When it comes to dating, there is one thing that makes people more nervous than anything - the prospect of being cheated on. And for guys, this can be a huge source of anxiety. When a girl chooses another man over you, it can seem like the ultimate slap in the face. As well as bruising your ego, it also challenges your very masculinity, making you feel like less of a man. It's no wonder why loyalty is one thing that guys look for more than anything in a woman. They just don't want to suffer those unspeakable consequences. A huge percentage of guys have sadly been cheated on in the past, and they will do anything not to feel that stinging blow ever again. And in today's age of sexual liberation and freedom, cheating is more rampant than ever before. So how do you avoid it happening to you?
As it turns out, there are a few simple things you can do to help prevent your girlfriend from wandering into another guy's arms. No, we're not talking about chaining your girlfriend up and leaving her in a dungeon! These methods might actually be a lot simpler than you might think. It's not so much about control as it is about helping the relationship progress to a more meaningful level. You might find that when you try out these methods, you will not only keep your girl loyal, but also strengthen your bond with each other. And at the end of the day, that's what it's all about!
15 Trust Her
The number one thing in any relationship is trust. Even if you're not even worrying about your girlfriend cheating on you, trust is always something you should strive for in your relationship. Trusting your partner shows that you believe in them, that you're not worried about them, and that you know that they'll be there for you no matter what. Relationships are a two way street. Chances are, if you give trust to your partner, she'll end up giving it back to you. It's often tough to take that leap of faith, but if you do, you'll be rewarded.
On the other end of the spectrum, guys who are exceedingly distrustful of their partners might suffer some uncomfortable consequences. If you're the kind of guy who's always on your girl's case about their guy friends, it will push her away. You've heard of reverse psychology right? Well if you're constantly suspicious that your girl is cheating on you, and you're so insecure that you end up interrogating your girl about where she's been and who she's been talking to, it might just have the opposite effect of what you intended. That's right, your girlfriend might decide to cheat on you just to spite you! Your girl might get so tired of the endless nagging that she might cheat on you just to get back at you.
14 Surprise Her
One of the main reasons women cheat is boredom. It's really easy to slip into a repetitive routine in relationships, and both partners can become stuck in the mire of mundanity. It can become so tiresome for some women that they might be tempted to cheat just to give their lives something new for a change. And you can't really blame them. If you're doing the same things over and over, it's only natural for girls to want a change.
So what can you do to keep her on her toes? It's simple - surprise her. This can be done in a lot of different ways, so use your imagination. One example would be to surprise your girlfriend with a romantic getaway. Or cover the apartment with rose petals and candles and then surprise her when she gets home. But you don't even really need to plan anything out in order to surprise her. Relationships are always made so much more interesting with the addition of spontaneity. It's almost better if you don't plan things out. Wake up one morning and tell your girlfriend to pack her bags - you're going to the airport. Don't plan a destination - just go. Or it can be as simple as having sex in the middle of the day, right out of the blue. For extra points, do it on the kitchen counter.
13 Keep Her Satisfied
That leads us to what is probably one of the more obvious ways to keep your girlfriend from cheating on you. As much as many guys will deny it, on of the main reasons girls cheat is because she's not getting what she needs in the bedroom. It's as simple as that. And while guys will search for any other excuse when trying to explain to themselves why they were cheated on, the hard truth is that they probably weren't keeping her satisfied. And again, you can't blame women for wanting to be satisfied. Human beings are sexual creatures. We need to be satisfied to live happy lives.
So what can you do to keep her satisfied? The main thing you have to remember is to make sure she has the big "O." Many men are selfish lovers who care only about their own pleasure. While this might make sense in the moment, you will regret this approach when your girl goes elsewhere for her own pleasure. Some woman are easy to bring to orgasm, while others are nearly impossible. If you can't give your girl the big "O" with penetrative sex, you may need to explore other methods, such as oral. But the main thing to remember is to make sure you're both getting what you need when it comes to sex.
12 Compliment Her
Guys always forget about this. It doesn't matter how long you've been dating your girl, she will always appreciate a compliment on a regular basis. And the great thing is, she'll never get bored of it! It will always touch her heart and give her butterflies. Part of what makes compliments so meaningful to women is that it reminds them of what it was like when you two first started dating. Back then, you were probably trying very hard to win her heart and make her yours. Complimenting her lets her know that you haven't taken her for granted, and that you still appreciate her.
It's generally a good idea to compliment your girlfriend's appearance when you see her for the first time that day. Also, try to notice changes to your girlfriend's appearance. If she's had her hair done, or she's wearing new lipstick, try to compliment those changes. For many guys, these little changes sometimes go right over our heads. But the main thing is that you're making an effort, and she will appreciate it. On the other hand, if you fail to compliment her for an extended period of time, she will begin to feel unappreciated, and that's when cheating will start to enter her mind as a possibility.
11 Stay Loyal
Could this be any more obvious? If you want your girlfriend to stay loyal, you better be preaching what you practice. Don't expect your girl to "stand by her man" while you go off and sleep with every girl within a 50 mile radius. It's only human nature to want to get revenge. And as we all know, the best revenge for being cheated on is to cheat right back. Don't give your girlfriend any excuse to cheat! Stay loyal, and she will too.
Girls can overreact in a pretty huge way when you do certain things as well. "Microcheating" is now a thing, so even if you're texting a girl and she doesn't know about it, she might then justify sleeping with your best friend. It may not make sense to you, but somehow in her mind she's getting even. The same goes for kissing or making out with another girl. Even if you're not actually sleeping with the girl, your girlfriend will react pretty much the same way. She might see that and decide to "raise the bar" by having sex with one of your friends, or even worse, your enemies.
10 Don't Hit On Her Friends
This is a continuation of the previous point. Girls can get extremely jealous of the fact that you're hitting on any girls. But you better believe that it's going to going to grind her gears when she sees you hitting on her best friends. Even though girls might seem like they love their friends, they can be extremely competitive with each other under the surface. An innocent remark or compliment that you give to one of her best friends can be a major blow to your girlfriend's ego. She might decide to "return the favor" by hitting on your friends. And one thing can easily lead to another...
On the other hand, girls can be very manipulative when they get together in groups. You might think that her best friend genuinely wants to get with you, but in reality it might all be a trap. They might be "testing you" to see how loyal you are to their friend. When they see that you're willing to hook up with them behind your girl's back, they will run to your girlfriend and tell them just how much of a scumbag you are. And when your girlfriend finds out just how disloyal you've been, they will most certainly consider cheating on you.
9 Don't Be Fake
Another thing that can drive women away is a guy who tries too hard to be something they're not. More than anything else, most women want a man who can be honest with himself and others. If you're putting on a persona in your relationship, this can cause women to feel like they're missing something. And those feelings are not unfounded - they are missing something. And that thing is you. Don't be afraid to show your true colors in a relationship. Even if there are sides of your personality that you haven't shown anyone else before in your life, be brave and show them to your girlfriend. Because at the end of the day, if you can't show your true self to your girlfriend, who can you show it to?
If you insist on being a fake caricature of yourself around your girlfriend, chances are she'll get frustrated. She might even wander into the arms of someone who's genuine with their feelings. Because at the end of the day, one of the things that girls find most attractive is a guy who can be genuine.
8 Don't Be A Workaholic
In today's world, people are under incredible economic pressure. This can put a real strain on relationships. If couples want to succeed in most first world countries, both partners have to work to be able to succeed financially. But sometimes, we lose focus of what's really important - our relationships. It's so easy to get lost in our work, and forget about the people who love us. Guys are especially guilty of this, and some are very deserving of the moniker "Workaholic."
If you're spending too much time at work, working late, or even worse, bringing your work home with you, don't expect your girl to be too impressed. If you continue to pay less and less attention to your girlfriend, it will definitely start to have a negative impact on your relationship. She might even decide that since you're paying no attention to her, she's justified on cheating on you. And you can't really blame her if you're making her feel like she's less important than your work.
7 Switch It Up In The Bedroom
We've already talked about the perils of a repetitive relationship. But while there's a danger of making your everyday life too mundane with your girlfriend, there's arguably an even greater danger of making your love life too boring. Even if the sex is great for the first few months or even years, it's important to try new things. This will keep everyone interested, and ensure that she won't be seeking new experiences from another man.
But how exactly do you "switch it up the bedroom?" Some examples have already been mentioned, like spontaneous sex. You might also consider hooking up in new places. Instead of limiting yourself to the bedroom, try making love in different rooms in the house, like on the kitchen counter or on the dinner table. If you're stuck using the same positions over and over again, check the Internet or the famed Kama Sutra for new ideas. The sky is really the limit when it comes to love making.
6 Don't Use Money To Buy Her Love
While it's true that some women are attracted to wealth, don't try to make it the extent of your relationship. Money can only go so far. Too many guys think that if they shower their girlfriend in presents and money, they will stay faithful. But this just isn't the case. The thing women value more than anything else is an emotional connection. And if you're substituting emotions with money, a woman will feel like she's getting a fake, superficial relationship.
In fact, there can be such a thing as giving a woman too many presents and spoiling them too much. After a while, these women will feel like they're being bribed or paid off in return for their affections, which is never a good feeling. In addition, many women admit that when they're being showered with a ridiculous amount of presents, it can cause them to get suspicious. They might even start to think that you're giving them presents because you're feeling guilty about something. They might even think that you're feeling guilty about cheating on them! And in turn, they might try to get revenge.
5 Make Friends With Her Friends
When it comes to cheating, probably the biggest cliche is that she does it on her "girls night out." But this actually happens more than you might think. When a girl goes out and parties with her bffs, things can get a little wild. Sometimes girls can party pretty hard, and that's when she's a prime position to cheat on you. This is especially true if you two have been fighting lately, or you've been making any of the previously mentioned mistakes. There's also the effects of peer pressure to consider. When your girl is around her friends, she may be more prone to doing things she wouldn't normally do. It's basic human behavior.
So, how do you deal with these potentially dangerous girls nights out? Well, for one thing you shouldn't try to stop them from happening. It's healthy to want to have some alone time with friends and you should encourage her to do that. What you can do is make sure her friends like you and enjoy spending time with you. That way, her friends might invite you along to party with them, and they'll accept you as someone who can hang out with them all and not ruin the atmosphere of a girl's night out. Be enthusiastic about their activities, even if you think they're totally lame. Try to entertain them! Be funny, be witty - basically you want to make them think that you're cool.
4 Don't Ghost Her
If you're not familiar with the term "ghosting," let me give you a quick run-down. Ghosting is when you're texting a girl and all of a sudden, you just ignore her for hours - even days. This is pretty much the biggest slap in the face for a girl. For them, it can seem like you've totally lost interest in them, even though you might just be distracted or busy. The worst thoughts start to run through a girl's head when this happens, and she might even suspect you're too busy hanging out with another girl. It's also a pretty big insult in their eyes, and it might just drive them to drastic measures.
Try to keep your girl updated from time to time, even if it's just a quick text. It really makes a difference. I know it might be hard sometimes, but you'll be thankful you did. Basically what women see when you ghost them is that you don't care about them. This might make them so angry that they'll cheat on you to get revenge.
3 Let Her Know It's Serious
If you're going to take note of any of these tips, take note of this one. In today's society, casual, non-committal relationships are the norm. Unless a girl is specifically told that she's in what a man views as a serious relationship, she'll assume that it's nothing special. And when she thinks that it's just a casual relationship for the odd hook up, she won't be too worried about being loyal. Let's face it, being hurt sucks. One way people protect themselves is by not letting themselves get too close to the people they're in a relationship with. If they don't let get attached, they won't be hurt when things come crashing down. And if a girl isn't attached to you, there's no incentive for them to stay loyal.
So if you want your relationship to be exclusive, don't be shy about telling your girlfriend this. Better yet, tell her how much you care about her and how seriously you take the relationship. When she sees how much you care, she'll be more encouraged to take the relationship seriously too.
2 Don't Get Too Drunk At Parties
Parties are fun, there's no doubt about that. But they're also a place where cheating happens probably more than any other. The reasons for this are obvious. It's a highly social setting, there's lots of people around, and lots of opportunities to get tempted by another person. And that's before you even add in the alcohol factor. Drinking too much can be the thing that pushes you right over the edge, and opens the door for infidelity.
Guys can be way too enthusiastic when it comes to cheating. If you get too wasted, you won't be able to keep an eye on your girl. She also won't be that impressed with you if you pass out. If people know you're dating her, you'll end up humiliating not only yourself, but her as well. That might be the deciding factor for her to cheat right then and there. Trust me, getting too drunk at a party is never a good idea.
1 Let Her Know That If She Cheats, It's Over
Here's another pretty obvious way to prevent your girlfriend from ever cheating: Tell that if she's ever disloyal, you'll break up with her. No ifs, ands, or buts. Stick to it. Let her know you're serious and she'll think twice about cheating. If she thinks you're the forgiving type, she might take advantage of that. There are of course certain circumstances where people have forgiven each other for cheating, and I respect that. And who knows, you might be in a situation where you find it in your heart to forgive your girl when or if she cheats on you.
But making it clear that you take that offense seriously will add another layer to her decision making when she's thinking about cheating. Is she really willing to throw away her relationship with you because she wants revenge or she's not feeling loved enough? Sometimes the answer will be yes. But having a serious conversation about what will happen to the relationship if either one of you cheats is always a good idea.