. (if not the world)?

Not only is Nashville filled with gorgeous southern women, but you'll find that they're generally the types of girls that every guy wants to date; they look amazing in a sundress, they're always up for listening to music in a dive bar, they love deep-friend southern food, and they're the types of girls whom you could bring home to your mom. That's basically the perfect combination of things you'd want in the next girl you'd want to date. And Nashville is filled with women who fit that criteria.

12 Worst: Denver, Colorado

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In some corners, Denver is jokingly referred to as "Menver," because of the inflated number of single men compared to single women. Building on that, in 2014, the Pew Research Center completed a study dubbed "Mapping the Marriage Market for Young Adults," and Denver came up as one of the cities where the ratio of young, single, employed individual was heavily in favor of the women. In other words, women had far more choice than men in finding a partner who fits that criteria.

While the quality of women in Denver is absolutely incredible, with a lot of people who work hard to stay in great shape all year long (despite the cold weather months), the quantity is clearly not in favor for guys to meet a woman like that.

11 Best: Atlanta, Georgia

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Many guys don't realize that Atlanta is one of those cities where single men are basically fishing out of a small barrel. You'll hear many of the women in Atlanta re-state the age old question, "Where are all the good guys worth dating?" So, as long as your life isn't a total disaster, and as long as you are somewhat coherent when you're talking to a woman, the statistical odds say that you won't remain single for very long in Atlanta.

And while the city tends to be spread apart into different neighborhoods, the Marta subway system is heavily relied upon by residents of the area, and can take you basically anywhere you need to go.

The bottom line for women in Atlanta is that they're often a mix of good southern women who also happen to be smart, driven professionals; if that's your thing, then you could do very well for yourself as a single guy living here.

10 Worst: San Francisco, California

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If you're a single guy who can land a job at some prestigious technology company in the Silicon Valley area, you probably have your life set for you for quite some time. The same probably can't be said about your dating life, though.

Just as how the techie male entrepreneurs in this area know they'll be devoting countless hours to their job and essentially making it the first love of their life, your female counterparts will be doing the same thing. So, unless you're someone who prefers to date someone from the workplace – and not really care about the potential human resources issue that comes with that – that's probably one of the few ways you'll get to spend any prolonged period of time with a woman. Otherwise, like you, chances are she's spending most of her time at work.

9 Best: Washington, DC

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Our nation's capital is about so much more than the White House and the president living in it. With a ratio of over 1.2 unmarried women for every unmarried guy, it has one of the highest proportions of single women to single men of any major city in the country.

Plus, if you're the type of guy who believes that it's only fair for women to split the check on a first date, then you'll totally dig Washington, because the median incomes of professionals working in the city is so high, you'll find women are much more likely to "go Dutch" on dates, instead of expecting guys to foot the cost of the date. With neighborhoods like Georgetown, Dupont Circle, U Street, the emerging H Street area, there are tons of locations to both meet women and go out on dates.

And if you don't want to live downtown, nearby there is Arlington, Virginia, which is chock-full of men and women in their mid-20s to mid-30s, with a ton of great places to eat and drink.


8 Worst: Las Vegas, Nevada

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How in the world would "Sin City" be on the list of worst cities for guys to find a girlfriend? It's simple, really. The women in America's playground are just so jaded by guys only looking for the short-term and superficial.

First of all, women realize that the majority of guys who they'll meet in Las Vegas are transient, meaning they don't live there. So, there's no realistic chance of having any relationship after anything that happens that day (or that night). And all of this isn't to say that the women aren't looking for the same thing, either. Many women spend their late teens through late 20s knowing that anything that happens there is for the short-term, meaning they'll also be looking for the same superficial things that guys are – everything on the exterior, and nothing on the interior.

When you sum it all up, Las Vegas is basically Tinder in the real world. Everything is based on the superficial, and only for the short term.

7 Best: Phoenix, Arizona

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Think of Phoenix as the little brother (or little sister?) of Los Angeles: warm climate, great weather, and hot women. In fact, it's got virtually the same caliber of amazing-looking women, but a lot less of the "aspiring actress only looking to date someone who can advance their acting career" pretentiousness.

A recent census survey revealed that Phoenix has over a quarter of a million single women residing in the city or the major suburbs (like Scottsdale). Plus, with two major college campuses in the area (the University of Arizona and Arizona State University) with a ton of transplants from southern California, there are co-eds of all ages in the area.

In other words: you can enjoy all the great things about dating a California girl without having to deal with the attitude, expensive cost of living, and/or terrible traffic.

6 Worst: Los Angeles, California

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The numbers don't lie when it comes to trying to find a woman to date in Los Angeles. According to the 2006 census, Los Angeles has almost 90,000 more single men than single women. Even in a city as large and as populated as Los Angeles, that number really stands out.

And that doesn't even factor in the fact that many women are looking to date guys who either have some type of clout, and/or could advance their potential acting careers. It's just another place where the superficial relationship is much more prevalent than the serious relationship.

If you're just a regular guy looking to date a regular girl, Los Angeles probably isn't the city for you, unless you know somebody who knows somebody that can cast them in something.

5 Best: Dallas/Ft. Worth

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One of the great things about the "Dallas–Fort Worth metroplex" is that there are a ton of options of single guys of all ages in the area. For instance, if you happen to be a guy who's single and above the age of 40 years old, the general demographics and night life of Fort Worth will definitely be to your liking. If you're your typical single guy between your mid-20s and mid-30s, there are a ton of great things to do in the growing Uptown areas of Dallas. And with all the college campuses located between both cities, you'll find a never-ending supply of recently-graduated women looking for new jobs and new people to date.

It's estimated that Dallas has over 200,000 single women at any given point in time, so the options are plenty. Plus, living in an area with inexpensive real estate, great barbecue, and a total infatuation with sports (especially football) isn't too bad, either.

4 Worst: New York City, New York

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Let's be clear: being the most populated city in the United States, it would follow that the Big Apple also happens to have the most single women of any major American city as well. But that also means that New York has the most single men as well.

While there is a never-ending list of places to meet, mingle, and share meals with a woman you fancy, because of the hard-working and fast-paced lifestyle of the city, it's actually really hard to meet a woman you want to date. And while online dating sites have exploded in popularity there, many women are jaded by the guys who use said sites and apps to solely accumulate notches on their bedpost, as opposed to trying to find someone to date.

And, of course, there are also plenty of women who are looking for short-term company as well, while they spend a majority of their energy focused on their career.

3 Best: Boston, Massachusetts

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In 2013, NerdWallet.com – a finance comparison website – ranked Boston as the #1 city in the United States for single men. Based on the number of bars and gyms per 1,000 residents, all the shops, restaurants and bars in the area, plus the general culture of people walking to wherever they need to go, the blog concluded that Boston not only provides single guys with the most opportunities to meet members of the opposite gender, but that there are also more single women than single guys in the city.

Many residents confirmed that ranking, indicating that if you can sometimes get past the initial brusque response from a woman you might be interested in getting to know, you'll likely find out that she's not currently dating someone. Plus, given how cold it tends to get in Boston, "cuffing season, "where women are looking for a guy they can rely on for company through the cold winter months, is definitely a legitimate thing there.

2 Worst: Miami, Florida

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Perhaps actor (and former rapper) Will Smith best summarized what makes it so difficult to meet a woman of quality in Miami: "hundred-thousand dollar cars, everybody got 'em."

It's the city with some of the most renowned beaches, some of the most incredible women of all ethnic persuasions, and a whole lot of guys showing off their money, muscle, and means (or some combination of all three). If you're able to compete with those guys, then more power to you.

But if you're a regular guy who's looking to meet a regular woman on Ocean Avenue in South Beach, then I wish you the best of luck, because that woman is going to have no endless supply of guys trying to impress her. The city is one big party where the people with the highest status win.

1 Best: Chicago, Illinois

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Here's the thing about Chicago. You're going to find just as many beautiful, intelligent, and accomplished women as you would in most other major cities around the United States, minus a whole lot of the "I'm very important" air of pretentiousness.

Instead, if (or when) you do approach a lovely lady in a social setting, you'll be pleasantly surprised to see how friendly and genuine she'll be. Even the transplanted women in the area start to pick up on the humble Midwestern sensibilities that part of the country is known for.

However, if talking to women in bars and clubs isn't your thing, there's no need to worry. There are plenty of women to choose from via the online dating scene. A recent Match.com report indicated that one in five people in their 30s in the greater Chicagoland area met their current significant other online. Regardless, there should be plenty of women to choose from, as it's estimated that as much as 63% of the residents of Chicago are not married.


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