First dates are a scary thing for many singles. Whether it is a blind date, a tinder date or a date with that guy from your gym, first dates are intimidating. Many women think that it is only an intense process for us, however guys feel the pressure as well. There are certain things we all wish we could do on a first date without scaring the person off. For women it can be things like checking their bank statements or getting a sneak peak of their apartment before deciding whether or not they should enter. The difference between men and women when it comes to dating is that women have been open about their craziness for years. Women know that they are nosy and paranoid and most women have an intense need to know every little thing. However, when dealing with men, they like to play it cool and act as if they are completely in control, when in reality they are even bigger emotional train wrecks than women are.
There are a few things that every man has thought of doing on a first date, but only a few men have actually acted on these thoughts. The following are ten things that men secretly want to do on a first date. Ladies, you should know how much self control men endure when out on a first date. Sorry for revealing your secrets, boys, but somebody had to do it.
10 See what you look like with no makeup.
Girls are lucky when it comes to looking good because there are so many things a girl can do to go from a 7 to a 9. Hair extensions, manicures and cute outfits are good, however; the real go-to for every woman on a first date is makeup. Women wear makeup to look better, which can be deceiving for men. Between foundation, bronzer and mascara, a girl can look like a completely different person in an instant and men are always curious as to what their date must look like without makeup. Although no guy would ask a girl to take off her makeup on a first date, many men have organized dates where the girl won't be wearing makeup like a spa day or a beach date, forcing a girl to tone it down on the product.
9 Find out who you are friends with.
There is an old saying, “show me who your friends are and I'll show you who you are,” which men seem to go by when choosing a mate. Men are often curious about your circle of friends because it is often times very telling of a person. Men also want to know if they have slept with any of your friends before they get too serious about you. As many of us know, men are proud beings who strive to remain cool and not seem eager, however most men are dying to check how many mutual friends they share on Facebook in order to give them an idea who they are friends with.
8 Ask you why your last relationship ended.
Ah, the age old question “why are you still single?” Relationships are complicated and women are complicated, so when a relationship goes south, it is no surprise that there is bitterness involved. Asking a woman why her last relationship ended is like shooting yourself in the foot, it is just stupid. A question this personal and possibly painful should wait until a deeper connection is formed between the two of you. When this question is asked on a first date, women tend to bend the truth a little bit because they don’t want to look “crazy” right off the bat. Women need to feel comfortable in order to develop trust and be able to talk about their past heartaches with you.
7 Get wasted.
This is by far one of the worst things a man can do on a first date and somehow every man is tempted to do so. It is normal to have the first date jitters and drinking a glass or two of wine throughout the evening is completely acceptable. However, when a man gets too drunk on a first date it is a huge turn off for women. To us it means one of the following; either we are so mind-numbingly boring and they think alcohol will make us more interesting or more attractive, or they are alcoholics, none of which makes a lady want to go out on a second date.
6 Text you right after.
Most of us think it is only girls who freak out when it comes to texting too soon, what we don’t know is that men go through the exact same thing as us. A man usually knows after the first date if a girl is worth pursuing and a mistake which most men often make is not showing their interest. A lot of men want to text a girl right after the date is over, however they don’t because they fear they may look desperate. Men need to start showing women that they are interested from the very start.
5 Check your browser history.
There is a lot you can find out about a person by checking their browser history, especially before a first date. Any woman who has googled your name and net worth is not the kind of girl you want to be with. Today, relationships have little to no element of surprise. Women are extremely nosy beings and they lack self-control when it comes to letting time take its course. Men know this about women, and on a first date would love to check and see what a woman was recently looking up. Men think this will help them gain knowledge and control when it comes to the date.
4 Have you pay.
It is customary for men to pay, especially on a first date, however, what a lot of men secretly want to do is have the girl pay, especially when they see the date is not going anywhere. However, most men are raised with the idea that women shouldn’t pay, especially not on a first date. I think most men have thought about splitting the bill at the end of the night or even having her pay completely, but not many men actually go through with it. Just one word of advice, boys, if you have any intention of seeing her again, just pick up the tab, because most women won't go out with a guy after he made her pay on their first date.
3 Stare at/compliment your boobs.
Boobs are tricky when it comes to a first date. It comes as no surprise that men love breasts; big or small, straight men are naturally drawn to them. It is not so shocking to know that men would love to both stare and compliment a woman's breast on the first date. To men, they see it as what it is, a compliment, however to women, they see it as a sexist comment and view the man as only wanting one thing. Men would love to comment on their date's boobs at first glance, but thankfully most men control themselves to at least date number three.
2 Ask how many guys you’ve been with.
Ah, the magic number that all single people have obtained, whether it is zero or thirty, women are strangely secretive about their number. Their secrecy makes a man’s curiosity grow. A lot of men have double standards when it comes to women and the number of partners they have had which is why most women keep a low profile in regards to how many men they have slept with. Most men want to know what they are getting into from the very start of a relationship and a lot of men get turned off by a girl who has slept with what they consider too many guys. My advice is never to discuss your number, even with a girlfriend, there are some things in a relationship that should be left a secret.
1 Straight up ask if they are going to be getting lucky.
Lets be honest, most men take women out with the hopes of getting into their pants at the end of the night. What most men would never dare to ask is if their date is actually going to put out. Men like to play it cool and “see where the night takes them,” however in the back of every man's mind on every first date is whether or not the lady sitting across from them is going to put out. I'd like to think most men are genuinely gentlemen and that they would never straight up ask something like that, however you would be surprised what some women have experienced on first dates.