If you've ever been in a relationship, you know that while sometimes your significant other is amazing, sometimes they're pretty darn terrible. I've been in a long-term relationship for a while now, and while I know my boyfriend loves me, I also know that sometimes I annoy him to no end. I don't go out of my way to annoy him on purpose, though. However, many girlfriends and wives out there do, and little do they know, it really messes with a relationship. That's why a lot of husbands are looking for an outlet to vent about their wives and girlfriends, and many of them have shared a little of their stories on Whisper.
While many wives and girlfriends are upfront about trying to annoy their husbands and boyfriends on purpose, not too many are sharing that online, even anonymously, probably for fear of looking like terrible girlfriends and wives. However, many husbands are boyfriends are sharing stories of how their wives and girlfriends are doing everything from nagging them for no reason to showing really controlling behavior to being straight up hypocrites. Many boyfriends and husbands, despite how in love they are with their partners, are just totally fed up.
We found 15 of the most messed up confessions to show what men go through with their partners. And it might make you appreciate your own wife or girlfriend that much more, or at least realize she's not much better.
15 This Is Actually Kind Of Funny if You Have This Kind Of Relationship
This is actually not the worst thing a wife has ever done to her husband, but that being said, this could be incredibly annoying. If you have the kind of relationship where you can play pranks on your partner, this would actually be really funny! Being able to pull pranks on each other is a good sign of a couple that doesn't take themselves or their relationship too seriously. They know not to stress the things that aren't really important, and they especially know when to laugh. There's a time and a place for everything, but I could definitely see a couple out there laughing at this, especially in hindsight. I could also see a really mean-spirited person doing this to their husband, so tread lightly with this and don't do it unless you know your husband will laugh.
14 Excuses, Excuses
Many people choose to leave the workforce when they bring children into the world. However, a lot of those people will re-enter the workforce when they feel the time is right to do so. That being said, there are some people who get so used to not working that they would rather not work, despite their partner wanting them to go back. Living on one income can be really hard, especially when there are children in the picture, which is why a lot of families nowadays will have both parents working. When one person decides that they don't want to work for whatever reason, even though their partner wants them to, this doesn't just put a strain on the marriage, it can put a strain on the family's financial situation as well. On the other hand, if a parent really feels like they should be home and their partner is constantly pushing them to go back to work when they're not comfortable, that's a problem, too.
13 What Do You Want From Me, Lady?!
Okay, as a woman, I can sympathize with a woman's simultaneous need for affection and for space. However, when a woman goes on and on about how their partner is neglecting them, then yells at their partner for smothering them, I have to wonder what their actual goal is. Do they actually want their partner to spend more time with them, or do they just want something to complain about? I can't imagine how annoying this must be for the husbands and boyfriends dealing with this sort of behavior. Even when they're listening to everything their wives and girlfriends have to say, they have to listen between the lines to hear what they're actually saying so they don't do anything that will upset them for no reason.
12 So What Am I Supposed To Do, Then?
This is one of the most annoying things that can happen in an everyday situation. Men out there, I'm sure you've had your wife or girlfriend nag at you to do something. It's annoying, but you can sympathize or empathize with the situation because, after all, you were supposed to do the thing she wants you to do and you didn't do it. However, what happens when you actually get up to go and do that thing? She just complains again! It's really weird, and it's impossible to figure out just what the woman in your life is thinking. Did she want you to do the thing? If she kept saying to do it and didn't want you to, why did she tell you to do it? You might find yourself thinking about this way longer than is strictly healthy.
11 Well, She's Not Invited To My Book Club, Then
Full disclosure: I'm in a long-term relationship with someone with whom I don't share a ton of hobbies. This is totally normal and I'm sure most couples are this way. We have many things in common but we don't really spend our independent time in the same way, and that's okay. However, we both make the effort to understand each other's hobbies and watch and read the things that the other likes in an effort to better understand each other. Again, this is totally normal behavior that most couples probably do. On the flip side, there are women out there who want their husbands or boyfriends to be into everything they're into and refuse to even try anything that the men in their lives are into. This is more than a little annoying and can even breed some resentment.
10 Double Standard, Much?!
First, let me say that the only reason anyone should be commenting on anyone's weight is if the person is asking for an opinion. You shouldn't comment on someone's weight or body otherwise because it can be incredibly hurtful and totally unnecessary. Chances are you're not that person's doctor, so you shouldn't comment on that because you don't know the details of their health. That being said, it is really hypocritical to act like your partner should lose weight when you have a few pounds on you yourself. Sure, you can make weight loss something you do as a couple, together, but you shouldn't nag anyone to eat a certain way when you're not willing to do the same.
9 I'm Pretty Sure This Is Less Annoying And More Controlling...
Honestly, if your partner, regardless of their gender, is doing anything like this, it might be time to rethink the relationship. Telling someone they're crazy because they're having legitimate feelings about your behavior is called gaslighting, and it's one of the most insidiously abusive things to do to another person. Gaslighting is when you try to overwrite someone else's reality so they think what you want them to think. This can lead someone to feel like they need to walk on eggshells around you for fear of making you angry, even if you're the one doing things wrong and not them. This particular girlfriend doing this to her boyfriend shows that she doesn't want to be held accountable for her own actions, so she makes her boyfriend feel like he's the problem. This isn't just annoying, it's outright dangerous behavior.
8 Ah, The Sweet Smell Of Hypocrisy in The Evening
Now, I don't know what the Boiling Crab is, but we can assume that it's a really expensive restaurant. This man's wife is apparently nagging him about spending too much money on things that they don't need, but she's doing it between reminders that she's going to spend a ton of money on something she doesn't need. To make matters worse, she's doing it by going to an event that her husband doesn't appear to be invited to! This is grade-A annoying behavior, and this wife totally knows what she's doing. Couples break up most often over financial issues, so it's not really hard to see this couple and other couples like them totally fall apart over money. That's why it's so important not to be petty about issues like this because that can spill over into the rest of the relationship.
7 Well, If She Knew What She Was Getting Into...
Being an Army Wife is a unique lot in life, and honestly, I can't imagine what it's like to be one. It's an experience that only other military wives can really empathize with. That being said, the only other people who know what these wives go through are their Army husbands who regularly lay down their lives for their country. While it's very easy to sympathize with the women who feel like they're all alone in their marriage, running their households, and raising their children, it's also easy to see how frustrating it would be for their husbands to be constantly nagged and poked at about how they're not fulfilling their wives' needs.
6 I'm Not Made Of Money Here!
Financial issues are most often the death of marriages everywhere. Fifty percent of marriages end in divorce, and out of those divorces, 44-54 percent of couples said that money was the main cause of the divorce. This means that literally millions of couples are divorcing per year over money. That's why it's really bad to nag about money for no reason. If you feel like your husband should be making more money, to the point where you're constantly complaining about it, perhaps you should go out of your way to contribute financially to the household yourself. Complaining about money when you're in a good position to help with that is basically acting like you have no responsibility and it's the other person's job to take care of you when that's totally not the case.
5 Your Nagging Does The Opposite Of What You Want It To Do
Getting engaged is a major milestone for a couple. It's totally normal to want to get engaged, regardless of your gender. Believe it or not, I know some guys who are dying to get engaged just as much as some women do. That being said, nagging your boyfriend about getting engaged is basically the best way to push back your engagement. Going on and on about getting engaged just makes it seem like you're not in the relationship for the other person, but you're just in it to hit the major life milestone of marriage for the sake of it. This makes your partner, who wants to be with you for you and for no other reason, feel like you might not be the person for them. After all, if it was meant to be, you wouldn't feel the need to force it, would you? Regardless, this is one thing that girlfriends do that totally aggravates their boyfriends to the point of being detrimental to the relationship.
4 I Don't Care Whose Birthday It Is, I Just Want To Live My Life
Let's be real: you may like your girlfriend's friends. You might actually hang out with them and consider them friends of yours. Your girlfriend might feel the same about your friends. That being said, you would never stay up until the wee hours of the morning nagging your girlfriend to wish your bro a happy birthday. If you understand that simple truth, why can't your girlfriend get that you don't want to wish her friend a happy birthday in the dead of night? To make matters even worse, the man who made this confession doesn't even know this girlfriend's friend well enough to wish them a happy birthday at that hour to begin with! Girlfriends and wives out there, you might think that getting your husband or boyfriend to wish your friend a happy birthday is important, but it really isn't, in the grand scheme of things. At 3:30 AM, it's best to just leave everyone alone and go to sleep, letting the birthday wishes wait until a more reasonable hour.
3 Dump Her, That's What You Do!
Okay, if you have a woman in your life threatening to mess with her birth control and condoms because she wants kids, dump her as soon as humanly possible. Nothing is scarier than this, guys. Messing with birth control is a good marker that you're dealing with a reproductive abuser. We often think of reproductive abusers as men, but women are just as guilty of this, perhaps even more than we think. After all, how many stories have we heard of women trapping men into staying with them by either faking a pregnancy or actually becoming pregnant? Hopefully, the man who wrote this confession got out of this relationship without getting his girlfriend pregnant, because while he doesn't seem to know what to do here, the obvious answer is that he should totally leave this woman.
2 Maybe You Can Clean Up Your Own Messes?
Ah, the smell of hypocrisy in the morning. Honestly, it's actually pretty normal for two people in a relationship to have two different standards of what clean means to them. Maybe clean to you means a totally spotless house where nothing is out of place, while clean to your girlfriend is making sure there are no obvious messes, but still keeping the place looking like it's lived in. That's totally normal. What's not normal is acting like you have a high standard of cleanliness, but not actually working towards that yourself. You can't say you keep a clean house if you don't actually do any of the cleaning chores and make your husband or boyfriend do all the cleaning. That's insanely hypocritical and makes your partner feel like they're only around to keep your house clean. That's definitely enough to make them angry.
1 Revenge Is Never Sweet
This guy is single now because he did a dumb thing to retaliate against his girlfriend, who was going out of her way to nag at him for going fast on something that is designed to go fast. While what he did certainly wasn't okay, it's actually pretty easy to sympathize with him. After all, he wasn't doing anything wrong. His girlfriend was the one complaining about the jet ski, and I'm pretty sure he wouldn't have been annoyed enough to make her fly off of it if she wasn't the type to complain about everything, not just the jet ski. I'm actually pretty sure that there have been guys everywhere that have gone out of their way to get back at their wives or girlfriends in a petty way because of the things the women in their lives have said or done to them. It doesn't make it okay, but when they're going out of their way to annoy or anger you on purpose, it's hard not to feel like it's justified to do so.