If it seems as if everyone has tried online dating, you're not alone. According to a study done by Pew Research Center, 11% of American adults—and 38% of those who are currently “single and looking” for a partner—have used online dating sites or mobile dating apps. The general public's attitudes towards online dating have become much more positive in recent years, and now with social networking sites playing a prominent role when it comes to navigating and assisting romantic relationships, online dating usage is at an all-time high.
To gain a little insight into what makes people tick when it comes to online dating, here are ten secrets to the phenomenon and why you aren't truly picking your “perfect match.”
10 Your Profile Isn't What It Should Be
A professor of Women's Health and Clinical Epidemiology at the Queen May University of London School of Medicine and Dentistry, named Khalid Khan, poured through 86 studies to find out why he wasn't lucky in love and found out that his profile on dating sites was one of the main problems.
9 Being Selective
8 Trust Your Gut
7 Matching Algorithms Don't Work
6 Market Yourself
5 Sending Messages
4 To Get More Dates
3 Lies, Lies and More Lies
What all these online dating sites have in common is that the most crucial information is not collected:
A- Individual characteristics of each partner which include personalities, attitudes and if each partner is relatively stable. B- Quality of interactions – This can only be measured in person, not online. This includes how well the couple will communicate and also support each other. C- Unforeseen Circumstances: This includes stress, financial problems, cultures, family issues, etc.
2 Break The System
Two Words: Choice Overload. This is where people undermine their ability to make a good, well thought out decision due to having way too many options available to them. This is why getting more dates online, starts to get complicated, you wonder about all the other possible candidates.
1 Check Your Expectations At The Door
Don't start online dating thinking that you are about to meet your soul-mate and that you will fall head over heels at first sight. Stay curious as to who people are and get to know each person you date, but don't make a commitment to just one person too quickly. Dating should be fun and flirty. You have to remind yourself that you have nothing to lose by meeting someone for an hour in a public place and having a conversation. That's how you learn who you are attracted to and who you aren't. Don't start stressing about it, thinking, “Will he/she like me?” Or worse yet, avoid going out on dates because you fear rejection.
Sources: abcnews.go.com, cbsnews.com, yourtango.com, self.com
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