There is no hiding that random hooking up has always carried a negative connotation and in addition to that negative connotation, there has never been a right way to do it, yet there have been so many wrong ways to go about it. Hooking up gets more complicated when you involve two people who have a pretty top notch pre-existing relationship; like say, a set of friends who have known one other for a while. There must be some kind of science behind mastering the craft of hooking up with your best friend because not a lot of people have been able to crack it, let alone survive it. It almost always ends in some kind of complication, ranging from heartbreak to total breakdown. However, there is not only a negative side to hooking up; there is a way to make hooking up with your friend a lasting, loving, exciting endeavor. Hooking up with a best friend is one of the ultimate tests when it comes to your friendship and while it may not be the best idea, there are a few ways to safely passage a way through the ultimate crap show that it could turn into.
If you would like to brave the cursed situation of hooking up with someone whose friendship you value, then read on to look at the bright side of hooking up with your best friend.
10. He/She Has Definitely Thought About It
Chances are if you are best friends with a guy, he has thought about sleeping with you, touching you in an appropriate manner, and he has even thought about dating you. There is not a chance that something like this has not crossed his mind especially if you are “his type”. Guys gravitate towards the familiar, and they sure appreciate the comfort-ability that goes along with having a girl as a best friend who just might be down with a friendly hookup. So next time you catch him randomly looking at you; really think about what he could be thinking about.
9. Who Knows You Better?
There is a deep bond between best friends, and that deep bond is not lost when you call someone of the opposite sex your best friend. They know you inside and out and chances are your conversations have gotten deep over the years; they may know who your first sexual encounter was with and they may even know what your favorite position is. This can translate into the bedroom, they will know what you like, what you don’t and why you do or don’t certain things. This is where that best friend bond can come in handy; so if you are going to take the leap of faith, at least use the knowledge you have of one another to make it unforgettable.
8. If It Back Fires, You Have Other Friends… Right?
Just like everything else in life, there are high risks involved when you choose to sleep with your best friend. It could completely ruin your friendship and you may never talk to that person again. There is also the chance that you are such good friends that if the “friend with benefits situation” does not work out, you can bounce back easily into that oh so comfortable friendship zone. And if that does not work out, well, you always have other friends, right? Granted it is not the ideal situation and even if you think your friendship is strong enough to surpass this possibility, think again. It happens more often than not. You may miss each other, but sometimes there is just no going back.
7. One And Done
There is a good chance that this situation could be a simple one and done. Now, there are two kinds of one and done; the first, one and done, as in never talk to each other again because it is too much to bare, or the second one and done, as in it happened and it won’t happen again but hey, we have managed to still stay cool. Obviously the latter is what most people hope for and if you work at it, it can be your outcome. Just as long as you do not allow the awkwardness to get too awkward.
6. You Could Be One Of The Few Couples Who Defy The Odds
As you know, so many things could go wrong when you hook up with your best friend, but do not forget that so many things can go so right (instead of regretting it for the rest if your life, losing your friend and constantly having that pit in your stomach that appears every time you think of them). You can have those lovely butterflies that make you happy and excited to be around them, you can build even more memories once you let your inhibitions fly and best yet, you can have an even better friendship as long as there are no hard feelings between one another. It is not always a negative outcome.
5. You Are Comfortable Mentally And Physically
Nothing is more awkward than having sex with someone for the first time, especially for women; the whole taking your clothes off thing is one hell of a nerve wrecker. With a friend it is slightly different. Yes, there are nerves, but they are different nerves more like “OMG is this a smart idea?” as opposed to “will they be turned off by my body?” They have seen you in a bikini and chances are, they have seen you in your underwear (because let’s be real all bets are off when you are best friends with someone of the opposite sex). Mentally, he or she already thinks you are the coolest person on the planet so that shouldn’t be a problem for you.
4. If No One Makes It Weird, It’s Totally Cool
Refrain from acting any way out of the ordinary after the deed is done; even when you start to catch feels, don’t let them know until you are 100% ready to deal with the consequences. Test the waters the next couple of days, if you can hang out like nothing has happened and continue on with your regular day to day activities, then chances are this scenario can happen a couple more times. After all, it is just sex, right? What is the worst that can happen if you both know what you are getting yourselves into? Besides the obvious, that is.
3. If Nothing Else You Have A Great Awkward Story To Laugh About Later
As soon as you realize that this scenario is not for you, it is better to bail and keep the tight bond of friendship that was there before. The best part about realizing that you have messed up is the fun story you have to tell because you caught your mistake early. If you are lucky to keep that best friend for years to come, you will always be able to look back and laugh at the idea that you two could have been something more than what you are now. There is a good chance that both of you will see the situation differently and laugh about how different you both interpreted the memorable night.
2. They Already Love You
You do not have to fight, push or vie for their love or attention because you already have it. Years of friendship have built you guys up to this point and it will defiantly be a hard bond to break if something does not go as planned. However, there is always that comfort of knowing that your best friend is your best friend for a reason and no matter what, they love you on a different level than they love everyone else. So even if that love is not a romantic love, it is a love nonetheless, and it is unconditional.
1. It Could Turn Into A Relationship
If your bond is deep enough and you really want it to work, this “friend with benefits” situation can turn into the ultimate relationship. Now, every relationship has its rough patches, but you are more likely to get over those quickly due to the pre-existing friendship that you once had. It may sound corny but sometimes what you need really is there right in front of your face, so do not be so quick to shut your poor friend down if they propose something that goes beyond the “friend with benefits” scenario, as you may cut yourself off from something phenomenal. Can you hear those wedding bells?