15 Signs She's Totally Over You

“Don't take your love away from me! Don't you leave my heart in misery. If you go, then I'll be blue, 'cause breaking up is hard to do.” No kidding, right? Remember that song by Neil Sedaka? It’s an oldie, but a goodie. When it comes to breaking up, it’s not easy, especially for the person that didn’t want to break up in the first place. So, your girlfriend broke up with you. It sucks, but there is that window of opportunity of getting her back. It’s usually a small window, though, because once a girl is over a situation, it’s rare she goes back. Women tend to stay in a bad relationship longer than they should, but once they’re done, they are done. Hopefully, you can reach her before she decides she is totally over you.

There are usually signs that a girl will give you that let you know that she’s finished with you and won’t be riding your train anymore. They are a little subtler than when she finally tells you to buzz off. If you pick up on these signs, you probably won’t get to that point. These are clear indications that you should probably stop calling and sending her an invite to your holiday events. Check out these 15 signs that she is totally over you.


15 She’s Dating Someone Else

Well, duh! Seriously though, we might as well hit the most obvious one out first. But if you guys are really honest with yourselves, you will still keep trying to win her back even if she’s with someone else. Now if she has moved on to someone else, it doesn’t mean that she’s completely over you, this could be her rebound relationship. But it’s a pretty well-known fact that if you want to get over someone quickly, you should get under someone else. If she has been dating this person for a while, then it’s likely she doesn’t even think of you anymore. You wanted the truth! Now if she started dating someone immediately, she may just be using him to get over you. Either way, it’s not a good sign, so stop texting her.

14 She Doesn’t Respond To Your Messages


This is normal when two people break up for the first little while. If it’s the day after your breakup, then you’re likely not going to get a response either way. However, if it’s been a week or months and she hasn’t responded to your sweet messages, then chances are, she doesn’t want a thing to do with you. If you call multiple times a day and you don’t get a response, then that clearly is a bad sign. It works the same if she was messaging you right after the breakup and then suddenly her responses came less frequently before they completely stopped. If you hear from her less and less, than chances are she’s moving on from the idea of you two being together.

13 She’s Getting Pissed

When two people break up, it can be really hard to play nice afterward, especially if it was a bad breakup. If anything, all you want to do is spew hate at one another. But as time passes, those feelings tend to go away and everyone can be civil. However, if she’s still telling you to jump off a bridge when you text her, then chances are she’s not getting over anything and wants nothing to do with you. There may be a lot of hurt that still needs to be worked through. It’s going to be virtually impossible to win her back ,though, if she’s still hurt over what happened in the first place. If she’s lashing out at you, then chances are she’s using those harsh words to find a way to get over you. There’s no point in trying if she’s venomous.

12 She Blocks You


Well, seriously, there is no clearer sign in life then if your ex-girlfriend blocks you. If you ever want a sign that she is over you or if you should stop trying, then this is the one. If a woman changes her phone number or blocks you, then you can be sure she is officially done with you. She no longer wants to hear from you or get a text filled with love emojis. You won’t find a better sign then that. It’s best, at this point, to let her go because if you keep trying to contact her, she’s going to put you under the stalker category. It’s best to respect her privacy and start to find a way to move on yourself; it’s really the best thing you can do for yourself.

11 She Wants Her Stuff Back

This can be a confusing one because there are girls out there that will contact a guy about her “stuff” just so that she has a reason to communicate with him. Mostly though, it’s a sign that a girl is ready to move on. By getting her stuff back, it allows her to get beyond what the two of you had and get on with her life. She doesn’t want to have to think of you every time she misses her favorite sweater or that CD she lent you of her favorite band. So, if she calls you up out of the blue and asks you for her stuff back, avoid the drama and just give it to her. She may be trying to bury her feelings for you and doesn’t want to be constantly reminded of you.

10 She’s Tossing Your Belongings At You


In the same token as the previous sign, if she wants nothing to do with your stuff, then she’s going to have no problem handing your stuff over. When you're in a relationship, girls will covet your stuff. Seriously, how many sweatshirts have you lost over the years from girls? It’s because they love that reminder of you. They snuggle in close to the sweatshirt and think of you when they wear it. That changes, of course, when a girl is over you because she doesn’t want that reminder of you. Be thankful that you are getting your stuff back at all because there are a lot of girls that take satisfaction out of throwing out or burning stuff that once belonged to you. So, if she shows up with a box of your belongings, you can consider her officially over you.

9 She’s Taking You For Granted

When you first break up, there is always the chance that you can win the heart of your love back. That is unless you have cheated or done something else that’s downright unforgivable. If you find that you’ve been doing everything in your power to get her back and it seems like she could care less, then you probably better off giving up. If you are trying everything and get nothing for yourself, then you are bound to look stupid after a while. If she were still into you, then she wouldn’t make you struggle or ignore you. If she doesn’t seem to care, then it’s probably because she doesn’t. This would be a clear sign that she is over you. A girl that is still into you won’t take you for granted.


8 She Booted You Off Of Social Media


If a girl isn’t over you, then it’s likely she will still stalk you on social media. She would still want to know what you are up to and whether you have started dating someone else. It’s just something that us girls do; we like to keep tabs if we're not over the guy that we were dating. However, if she has kicked you off of all her social media pages, then you might as well throw in the towel. If she has no interest in keeping tabs on you, then you’re as good as dead to her. This is kind of the same as her giving you your stuff back; it symbolizes the fact that she’s done with you. She doesn’t want to be reminded of you, so she doesn’t want to see your posts or even random things popping up in her newsfeed. If she blocks you on those sites, it’s even worse.

7 She’s “Tired”

If you have been trying for weeks or months to get her attention and win her back and she looks at you and says, “I’m tired,” with a big sigh, then she’s totally over you. That’s her way of telling you that she is emotionally “done” with a situation. You have tried everything, said everything that you could to win her back and she’s not having any of it. She’s now tired of it all and she’s basically telling you to back off. If she is not interested in having a relationship with you any longer, then she’s not going to respond well to all your messages. If she breaks down and tells you she’s tired, then she is totally over you and it’s now your turn to move on. Stop trying to force something that is never going to happen.

6 Her Family Doesn’t Talk To You


Remember when you used to go out for a beer with her brother or how her mother used to hug you super hard when you came to visit? Well usually after a breakup, there is a grace period where the family will still say hello to you and be polite because they never know if you are going to get back together with your girl. If your ex-girlfriend has spoken with her family, though and told them that she has no intention of seeing you again or getting back together, then their behavior is bound to change toward you. If there is a chance for reconciliation, they would encourage it, but if they have grown cold toward you, it’s because your ex made it clear to them that is she totally over you. It’s best to accept that fact as soon as possible.

5 Her Feelings Are Gone

It’s one thing not to know how your ex feels about you any longer, but if she's made it perfectly clear to you that she no longer has any feelings for you, then you might as well accept that it’s over. There is no clearer sign then your ex telling you she no longer loves you. Now this also depends on how long you were together if she tells you this soon after your breakup, she’s probably lying, but if it’s been awhile, you can bet that it’s true. If she's lying, it’s because she wants to do whatever she can to get over you as quickly as possible. Either way, she’s not interested in getting back together. It’s best at this point to just move on and find someone new. There may be someone out there more suited for you.

4 She Moved


Well, you don’t get a clearer sign than this one that she is totally over you. Breakups can be a time of change. Some girls cut their hair, some girls decide on retail therapy, while other girls decide to move away for a fresh start. By moving away, she is cutting ties with you and her old life and that’s a huge sign that she’s totally over you. Now, there could be lots of reasons why she decided to move, maybe there is a better job in another city or maybe she just wants to move to a warmer city. Whatever her reasons are, the one clear point she is trying to make is that there is nothing left there between you to keep her there. She wants a fresh start and it doesn’t include you, so it’s time that you move on as well.

3 It’s Not You, It’s Her

“It’s not you, it’s me.” We’ve all probably heard that line at some point in our lives. This is how both men and women try to let us down easy. She wants you to get over it and move on and she’s basically giving you no other option. The thing is, if she gives you any other reason, you’re just going to try to convince her that you still belong together, but when she throws out this line, there isn’t really anywhere to go from there. She’s giving you a problem that you’re not going to be able to solve and she’s trying to let you down easy. The gist of it is, she does not want to ever get back together and she’s hoping to hell she never has to have the conversation again. Trust us, she’s totally over you.

2 She Doesn’t Flirt With You Anymore


Sometimes, after a breakup, there are moments where you run into that person again and there’s that damn chemistry still between you. You feel the vibe and you both start flirting with each other like old times, even if you never plan on getting back together again. It happens. If you’re at the point where you guys still chat or you manage to run into each other and that intimacy is gone, then that is a huge red flag that things are over. If the flirting that was once there between you is gone, then you have to accept the fact that she has moved on. She no longer sees you as a potential future partner, so she no longer has a reason to flirt with you. It’s painful when you see that gap between you, but when it’s time to move on, there isn’t much that can be done about it.

1 She Posts About New Love Interests

If you are still lucky enough to be on her social media, you may start to notice some changes in her life. If your ex still had feelings for you, she probably wouldn’t post about her new love life on social media, she would want to spare you the grisly details. So, if you do see your ex posting about her date, then you can assume that it’s the last nail in the coffin of your relationship. If she is making a public declaration that she is back on the market, then she is clearly not thinking about getting back together with you. She is making it a point for everyone to know that she is free and ready to mingle. If your ex-girlfriend is showing any of these signs, it’s time for you to realize that she is totally over you.


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