When a woman gets engaged, there is no happier time than that. She gets to post her engagement ring on various social media sites and be the center of attention for some time. Then the fun part begins, planning your dream wedding. It’s a magical time — women dream of the perfect wedding from the time they are just little girls. When that day comes, it’s like a dream come true. We think about our family gathering, with drinking, dancing, and the beginning of so many amazing memories. It’s supposed to be the best day of their lives, so why isn’t it?
That’s what’s supposed to happen, right? For some women, however, that isn’t the case. Instead of laughter, there are tears and regret. These weddings, although they were planned to perfection, didn’t end up going to plan. Some of these brides themselves refused to go down the aisle and we assure you, they had a good reason. There are also women who were left at the altar by their man, so their wedding day didn’t go as planned, either. You will be shocked to hear about these stories, there’s no doubt about that. Some of these brides regret what happened to them while others are glad to be out of their situation. Check out these 15 tragic confessions of brides who never made it down the aisle.
15 A Fake Wedding
When this couple decided to part ways, the wedding had already been paid for. So instead of canceling it, they decided to have the wedding and throw the party anyway. They just chose not to sign the papers that would make it official. They didn’t want to bum anyone out by canceling the wedding, and since it was already paid for, they decided to have a fake wedding. We’re surprised they could make it through the wedding without killing each other. “We went through with the wedding but then just didn’t sign the papers, because everyone was already coming and we were breaking up amicably. All the money had been spent and everyone was already on their way, so we explained to the person officiating the wedding, cut out our personal vows, and we just didn’t sign the papers. No one even knew that the wedding was a fake until we sent out a notice on the wedding website. We still sent thank you cards and returned all the gifts. It was surprisingly undramatic.”
14 Jilted Bride
There is nothing worse than being left at the altar. Not only is it crushing to your soul, but it’s a hard thing for a bride to understand. In this story, the girl was left by the love of her life and it’s pretty obvious that she is destroyed by it. Hopefully, one day, she will be able to see that she is better off and will find someone better. “The person I love most in the entire world has left me. The real kicker here folks — he left by choice. I have experienced a loss. I cried so much for the first few weeks that I thought I would get dehydrated from all the water loss. I cried at any moment I could get alone and around people with whom I felt comfortable. When I see other couples holding hands, when I turn on sports, when I hear his name, when I dream of his touch, when I get another invitation to a wedding, I am jolted with a pain that knocks me off my feet for a bit. It’s an empty hole in my body that feels bottomless some days, and will never be filled.”
13 Cheater Cheater
Just before their wedding was to take place, this poor bride not only found out that her groom was an addict, but he also cheated on her repeatedly for the nine years they were together. She found out all of this just before their weddings — that's quite a load to bear. “Didn’t technically leave him at the altar, but ten days before the wedding, I found out he was sleeping with someone else. Took me two days to decide not to get married. Then over the next three weeks, I discovered he was an addict and had been seeing other people for the entire nine years we were together. Got real close to being stuck in that nightmare. I'm thankful every day that I didn’t go through with it.” Talk about dodging a bullet!
12 He Doesn’t Love Her
For this girl, she became really preoccupied planning her wedding and picking out items for her future dream life. She noticed that her husband-to-be was getting a little distant, but she thought it was just normal pre-wedding jitters. She was shocked when he told her he didn’t love her anymore and the wedding was canceled. “Not so long ago, I had my whole life planned out; wedding invites were mailed, future kids’ names were picked out. I even had monogrammed hand towels with my new last name on them. My fiancé, at the time, had been getting kind of distant, but I assumed it was just wedding jitters. Spoiler alert: it wasn’t. ‘I don’t love you anymore’ is all he told me — and just like that, my entire world came crashing down. I would find out later my best friend and would-be bridesmaid who needed a place to stay and was living with us was sleeping with him. They’re now publicly together, and I don’t talk to either of them.”
11 Having Second Thoughts
This bride literally left her man at the altar and as harsh as that is, she probably saved both of them from a lifetime of unhappiness. It’s best to end relationships before they become permanent if it’s truly not meant to be. But there are certainly better ways of doing it then leaving someone at the altar; it’s very cruel. “I left a man at the altar. I was in my dress and getting ready to go to the chapel when I realized I couldn’t. I froze. I didn’t love him as much as I craved the safety and security that being married would bring. I was fairly recently divorced and very young and scared. He eventually found a lovely woman and they are very happy together. I don’t think either of us would have had that with each other.”
10 A Hawaiian Beach Wedding
This girl was just about ready to walk down the aisle; she had the veil ready in her hair when her husband-to-be called it off. It’s a sad state of affairs and we feel so bad for this girl. She found out that her groom was emotional, so she went to go talk to him. She thought he was just experiencing pre-wedding jitters, but instead, he wanted to call things off. “I was an hour away from the wedding I’d always dreamed of — on a beach in Hawaii — with the man who was my best friend. He came into the room and said we needed to talk alone. He was crying. I assumed he was letting the emotion of the day get to him. Then he said it. ‘I don’t think I can do this.’ I couldn’t understand. I asked: ‘Are you joking?’ He shook his head. I stood there — with the veil already in my hair. This man who was supposed to be the love of my life was telling me he was calling off the wedding less than an hour before we were due on the beach. I didn’t even ask why. I told him to leave. While I’d been out that morning, he had taken all his clothes and passport. He’d actually left me.”
9 The Arranged Marriage
We can’t believe that arranged marriages are still going on these days, but if that’s not a reason to run screaming into the night, then we don’t know what is. This bride realized she just couldn’t go through with marrying a stranger and decided to leave. We really can’t blame her. “I backed out a week before the wedding. He had to leave the South Asian country where I lived, so our interactions were strictly over the phone. I spoke with him irregularly until the end of February and then I just couldn’t. It should have been a huge red flag to him that his fiancé hadn’t talked to him in 3 months. I didn’t have the courage to tell my folks, so I just waited to see if he would back out. He didn’t. And well, that’s when I told him that I wouldn’t be marrying him after the invites had gone out, and preparations were in full swing. I can’t tell what exactly turned me off about him. I do know the fake American accent absolutely killed it for me.”
8 The Happiest Day Of Her Life
This woman was shocked to hear her husband-to-be didn't want to marry her anymore. It’s a sad state of affairs. We feel terrible for anyone that gets left at the altar because it's absolutely heartbreaking. This bride felt like her life was crumbling around her when she wasn’t even aware that her man was unhappy. “It’s the happiest day of your life. And then, in a moment, it’s the worst day of your life. Just like that. He said, ‘I can’t do it.' You know that feeling you get when you get bad news? I was as low as a person could get. I can remember lying on that couch one day and thinking, you know what, how in the world did I get here? How did I get here?”
7 Writing Letters
No one should ever get married if they truly aren’t ready for it. This girl never got married, and at the end of the day, it was probably the best thing that ever happened to her. She made the decision to walk away because her husband-to-be never seemed that interested in marrying her in the first place. A woman gets married because she’s madly in love. If she doesn’t feel like her husband feels the same way, then it ruins everything. “I dated a guy for five years and things were going well enough. When we were both approaching 30, I really wanted to get married and start a family, but he felt he wasn’t ready. When he proposed, he said, “Well, I suppose we should get married next summer.” That’s it. When I later asked if he was going to get me a ring, he said, “Why? You already said yes.” The whole planning process was like pulling teeth. One night, I sat at the kitchen table, addressing all the wedding invitations by myself when he came in, picked one up and said, “huh, those look kind of cheap” and walked out. I cried, finished up addressing the letters, mailed them the next morning, and left him a few days later because I felt that I deserved someone who was excited to get married to me.”
6 Calling It Off
This woman’s groom called it off and said that he no longer loved her. How on Earth do these people get to the point of planning a wedding if one of them isn’t even in love anymore? Losing feelings rarely happens overnight, so why did he propose in the first place? We feel so bad because we can’t imagine what it would be like to be told your groom doesn’t want to marry you anymore. On top of that, she had to call all the guests and explain the situation. “Five days before the wedding, the unexpected happened. My fiancé and I sat down and he told me that he was not in love with me, did not want to marry me, or spend the rest of his life with me. I was in complete shock and had no idea what to think or do. I was numb. The next couple days were a blur of calling guests, canceling services, and figuring out our living arrangements.”
5 She Pictured Her Divorce
This woman could actually picture her future divorce and that’s how you know you shouldn’t get married. They had a long engagement in which she was able to see the kind of guy that she would really be marrying. Sometimes, that’s the good part about having a long engagement. She saw jealousy among other things and that was all she needed to know to get out. “First, he changed, big time. He became controlling, jealous, and seemed to really expect that we’d reenact his parents' wildly dysfunctional marriage. Repeated long talks about it didn’t change anything. There came a point where we were planning the wedding while I was realistically picturing myself divorced in 5 years. That was stupid, and I ended it. We’re both married to other people for over 25 years now, but he was bitter and mean the last time we ran into each other. I dodged such a bullet.”
4 The Groom’s Fault
Could you imagine getting ready for your big day, getting dressed, getting in the limo, and then arriving at the church only to find out that there is no wedding to take place on that day? It turns out, the groom was in charge of booking the church for the day, and since he had no intention of getting married, the church had no record of a wedding happening that day. It’s so cruel. “While guests are arriving at the church, they find the church locked and no one inside. Out from nowhere, the groundskeeper appeared and asked why the guests are there? They responded they were there for a wedding. The groundskeeper informs them no wedding was set to take place. After many phone calls, back and forth between my guests, the groundskeeper, and my potential groom, it was discovered that the groom never asked his pastor to officiate our wedding, nor did he book the church for the wedding. By that time, it seemed to me, and others, that he simply did not want to get married. I was devastated and humiliated beyond belief that I could have been left at the altar like that.”
3 He Thought He Was Jesus
Some stories are just so unbelievable, they can’t be made up. We can’t honestly believe that this is a true story because this confession is quite bizarre. What would you do if your groom started talking about being the savior of the world? It’s weird, to say the least, and this bride wasn’t waiting around to find out if he was for real. This story has a tragic ending. “I called off our wedding because he started reading the bible and believed he was the second coming of Jesus Christ. Not joking. This happened about seven years ago. Today is my first time really talking about it. I feel like I let him down. I should have done more to help him. He hung himself and I feel responsible.” This is a heavy confession.
2 The Worst Rejection
Being left at the altar has to be about the worst rejection that a girl could go through, right? We can’t imagine a more embarrassing situation to be in. We’re not sure why men and women alike decide that it’s the perfect time to end the relationship. It seems like the cruelest thing that you could do to someone that you were supposed to spend your life with. Yet, it happens more than we would like to admit. “I was left at the altar!!! How does a girl get over the worst rejection a girl can face? So much rejection, you feel like you just can’t handle it!! I mainly guess I want to give that sorry piece of you-know-what a piece of my mind and tell him how I feel. He won’t even speak to me and even went on ‘our honeymoon.’ We were supposed to go together!!!!! I feel so torn. One day I'm angry and I hate him, but then night creeps in and all I can think about his him. The fun things we did together. All those times we laughed and made love. I mean how can he just throw it all away like that? Doesn’t he care about me at all?”
1 Holocaust Survivors
This is yet another unbelievable story. Could you imagine being a part of a wedding ceremony and recognizing Nazi informants in the church pews? It would be traumatic, to say the least. It’s what happened to this bride’s grandmother and she ended up splitting up with the groom as the result of what her grandmother told her. “A wedding I was at was canceled mid-ceremony. The grandparents, all of whom were Holocaust survivors, and who had never met each other before, were to walk up the aisle. It was while she was halfway up the aisle that the bride’s grandmother got a good look at the groom’s grandfather – and started shrieking “Kapo! Kapo! Kapo!” while shaking and trying to run. Kapos, for those who are unaware, were prisoners in the Nazi concentration camps who received privileges from the SS guards and served as enforcers for them. The grandmother was taken out to calm down, and the grandfather was pretty shaken up, too. They decided to have the wedding another day, but the bride believed her grandmother, the groom believed his grandfather’s denials, and they ended up splitting up.”