It's a position that the majority of men will be put into at least once in their lives as they search for the lady who is just right for them, and while you may see many guys who can just meet a girl and naturally have a straightforward romance, it might not be that easy for others.
Whoever you are, whether you'd like some pointers on finding your significant other or you're just bored at work and curious to see if this internet hooplah actually makes sense, it's important to know that there are certain expectations for a man's character when women are deciding whether to date or move on. It might sound harsh but realistically, it's important for both men and women to be critical of their partner's personalities since, you know, you wouldn't want to just give a significant portion of your life to the wrong person. These are the things that you can work on to make yourself more appealing, if it's relevant for you then I wish you the best of luck.
10 A Lack Of Confidence
Having a lack of self-confidence tends to show itself in many ways, most of which can be visible to people around you. First of all, the confident person will tend to be open and easily approachable, more outspoken in terms of what they really want and will have the mental and emotional strength to get through difficult situations, all of which are big pluses in a relationship.
Compare these traits with that of someone who isn't very confident, where they may be more introverted and difficult to get to know to start with, less direct and outspoken when talking about what it is they want and may quit on things more often from a lack of believing they can overcome something.
It's one thing to show that you're into her and a completely different thing to show you're obsessed with her, but sometimes it can be difficult to tell love and obsession apart when caught in the moment.
8 You're Not Very Good At Relaxing
This is one of the biggest problems many men face while trying to get to know a girl they like: They get so nervous that the atmosphere is ruined. Being relaxed can show itself in both the way you talk and your body language, and can drastically change how comfortable she feels around you.
In the beginning when you are getting to know each other, you will find that with a relaxed mind frame your conversations will flow a lot better so you can build a stronger connection and also laugh and play a lot easier. If you were to approach the same situation with an anxious, nervous mind frame then she may see this in your body language and become nervous herself, making it difficult for the conversation to flow or for her to even relax and feel comfortable in your presence.
7 Over-Sexualising Her
If in your mind, the girl of your dreams is just someone with a nice butt and tight body then I'm sorry but you're going to have a tough time finding anything else but a physical relationship, let alone the girl of your dreams.
6 A Lack Of Empathy And Understanding
Now this one is something EVERYONE will have trouble with at some point. It can be difficult to think of things someone else would enjoy doing if you can't relate to that particular activity, but we as men need to realize that maybe she won't want to do guy things all of the time and won't react to certain things the same way as one of your friends.
5 Bad Hygiene
This one might seem obvious enough but it's little hygienic things that can make or break first impressions with a girl. So you shower every day and brush your teeth? That's good, but what if I told it's just as important to look clean than to actually be clean?
4 You're Too Boring
There is the idea that girls don't like nice guys and it's been around for a while now, but perhaps this needs refining. There are many attractive nice guys out there who have no trouble with women, it is more likely that girls don't like BORING guys.
3 Always Looking For Someone Better
That spark in a relationship between two people is like the glue that holds them together, and is often created by making the other person feel like their worth a million bucks, like when a guy can make a girl feel like she's the only women in the world for him.
2 Trying Way Too Hard
Every relationship requires some hard work and dedication, but it is possible to also work TOO hard on your relationship and doom it. One sign described by a Michigan Clinical Psychologist is when you reach the point when you feel more unhappy than happy, or when you're spending more time fixing the relationship than enjoying it.
You wouldn't think that something like anxiety could affect your ability to love and connect to someone else, but even in less extreme cases it can affect your behavior just enough to alter relationships for the worst.
Anxiety is that feeling of constant worrying, focusing on your fears, everything that could go wrong in the future and in general, things that are out of your control. In more extreme cases, it causes the affected person to become self absorbed, depressive and unable to cope with a trusting relationship. Even in small doses, if you're preoccupied with worrying about how the date is going, what she thinks of you, or whether she's bored or not, then you're not focusing on having fun and enjoying her company. Watch out for this behavior and if it becomes problematic, seek professional help because you don't need this getting in the way of being happy.
Sources: askmen.com, elitedaily.com, psychcentral.com, yourtango.com, livescience.com, cnn.com
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