Arranged marriages might be a very old and outdated concept, but they are still going strong. Maybe one day this practice will come to an end, but right now there are millions of people who are going through this strange custom. What’s the point of such a concept? The obvious answer is that it benefits not the actual people getting married, but their families. Think of it more of a financial arrangement, where both families benefit and everyone is happy. Well, maybe not the bride and groom… But they’re not really important, at least not in this scenario.
Of course, many arranged marriages turn out to be long-lasting, stable, and loving relationships. Let’s be honest, most marriages, whether they’re arranged or not, don’t actually turn out so well. That’s just the reality of the world we live in today. It’s actually very rare to get married to someone you love, as depressing as that sounds. In the case of arranged marriages, the families at least benefit in some way. But there are some arranged marriages that go terribly wrong, as you will soon find out. And some of the most shocking stories are up on Reddit for the world to see. So get ready for some of the craziest stories from arranged marriages you’ll ever read.
15. He Had An Arranged Marriage And Hated It
Sometimes, arranged marriages work out, but this definitely wasn’t the case. This particular arranged marriage didn’t go so well, because of the fact that this man’s wife spoke absolutely no English. It’s already hard to get to know someone you’ve never met before – someone who is now supposed to be your wife, no less – but to make matters even worse, she spoke absolutely no English whatsoever. What followed was a long and hard marriage, and eventually he ended up completely hating her:
“I was born over here to a Christian family from a small sect. My marriage was arranged and I (stupidly) consented. I hated her at first. My parents chose her on looks, and admittedly, she is very beautiful. But, they didn’t pick on any other criteria. My wife had never left her home region, spoke only her native tongue (which I speak like an 8 year old), and had been groomed for marriage since she was young. She couldn’t carry on a conversation. She hadn’t read a book in 10 years. She had no interests, she was just always present. I hated her. She knew it, too.”
14. She Was Forced Into An Arranged Marriage
While some of these stories about arranged marriages are funny and jovial, there’s definitely a dark side to this strange affair, and this story definitely illustrates that to the fullest extent. The worst part about arranged marriages is the complete lack of control. This woman tells a story where her parents actually physically restrained her and didn’t allow her to leave the country until she had married the man they had chosen for her. It’s a stunning and shocking tale of abuse:
“My marriage was sorta against my wishes. I just wanted to finish college first. In my community, girls get married between 18-21 and guys between 24-30. I was already 22 and my parents were freaking out. I agreed to engagement but not the wedding until I finished fifth year of dental college (I was in second year). I came home for Christmas vacation and my parents didn’t let me go back. Like, they physically restrained me. I threatened to tell my now-husband and his family that I was being forced to marry and for that I was beaten up badly. I never went back to college.”
13. They Forced Her To Marry A Drug Addict
Most people couldn’t imagine having their parents choose who they marry. Most of the time, your parents have very different tastes in men than you do. They’re just not looking for the same things. Most of the time, in arranged marriages, the decision is heavily influenced by money and the family that they are “marrying into.” But most of the time, parents choose someone that is at least an okay person. That wasn’t the case here, as this family actually married their daughter to a drug addict with serious mental problems:
“My grandparents threatened to cut all contact with my recently graduated mother unless she entered into one. Everything was handled between the two sets of parents – she only met him twice before the wedding. What his parents didn’t tell her family was that he was a drug addict with severe mental issues. They also failed to disclose that his father made it a habit to sleep with the wives of his sons and the sons turned a blind eye to this because daddy was bankrolling their lavish lifestyles in exchange. She finally did manage to leave him when I was in high school – but not before he attacked her with a knife.”
12. His Parents Had An Arranged Marriage In A Cult
Arranged marriages don’t always have to take place in faraway countries like India or the Middle East. They can happen right in your own hometown. There are many Christian groups that still engage in the practice, but that’s not exactly what happened here. This story comes from a son who found out that his parents’ marriage was arranged, and that it actually happened in one of those strange cults that popped up in America during the 1970s. It sounds pretty weird, and it’s no surprise the marriage didn’t really last:
“So my parents were an arranged marriage of sorts. It was the early 1970s and they were in a commune. I’ve grilled my mom a lot about the commune, and personally I think it was more of a cult. Anyway, it was the 70s and everyone was sleeping around. My mom and dad had been hooking up and hanging out a bit, when the cult leader decided he wanted to throw a big group wedding for the publicity. My parents were one of the couples to get married. My dad was gawky and awkward and not at all what my mom really liked. Dad just went along with whatever, too high to really care. They stayed married for 19 years until my mom just had enough. She finally asked my dad if he loved her, and he didn’t, really.”
11. The Wife Is Completely Unsatisfied
In any marriage, there’s always the risk of one partner being unsatisfied. Sometimes this is because one partner is not pulling their weight around the house. Sometimes it’s due to a lack of respect. But one of the most common sources of dissatisfaction revolved around what happens in the bedroom. That’s the case in this arranged marriage, and if you can believe it, the marriage is still going. The poor wife hasn’t been intimate for many years, and she’s starting to get seriously frustrated. She even admits that she will probably divorce him soon if he doesn’t get his act together:
“My husband was brought up in a home that made him feel inadequate. And therefore he lacks serious communication skills. We’ve tried counselling and now have her family involved in every aspect of our lives trying to help him at 31 years old to learn to communicate. I’m in a cold marriage where my husband is too afraid to tell me what he wants. We’ll likely divorce soon if nothing changes. We’re Indian. My parents had a love marriage and my two other sisters also have love marriages that are doing well.”
10. He Had An Arranged Marriage And Couldn’t Satisfy Her
Sometimes, a family is forced to jump into an arranged marriage. Financial reasons sometimes dictate that a family member must make a sacrifice and marry someone they didn’t actually choose. While this might seem crazy to us, it’s very common in other countries across the world. This particular story happened in Jordan, and the arranged marriage didn’t really go so well. The husband married a woman who did not want him, and this woman had been with other men in the past. While this might not have been such a big deal, it was pretty awkward when she told him to his face that the other guys were better lovers, and that he would never be able to satisfy her:
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