Most of the time, women want their men to be taller because it makes them feel secure and subtle, but where does that leave the shorter guys and the taller gals? Have no fear, there are some ladies who would actually give a shorter man a chance.
A lot of taller women scoff at the idea of dating shorter men. Why's that? Society has taught us that men are supposed to be taller than women. Also, there's a rather critical idea that men who are vertically challenged are less masculine. While there are some success stories of short men who go steady with tall women, there's no doubt that some awkwardness creeps into the relationship itself. Like women, men also battle insecurities—but they're just not very vocal about it and tend to live with silent, tormenting fears inside of them instead of venting about their pessimistic feelings to others.
When you see a couple walking on the street, you might assume that everything looks just fine, but no one is perfect. Everyone has their own flaws. A shorter man could feel really weird holding the hand of a taller woman and vice versa. These eerie feelings may never go away, but after checking out this list compiled of infamous comments made by anonymous Reddit users, you'll never see shorter guys in the same light again. Shorter guys may receive more negativity, which is bound to happen, as they have some awkward confessions to tell the whole world about.
Let's take a look at 15 of those awkward confessions.
15 "Too Tall" Isn't A Thing
A Reddit user who stands at 5'6" dished about his relationship with a female who is five inches taller than him (5'11").
He started off with complete honesty, saying, "Before I even say anything, let's first make sure we have a sound platform of thought. Don't tell her she shouldn't wear heels. Also, if she feels hesitant to wear heels and says something like, "I don't wanna wear heels because I'm too tall," tell her how beautiful she will look in them. If she genuinely doesn't like wearing heels then just be sensible in regards to how you talk about them. In essence, you want to make it a non-issue. Or better, a desirable thing."
He added, "Being that she's 5'11", she's most likely used to dating shorter guys. Make her feel beautiful and wanted. She'll love you for it :) If by chance the two of you get made fun of because of the height difference, don't internalize it so strongly. 99% of the time the person making fun of you is doing it because they think it's unusual. But not in a bad way. They're coming more form an "omg that's different!" frame of mind. If by chance (And in 25 years have never met such a person) you meet a genuine heightist, listen to the hilarity of their comments and laugh. Btw, a question like "how do you guys tolerate the height difference?" is not a heightist question. (at least directly) But something like, (The two of you should separate you're not meant for each other. It looks bad.) Is a whole different story. Also we've never been asked that question so don't worry about that."
At the end of the day, the main thing you want to establish in a relationship is the comfortable energy between the two of you. Both of you should be able to talk about anything on your minds. Absolute openness is the best ingredient for a successful relationship.
14 Slouching Is Unattractive
Slouching isn't only unattractive, it's also unhealthy. It causes one's shoulders to come forward, which likely will lead to headaches along with back, jaw and shoulder pains. Here's a guy who actually told his girl that she didn't have to slouch and admitted to her that she didn't need to wear heels, but she refused to listen to him. So yeah, advice can only be given, not taken.
A Reddit user wrote, "She was 5'10" and we didn't really have many issues. She slouched a lot in pictures and never wore heels around me even though I told her I didn't mind and actually liked her in heels. Holding hands was sometimes a tad awkward when walking down the street. I never really noticed any stares from people and didn't hear anything negative her friends said about me so it really was pretty good. Didn't work out for reasons unrelated to height in the end."
13 Girl Stands Up For Herself
Sometimes, women can stand up for themselves. After all, it's a woman's right to ensure their own emotional and physical safety, thanks to the feminists who have fought for women's rights in modern society.
A Reddit user wrote, "In high school I dated a girl a few inches taller than me. The biggest issue we faced was some people at first told her that it was weird for her to date a shorter guy. It was annoying that people would tell her not to date me simply because of that. It sucked that her friends would say that to her when we first went out but she got them to stop."
It was interesting how his girlfriend stood up for herself instead of waiting for him to do something. It's a good thing that she discovered a new realm of personal power though. She can teach her own daughters and granddaughters to stand up for themselves.
12 Side Dude
This man certainly told others how he really felt as a shorter man dating a taller woman. Unfortunately, alleged differences in power do exist, so he just had to go with the flow and you should do the same.
A Reddit user wrote, "As some others here have previously shared with us, people talking smack is a common one; some of an old gf's friends included, which I feel influenced the way she thought of the relationship/me as well. In the past relationships (with that, I mean three :P) I also got the feeling that I was kind of like a "temporary side b*tch" because of their thoughts on my height. However, I'm sure a big part of that suspicion has to do with my own self confidence! But other than that, as /u/BeachHouse4lyf said, I had also taken pride in breaking the norms as well, and in a way that did give confidence boosts at times!"
11 No Shame In Game
In response to a guy who brought up how his taller sister has been dumped a couple of times, a Reddit user responded, saying that he'd happily date the unlucky girl because he was sure that he had the confidence to make her happy. You might think that he's overly confident, but it's a feeling that every man should possess.
He continued, saying, "Tallest I've ever been with was 6'1. She'd like me a lot. I love the extra attention I get when dating noticeably taller women. Best. Conversation. Starter. Ever. Plus, rapport wise, you're already starting on a high ground with other people."
He added, "'He must be a really interesting guy to be with her.' Is what a lot of people will be passively thinking. My gf is 5'6. When she wears heels and gets around 5'9''+ we get a noticeable jump in attention and positive feedback when together. It's good stuff man :)"
10 Minor Issue
A Reddit user admitted to getting to know a taller girl, but an issue surfaced during their first dance as a couple. He probably wished he could stand on his own two feet like his father did, but he had to stand on his tippy toes-and even then, he was still unable to match the height of his lady love.
He went on to describe his issue, saying, "The only time I've ever had a problem with a girl being too tall was dancing with a 6'3" girl at a wedding. I didn't want to motorboat her because I had only just met her, so my neck barely made it through the song. My ideal partner would be within a couple inches of me either way, but based on that experience, I would be willing to try anything less than 9" difference."
Obviously, he learned something from the brief relationship.
9 Low Self Esteem
The mass media is one of the things that could be blamed for the stigma against short men. There's no way to deny that short men are often stigmatized in movies and TV shows. The same could be said for men who appear to be less desirable than most.
A Reddit user disclosed, "I'm struggling with this. I'm 30 and 5'8. My girlfriend is 18 and 5'9. I'm literally winning at life but somehow feel really emasculated. It's really upsetting me because she's absolutely wonderful and I feel awful that I can't seem to shake this feeling. It's making me act really insecure."
He added, "I guess it's mass media stereotyping. It kind of hit me hard because I have never really worried about my height before but now I'm really sensitive about it. My job has me meeting many people a day and I compare myself to everyone. It strongly influences my mood if someone is significantly taller than me."
8 Getting Even
Whoa there! Dating a tall woman isn't something that every short man can live with. However, this Reddit user went too far after apparently having really bad experiences with trying to hit on taller women that he ended up having a strong desire to get even and seek revenge on shallow females.
He admitted, "While I find tall women equally as attractive as short women, I've decided to automatically reject all tall women the same way most of them automatically reject all short men. So I will not date someone taller than me."
Sure, there are stereotypical females that think stereotypical thoughts in their minds, but there are also open-minded females that think open-minded thoughts for a more diverse outlook. Not all women are the same and it sounds like this man always goes for the wrong types of women. To be honest, he just needs to play the field instead of rejecting all tall women based on a stereotype.
7 Tall Girls Only
It's obvious that lot of women have a general preference for taller men. With a surefire blast of good luck, a woman can find that dreamy, tall guy she has been looking for-whether he's a basketball player, a male model or something of the like. While there's a sizable amount of short men who are hoping to meet tall women, it's not every day where you come across a short man who has a specific preference and only wants to date tall women. Here's a man on the short side who fancies the taller ladies out there.
A Reddit user wrote, "All two girls I've ever dated were taller than me. One was 5'8 and the other 5'10"
Props to him for bagging a couple of ladies out of his league. Although it's unclear how long he stayed with both of these ladies, it's still something to be proud of—especially in a world full of inequalities.
6 Leg Fetish
If you think you have a leg fetish, then your best option might be to introduce yourself to a tall girl and get to know her. It wouldn't hurt to try. If she's open to a shorter man, that's great! And if she scoffs at the idea of dating a shorter man, just ignore her shallowness. Life's too short to dwell on negativity. Just keep going because you only fail when you decide to give up.
A Reddit user wrote, "I'm 5'7". As a leg guy, I love tall girls. That being said, I might not approach you simply because literally every girl that I've approached that was more than an inch taller than me wouldn't give me the time of day. If a tall sexy girl came up to me, I'd be over the moon."
That being said, some men—especially the shorter ones—don't make the first move. It's not because they're not interested in a woman, they just don't want to deal with rejection.
5 Perfectly Fine
If you're in love with the woman you're with, you shouldn't be concerned about her height at all. Those who make fun of short men who are in relationships with tall women just don't understand the real definition of love. What's more important is that the personalities of both parties coincide together. At the end of the day, it's all about communication, respect and trust, not outer qualities like looks, height differences and material goods.
A Reddit user wrote, "I just asked out a girl who was 2 inches taller than me (I'm 5'4) and our kissing height is perfect. I just have to tip my head back. She hasn't even brought up the height difference at all. I'm perfectly fine with it."
Respect to this man for making the first move and asking out a girl who was a little bit taller than him. It's even better that he was able to kiss his new girlfriend without any issues.
4 Love Not Like
If you truly love a woman, you'll never get tired of her. Just like the previous entry, the inner qualities should come first and then the outer qualities. In this instance, a short man with an unknown height has a tall girlfriend and he's not embarrassed to hold her hand in public. He's an example of a "real" man who seems to be considerate and possesses good manners.
A Reddit user responded, "Love it. I don't choose partners based on height it's a nice bonus. I find height sexy on women. My current gf is around 5'10 and I'm the one pestering her to wear heels :) She hates them, unfortunately..thinks she's too tall :( ."
This girl is the guy's other half. Therefore, he wants her to feel confident about herself. Despite his persistence on the possibility of wearing heels, she continued to decline the suggestion, which is fairly normal among women who suffer from low self esteem. If all goes well, she'll eventually listen to her beau and take his advice.
3 Another One Bites The Dust
Forget the conventional expression "nice guys finish last." In this instance, short men finish last because the majority of women want tall men.
A Reddit user wrote, "I've attracted a bunch of tall women but they don't see me as a dating option. I'm in college now but I doubt things would change after. One can only hope, but reading stuff like this is destroying me."
Unfortunately, not all short men can find their perfect tall chick, but not all hope is gone. He shouldn't feel that way because life works in mysterious ways. Sometimes, you'll never know what's going to happen next. Just because he hasn't been considered as a dating option for taller women in his teenage years, it doesn't mean the same types of women will keep reappearing over and over again. He just has to meet the right woman. It only takes one to notice the positives about him.
2 One And Done
One bad experience can ruin a short man's thoughts on a tall woman. Just ask this guy, who clearly won't give tall women their time of day after a couple of unsatisfactory encounters in the bedroom.
A Reddit user wrote, "I take any beautiful girl. BUT I think I would avoid a girl over 5'8. Personal preference. BUT again, I have slept with 5'9 girls before :P"
Although everyone is more than welcome to have their own opinions, it's unnecessary to assume all tall women are the same just because of one (or a couple of) negative experiences from the past. Men don't appreciate it when women presume all of their male counterparts are the same, so what good are you going to do if you prematurely judge your female counterparts? Honestly, not much. Here's a word of advice: If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.
1 On The Fence
We've heard from plenty of people all over the country who have shared their thoughts on romantic relationships between a shorter man and taller woman. But this particular thought was graphic enough that we just had to put it at the top of our list!
A Reddit user confessed, "I once got a bj from a tall woman, she was maybe 5'11 or 6', it wasn't pleasant, She used her teeth. Im on the fence of dating tall women after that incident."
It's not a surprise that a short man would be on the fence with a tall woman after having a less than perfect s*xual encounter. S*x is an important aspect in a healthy relationship. Any guy would hate when their girl uses her teeth. It's not only going to ruin the heat of the moment, it's also going to hurt his ego. That's the truth and nothing but the truth.