If there is any moment in a man’s life when a woman would want to read his mind, it may be right before they are about to get intimate. Sex is an incredibly vulnerable part of life, and as a result, what your partner is thinking is probably something that is going to be close to the truth.
While what they are thinking is always going to depend on what is going on in their day, it can also give a lot of insight on how your partner is feeling about your relationship as a whole. Do you notice your partner looking at the clock to make sure that the session ends in time for his television show? When he looks at you and you’re naked, is he thinking how sexy you are, or is he thinking about all the places he would rather be? It doesn’t take a genius to look at those statements and know which belong to a relationship that has a healthy sex life.
No matter what they are thinking, you need to hope it is something positive because nobody deserves to be in a relationship in which they do not feel desired or sexually satisfied. Similarly, if you are wondering what your partner is really thinking before the act, ask him. If your partner is not able to give you an open and honest answer, then there are much bigger problems to worry about. Just in case your partner may be a bit of a non-talker, here are 10 things that I can almost guarantee every guy has thought of at least once before having sex.
9 She’s So Attractive
If you are not thinking that your partner is attractive right before you have sex with her, what are you thinking? I don’t know if you know this but being sexually attracted to your partner is a pretty fundamental part of having a healthy sex life. If instead you are rolling your eyes or thinking "not again," then you really need to get yourself out of that bed and into a relationship where you can both have your needs met. That being said, if you are thinking your partner is attractive, tell her. Nothing will improve a session more than feeling attractive and confident.
8 I Hope I Last
Let’s be honest here, if you are thinking how attractive your partner is, the next thought may be about how you hope you can last a while. Nobody’s ideal session is over in 35 seconds, and the ideal type of pillow talk after is not typically apologies about how you aren’t too sure what happened. If you do end up finishing a little early?Hopefully you are with a partner that is understanding of this, and still makes you feel loved and supported. Part of why you finished early may be because you find your partner incredibly attractive so there may be a way to spin it into a compliment.
8. What Position?
This can largely depend on your mood. Every angle or position may offer a different advantage (or disadvantage) to you and your partner. Are you feeling romantic? Something where you can look at your partner may be ideal, as opposed to anything where they may be facing away. How you are feeling in terms of energy may also impact the position you choose. Did you just spend two hours at the gym? You might not have the energy to physically pick up your partner but it doesn’t mean you can’t have a softer session.
7 Did I Shower Today?
I don’t know about you, but one of my biggest turn-ons is when my partner exercises proper hygiene. As a result, if your partner and you are about to get intimate, you may be thinking about your own cleanliness. You may be a lot less willing to engage in certain activities if you know there is a higher chance for stench than on a day where you could be more prepared. Similarly, you may also be thinking about whether your partner has showered or what activities they may be up for.
6 What Does She Like?
If you are not a selfish lover, one of the things that you may be thinking before getting intimate is what your partner’s preferences are. Everyone is going to like different things, and you can hope that as your sexual relationship with your partner grows, so does your level of communication with one another. This may make what she likes feel like second nature, but it is also important to note that it is never a bad thing to ask your partner what they are feeling up for, which leads to…
5 Does She Want To Experiment?
The longer you are with a partner, the more comfortable you may feel with opening things up in the bedroom. This doesn’t have to be anything too risqué but even small elements like adding a blindfold can go a long way towards increasing the level of intimacy. As a result, if you are with a partner who you know has been up for that in the past, you may be thinking on if you too are up for that during this particular session. Not every session needs to include handcuffs but if you’re thinking it before a session, maybe you can suggest it to your partner and see how that works out for you. It’s important to never just assume things, especially more advanced things, and communication is the sexiest tool of all. If you are looking for surefire ways to spice things up in the bedroom, check out this list on that very topic.
4 I Can’t Wait To Be With Her
Sometimes anticipation is the sexiest feeling of all. If you are talking to your partner throughout the day, saying that you want to be with them, this can be a huge way to increase the overall intrigue for when they finally arrive. As a result, when your partner is finally standing in front of you, the only thing that may be on your mind is how you absolutely cannot wait to be with them. It can be a sweet thing, an intense thing, but no matter what, if it is something you are thinking, it can hopefully lead to your partner feeling desired.
3 I Am So Lucky
I genuinely feel like I am the luckiest person in the entire world because my girlfriend is my girlfriend and nobody else's. If you are with someone that you love and care for, you may genuinely just think about how lucky you are before a session. Sex can be a huge thing for a relationship and can be an incredibly vulnerable experience. With the right person, they take that vulnerable experience and are able to turn it into a safe space where you feel desired and appreciated. One of the best things your partner can be thinking before being with you is how lucky they feel.
2 Do I Have Protection?
Safe sex is not overrated and one of the thoughts that needs to occur between you and your partner before any session is the availability of proper protection. If you are sleeping with someone who you may not know particularly well, you also need to make sure you are using external protection because STIs are not a very good time. If you are with a partner and they are trying to argue with you on the level of protection being used, be smart and quickly remove yourself from that situation.
1 How Much Time Do We Have?
Sometimes, you need to look at the clock and make a realistic assessment of your timeline. Do you have to go to work in 20 minutes? Well, I’m sorry, but now might not be the time to bust out the handcuffs and paddle. Are you both really sleepy and you don’t necessarily want to spend 20 minutes on foreplay? That’s super valid and something that can be stated! Did you just order pizza and it’s not going to be there for an hour? Well, sit back because you boys are about to see something real special! Maybe, you're already in the kitchen but you were overrun by passion that you had to have it then and there! No matter what started it, time is normally a factor.
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