While most guys are decent enough to take no for an answer, especially with a really good reason, some guys simply never learn. We can completely accept that a woman is a lesbian, understand we will never date her, and wish her the best of luck in her lesbian relationships…but it doesn’t mean every guy is going to completely stop thinking about her, either. The id cannot be contained, and when the average heterosexual guy closes his eyes and lets his mind wander, beautiful women tend to make their way into his thoughts, and it would be downright homophobic to ignore her beauty because she’s gay, so guys keep fantasizing anyway.
Most of these women are in committed relationships with other women, and we’re happy for them. We understand they can’t be changed, and even if they were single, we have absolutely no shot with them whatsoever. But if you’re like us, this knowledge isn’t going to stop you from blasting “Pink Triangle” by Weezer while reading our list of the hottest lesbians most guys still fantasize about.
20. Michelle Rodriguez
Michelle Rodriguez burst onto the scene with a starring role in Girlfight that quickly led to an iconic role as Letty Ortiz in The Fast and the Furious. She has gone on to play a variety of ass-kicking women in action films such as Resident Evil and Machete. She also made several appearances on Lost. She reportedly has dated both Vin Diesel and Olivier Martinez and identifies as bisexual, but most people tend to stereotype her based on the roles she plays and see her as a tough, tomboyish lesbian. Her latest film was Furious 7.
19. Tila Tequila
Tila Tequila is a pretty complicated person, for pretty confusing reasons. Her “fame” mostly seems to exist because she says it does, as she still boasts about having been the most popular user on MySpace. Regardless, she’s also managed to get work as a model and musician along with making notable appearances on reality shows. She starred on A Shot at Love with Tila Tequila, famous for allowing both male and female contestants a chance at the bisexual star. After the show ended with a male winner, she announced she was a lesbian, ruining the concept altogether. She has suffered a series of drug problems, once apparently getting so high she sympathized with Hitler. Honestly, that’s way more of a potential deal-breaker than the whole lesbian thing.
18. Ruby Rose
Ruby Rose has been well known in her native Australia for a few years, acting as a DJ and an actress. She rose to fame as an MTV VJ and model, co-hosting Australia’s Next Top Model. Rose has recently had her profile greatly raised by starring in the third season of Orange Is The New Black on Netflix. She believes in gender fluidity, and identifies as a man seemingly more than a woman, which might bother some guys. However, given the nature of the list, we really can’t even comment on the fluidity of sexuality. Rose is slotted to co-star in a number of action sequels in 2017.
17. Maria Bello
Maria Bello has been a television and film actress since the early 1990’s. Minor roles on The Commish and Due South eventually lead to a bigger role on ER, which in turn has lead to a continued film career. Bello gave birth to a son conceived with former boyfriend Dan McDermott, but has since publicly came out as gay, writing an article revealing her sexuality for The New York Times in 2013. She published a book titled Love Is Love: Questioning the Labels We Give Ourselves, which we feel works as a solid alternative title for this very list.
16. Cara Delevingne
Cara Delevingne began modeling when she was only 10 years old, and became an international star shortly after her 18th birthday. She has modeled for Chanel, Burberry, Dolce & Gabbana, and Marchesa along with nearly every other major name in fashion. After developing psoriasis on her skin, Delevingne switched to acting, performing in a variety of British films, including a starring role in Paper Towns. Delevingne is also an accomplished designer in her own right, and she records dance music in her spare time. She is currently in a relationship with musician Annie Clark.
15. Jessica Clark
Jessica Clark started her career as a model in London when she was 16. After moving to America and taking acting classes, she decided to become an actress. She had a lead role in the lesbian-centered romantic drama A Perfect Ending and has since appeared on True Blood as a vampire goddess. Clark was married to fitness professional Lacey Stone for two years, but they were divorced in 2012. She is one of the co-hosts of Lesbian Love Vlog on afterellen.com. Her latest film was Pocket Listing, released in 2015.
14. Aubrey O’Day
Aubrey O’Day was one of the singers in Danity Kane and is also an accomplished songwriter, model and actress. She rose to fame in 2004 as the breakout star of P. Diddy’s Making the Band 3. O’Day has made a variety of personal appearances on television, supporting Barack Obama’s election as President and advocating the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network while a contestant on Celebrity Apprentice. She identifies as bisexual, but most guys probably realize we don’t have much of a chance with a girl who looks like her regardless of where on the spectrum she falls. O’Day is now a member of the band Dumblonde with fellow ex-Danity Kane singer Shannon Bex.
13. Kate McKinnon
Kate McKinnon is an actress and comedian currently acting as a cast member on Saturday Night Live. She has twice been nominated for an Emmy for Outstanding Supporting Actress in Comedy Series, an extremely rare honor amongst over one hundred former SNL cast mates. She came to fame as a writer and performer on The Big Gay Sketch Show and has remained a standup star throughout her years on SNL. Not only is she pretty hot, but she’s hilarious, too, doubly disappointing the heterosexual guys who hoped they had a chance. McKinnon is one of the stars of the upcoming female reboot of Ghostbusters.
12. Michelle Bonilla
Michelle C. Bonilla rose to fame with her appearances on ER. Prior to appearing on the medical procedural drama, she appeared on a few episodes of Dr. Quinn, Medicine Woman. Throughout her entire career, Bonilla has presented herself as a strong lesbian Latina, never shying away from who she is. No one likes ending up in an ambulance, but most guys wouldn’t mind so much if they saw Bonilla behind the wheel. Bonilla also starred in and produced the short film Slip Away, based on her experiences as an open lesbian.
11. Sarah Paulson
Sarah Paulson was primarily a stage actress, wowing Broadway with emotional performances for years before making the switch to Hollywood and doing the same on the screen. Eventually she found the acting job of her lifetime, appearing on each season of American Horror Story as a different character. She dated actress Cherry Jones for five years before breaking up, and now is reported to be in a relationship with Holland Taylor. Not only do most guys have their gender preventing this relationship from taking off, but it would seem like we’re at a disadvantage if we aren’t several decades her senior, as well. Paulson was recently one of the stars of Carol.
10. Sara Gilbert
Maybe it’s just the ‘90’s kid in us, but who wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with Darlene Conner? In addition to starring on Roseanne as the coolest teenage girl of the ‘90’s, she is now the co-host and creator of The Talk as well as making occasional appearances on The Big Bang Theory. She briefly dated co-star Johnny Galecki before realizing she was a lesbian. She was married to producer Allison Adler for several years before divorcing her and marrying songwriter Linda Perry a few years later. We’d have been happy to settle for being the one in an awkward teenage relationship with her, even if it did mean later in life we’d become Leonard Hofstadter.
9. Brandy Clark
Brandy Clark just recently debuted as a musician on the country music scene, but she’s been gaining traction as a songwriter for years. She started as a frequent collaborator with Shane McAnally, an openly gay male singer. With McAnally and others, Clark penned a number of huge hits for artists including Miranda Lambert, Sheryl Crow, and The Band Perry. In late 2012, she digitally released a few songs of her own and released her first solo album in 2013. Her second album, Big Day in a Small Town, is slated for release later this year. She says her songs relate to all people, and not just gay people, so hopefully we’ll at least get to have a song written about us even if the real relationship will never come to be.
8. Ellen Page
Ellen Page began her career appearing in Canadian comedy series, including Trailer Park Boys. She would break out in America in a huge way following her starring roles in Juno and Hard Candy. Page has gone on to star in a variety of critically acclaimed and popular films, as well as becoming known for her outspoken personal views and fearlessness in regards to her personal persona. In addition to coming out as gay in 2014, Page is also a practicing vegan. Somehow, we’d still think it was absolutely wizard of her to call us on her hamburger phone.
7. Catherine McNeil
Catherine McNeil has been modeling since she was 14, winning a contest hosted by the Australian Girlfriend magazine. Since she turned 18 in 2007, she has been a model for extremely high profile fashion designers including Versace, Christian Dior and Givenchy. In addition to her modeling career that continues to this day, she was the first model hired as the face of FashionTV. She allegedly dated model Freja Beha Erichsen and actress Ruby Rose before getting engaged to a man in 2013. That engagement was called off, however, and she has reportedly returned to dating women.
6. Chely Wright
Chely Wright became a success in Nashville after her third album, and her star only seemed to be growing from there. Her career nearly plummeted in 2010, however, when she became one of the first openly lesbian women in country music. Wright claimed her record sales and thus her personal finances immediately cut in half, but she stood by her feelings and her true self throughout the ordeal. She is married to LGBT rights activist Lauren Blitzer, and the couple has twin children. Her career paused when she came out, but she is reported to have funded an album through Kickstarter that should be released in the near future.
5. Jodie Foster
Jodie Foster is a two-time Academy Award winning actress for her roles in the films The Accused and The Silence of the Lambs. She began acting when she was three and had her breakout role by the time she was 13, appearing as a child prostitute in Taxi Driver. In addition to her acting success she has also worked as a producer on her films and as a director on the Netflix series Orange Is The New Black and House Of Cards. Although it was rumored for much of her career, Foster didn’t come out as a lesbian until 2007. Foster married photographer Alexandra Hedison in 2014.
4. Kristanna Loken
Kristanna Loken started as a model and soap opera actress. She gradually branched out into roles on family comedy television shows including Boy Meets World and Unhappily Ever After. Her career peaked in 2003 when she portrayed the T-X Terminatrix in Terminator 3: Rise of the Machines. She later made appearances in The L Word and Burn Notice before reprising her childhood role on Girl Meets World in 2015. She has been openly bisexual for the majority of her life. Despite briefly marrying Noah Danby in 2009, they have since separated and she has returned to dating women.
3. Annie Clark
Annie Clark is better known as indie musician St. Vincent. She was a member of the Polyphonic Spree and worked for Sufjan Stevens before forming her own band in 2006. Her first album was Marry Me, released in 2007, and music critics have only grown to love her more and more since. She has released four albums as St. Vincent and one collaborative album with former Talking Heads member David Byrne. In 2015, her self-titled album became only the second album recorded by a woman to win the Grammy Award for Best Alternative Album. Most guys would love her to write some songs about them, and although she believes in sexual fluidity, we don’t think there’s much of a chance for the guys, considering she’s currently dating Cara Delevingne.
2. Tegan or Sara
Tegan and Sara Quin are twin pop singers who have been making music together since they were 15. Starting with a weak album in 1999, they have since released exponentially greater albums, arguably peaking with 2007’s The Con. Though the duo haven’t quite returned to The Con’s heights, they continue to release excellent music and perform worldwide, with their profile only growing. They have also spent their careers as vocal advocates for LGBT rights, protesting California’s Prop 8 and winning a variety of GLAAD Awards. In addition to being rock stars themselves, they’ve toured with some of the biggest and most varied names in music, including Neil Young, Katy Perry and Lady Gaga. The duo are allegedly currently set to release their eighth album, LP8.
1. Portia de Rossi
Portia de Rossi has been an actress on a variety of sitcoms for the past two decades. After coming to fame in a supporting role on Ally McBeal, de Rossi gave her ultimate gift to the world of entertainment co-starring as Lindsay Bluth Fünke on Arrested Development. She quietly dated the daughter of Barbara Bach and Ringo Starr before publicly coming out in 2005 when she began dating Ellen DeGeneres. The couple were wed in 2008 and de Rossi legally changed her name to Portia DeGeneres in 2010. She currently appears on Scandal and is allegedly working on season five of Arrested.