One of the problems with romance is the fact that none of us really know whether or not we're getting it right, and it's not as if the media is teaching us properly either. We have to look inside, figure out whether or not what we’re doing in the world of love works well with our own ethics and morals. Sadly, this doesn’t always work, and there will always be the chance of somebody taking advantage of you, whether it’s because you’re insecure or because you just don’t know what you’re doing. Until we live in a world better than this one, there will always be those who are whipped.
We thought it’d be interesting to take a look at some confessions from men who have been whipped in the past or who have seen some of their friends end up in a situation where they’re whipped. Their insight into the concept can be fascinating and might even shine a light on a situation from your past or present. We have to warn you now that some of these might cut a little bit too close to home, but we hope that you can enjoy these confessions for what they really are.
Are you ready to take a look into the life of some of the most whipped men out there? Ready to have your romantic expectations bent and battered by reality? We know we are, so let’s get started.
15 Is This Man Whipped?
"It's subjective. I have a relationship where I love and respect my wife above all others, including my friends (and she does the same). Some of them call me "whipped" because of this. So be it, I guess."
Yeah, it seems like there are a lot of men out there who want to make fun of other men purely because they're with a woman that they treat with respect. There was an awful lot of talk about low self-esteem being thrown around on our journey through some of the darker parts of Reddit for this article, but we would argue that these angry men have exactly the same problem. If you can’t see a man loving a woman and treating her with respect without thinking he’s whipped, you’ve got a serious problem.
14 This Makes Us Sad
"She used to be my adorable sweetie pie. I'd do anything for this little treasure just because she'd be there and cute to death. That she wanted to date me was a shock, but it only marginally affected my urge to give her everything she'd want. I just didn't want her to confuse romantic love and being with someone who gives her stuff."
There are a lot of men out there who are just lonely and they want somebody to be a part of their life with them, which when you think about it, is really sad. We’ve all been left by someone who we didn’t want to leave us, but it’s not a real relationship if you have to bribe them to make sure they stick around. You’re a great human being and we can promise somebody else will come along!
13 An Adult Way Of Looking At It
"From my own personal experience and from observing others, it stems from being insecure and believing you won't find someone like her. I'm extremely thankful I outgrew that phase."
This is one of the more mature confessions we’ve got in this article and we like to think there’s some real truth to it. Whether we like to admit it, there was a time when we were all learners in the game of love and we will definitely have done some stuff we wish we hadn’t, including falling in love with someone that wasn’t right for us. You have to let those people go because there is definitely someone out there that suits you better. You don’t know that at the time, though. They’re the only one for you and nobody else could ever compete. Is it being whipped if you’re still learning?
12 You've Got To Laugh Or You'll Cry
"It's like The Wizard of Oz, except at the end, Dorothy eats Cowardly Lion's heart while the Tin Man is stuffed with mackerel and bundled onto a freighter. Nobody knows what happened to Scarecrow. Rumour has it, Dorothy consigned him to a slow demise in her farm's stables. Some say he wandered into the stables on his own, that he meant to."
We knew that we had to keep this one in because the whole article was getting a little bit too sad, really. We don’t want people thinking that we’re all about doom and gloom here because we’re not. Okay, have you got all of your laughter out of you now? No more? Good, because we’re about to dive right back into the depressing stuff.
11 They Should Grow Up
"Hollywood tells men to be that way. Also the pain of separation that they feel when they have a girlfriend that overreacts or takes arguments personally, so rather than get into arguments and go through the whole apology/self loathing bit, they just tuck back their balls and become whipped."
Mate, these men need to grow up as soon as possible if they want to have anything near a good love life. Seriously, why would they want to do what Hollywood has told them to do when it comes to women? Also, if they’re not willing to get involved in a bit of a fight with their nearest and dearest, then they need to start thinking about how they approach life. Sometimes, you’ve got to stand up for yourself and show the world that you won’t always do what you’re told by others.
10 Is This True?
"Some guys like it. Some guys are weak. It is what it is."
This entry may be short and simple but we actually think it’s one of the more interesting points made in the article, as it takes a look at what some men want from their women. Rather than judging a man for the situation they may be in, they argue there’s a chance that the man actually likes it. Are there actually men out there who like to be controlled by the woman in their life, not just in the bedroom, but outside of it as well? ! What do you guys think about this little theory?
9 Now We're Getting Into The Semantics Of It All
"Please realize that being 'whipped' is not the same thing as being 'abused'. You can be whipped and loved at the some time — at least I believe you can. As for why some guys like that, I think they enjoy not having to take on any responsibility by themselves. If you let your girlfriend dictate you, as long as she's not abusive, you have far less to worry about because you're not making the decisions. She makes the decisions, you carry them out. It's an easy, relaxing lifestyle, at least on an emotional level."
If there are any women reading this who are in a relationship like this, we think you should probably get out of it as soon as possible. Human beings need to learn how to look after themselves. If you keep doing it for your man, one day, he will do something stupid and you will have to be the one to pick up the pieces.
8 An Interesting Take
"Some of my guy friends are like this. But they are getting laid every night. So I'm questioning my lifestyle."
If you think you have to give up a certain level of dignity just to get laid, then you have a toxic mentality that you have to start changing as soon as possible. You don’t have to give up anything to get someone in bed, other than a certain level of vulnerability which, as a man, you should totally be alright doing. Think about how vulnerable the women are making themselves when they go home with a guy. There is somebody out there for everyone, someone who won’t expect you to lie down and take some dirt before giving you what you want, so don’t ever start thinking there isn’t.
7 Seriously? Are Men Like This?
"Because we have no choice, it's either have dignity or get laid. Folding to others is the easiest way to avoid conflict. Conflict is not something you want in a relationship."
It's sad to know some men actually think like this. We’re not saying we’ve had the easiest of romantic lives and it’s not as if we haven’t had our fair share of mistakes either, but this is so misguided, we don’t even know where to begin. There are so many beautiful people out there, people who have personalities that shine from their smiles when you meet them and get to know them. When conflict isn’t needed, you should avoid it at all costs, but you shouldn’t become somebody else’s doormat either if you ask us. You’ve got to find the right balance between both for a healthy relationship.
6 How Much Of It Is Your Past?
"Some guys are like that. Their upbringing has a lot to do with it as well. Say their mother was a very controlling woman or very 'dominating' and now their partner is controlling and dominating? Well, then they're probably not going to change much. My mother is a controlling woman but my fiancé, over the course of our relationship (which started at 15), has helped turn me into the man I am today, which is the exact opposite of what you're describing."
It’s scary to think how much of our lives in the present is being dictated by what our life once was in the past. So much of what we think and what we do is put in place by what has come before. We don’t like to think about it because it makes us feel like we have no control over anything.
5 One Relationship Can Break All Of Them
"There can be a couple reasons to become the verbal punching bag (for both men and women). Like most of the other posters, the major contributor is probably low self-esteem. I would say, the next most common reason would be because the person has not had a healthy give-and-take relationship before so they do not know how to establish one."
This one really starts to hit the nail on the head for us. We all have those friends who have had nothing but toxic relationships. Those are the people who continue to end up with people they shouldn’t be with or who don’t treat them right. If you wanted to, you could probably trace this right back to their first relationship, when they first started to learn that it was okay for somebody else not to treat them properly. It’s a real shame when you think about it.
4 Not A Fan Of This Guy...
"They are weak."
The amount of judgment in this one is just too much for us to stand if we're being honest. We need to stop talking about people like this if we want to make sure that men don’t keep finding themselves in this sort of position. The only way we can help them is if we start treating them with respect and teaching them this isn’t the only to find love. The more you call them weak or make fun of them for their situation, the more you start to make them think that they really are destined to be whipped for the rest of their life. Sure, they may need a little bit of tough love from time to time, but that doesn’t mean you’re allowed to openly insult them whenever you want. You treat a man like he’s weak and he’ll start believing it.
3 Lost Friend
"My best friend is whipped hard AF. His girlfriend was tripping and threatening to break up with him if he saw a movie with me, my girlfriend, and her friend."
His friend's girlfriend sounds like the jealous type, and while we feel bad for the guy, it's up to him to stand up to his girl if he wants to hang out with his friends. If he doesn't put an end to this behaviour now, then he has to put an end to the relationship before he loses all of his friends.
2 This Just Isn't True
"I got mad at my girlfriend because she did something that she gets mad at me for doing She ended up turning it around on me and now I'm the a**hole. I'm completely whipped."
Some women really know how to Jedi mind trick their man. It quite a talent. Although she might not be able to admit she's in the wrong in this situation, we're hoping she knows it deep down inside.
1 Might Be Some Truth To This
"Same reason people are addicted to junk food. They're slaves to desire, no self control, no self respect."
See, we think there might be some rather cynical truth to this one, but we don’t think that it only applies to men if we’re being honest. There are a lot of people out there who have been tricked into certain routines that aren’t good for them. Maybe the routine they’ve been tricked into is one that allows them to be taken advantage of by someone they think loves them. It’s really sad to think about and we’re sorry for ending with this final thought, but we think it’s one of the most insightful things on this list. There is a real truth to it. If you’re in this sort of situation yourself, we suggest you get out of it as soon as possible and find someone who truly cares about you.