Your twenties are without a doubt some of the best years of your life. There are so many memories to be had, friends to be made and dates to go on that sometimes it is hard to get a grasp on what is really important. Your twenties are a confusing time, there’s no way around that, and with all the ups come the same amount of downs.
Being in your twenties is filled with lessons and once you get to your thirties, it is only natural that you will have regrets, regardless of what you do. Between twenty and thirty, you will learn more about yourself and about life than ever before. You will realize the mistakes you as a person have made and you will realize the mistakes you could have made but did not.
Your twenties and the mistakes you make are something everyone experiences, but that is what will help you learn and grow as a person.
With so many things that we are sure you can relate to, we at TheRichest thought it would be fun to come up with the fifteen most popular things that people regret doing and not doing in their twenties, enjoy!
A lot of people, somewhere in between their teenage years and their late 20s, start to partake in a filthy and dangerous habit; that habit is smoking cigarettes. Smoking is one of the stupidest things you can do at any point in your life, but perhaps especially in your 20s. Not only is smoking horrible for your health, but it also causes you to age a lot faster. Smoking is an addiction, it is very hard to quit and although a lot of people know this when they begin, many still fall into the trap. When you are in your 30s smoking cigarettes or quitting cigarettes is not what you want to be doing with your energy. It may be number 15 on our list, but smoking is definitely one of the many things people get into when they are young and dumb that they end up regretting.
14. Not Connecting With Family
Your 20s are a very “busy” time in a person’s life. You may find that you have so many parties to attend and even more friends to see. However, when it all comes down to it, family is what is and should always be most important. It is common throughout that period of your life to feel a distance from family, and perhaps to not want to attend certain events and to feel like you are just too busy to call them back.
However, at the end of the day, there are not that many people who know you like your family does. There is no one besides your family, to teach you about where you come from or other interesting things like what your other relatives were like. Get to know your family throughout your twenties, as they are the best people to help guide you through your thirties.
13. Not Finishing School
If we are being fair, school is a pain for a lot of people. After high school graduation, many individuals decide to take their own path that is away from education. Although that is admirable and a lot find happiness and success, most people who do not finish their education or go to university end up regretting it in the long run. What people in their 20’s sometimes do not understand is that life just gets harder and more expensive as the years go by. By attaining your degree you have shown to employers that you are able to stick to your passion and goal.
You may still be incredibly intelligent and successful if you do not attend school, but you will have to find other ways to show your value.
Not only do many people not regret going to school in their twenties, many people try and complete most of their additional schooling (if required) before their thirties so they have the rest of their life to do a career they love.
12. Not Wearing Sunscreen
There is a reason your mother has always been annoying when it comes to protecting your skin. Women, in particular, may realize the importance of sunscreen in their 20s, but by the thirties, everyone will realize how important it really is.
Protecting your skin makes a huge difference in the long run, it prevents wrinkles as well as skin damage and disease. People in their twenties think they are invincible and although that is one of the best parts of being young, it has a lot of side effects. Take care of your skin, you may not “burn” in the sun but there is damage being done if you do not protect yourself. There are countless 30, 40 and 50-year-olds, around the globe that wished they had put on more sunscreen when they were younger.
11. Not Exercising
A lot of people in their twenties think that because they do not have a weight problem, it means that they should not exercise. Let us tell you something in the most simple terms possible; working out has nothing to do with weight and everything to do with health. Of course, there are countless superficial benefits that occur such as weight loss but that is really not why anyone should be working out.
You should be working out because it keeps you young. Being active is one of the best ways of keeping yourself healthy, it gives you more energy and helps boost your immune system. Working out is also extremely therapeutic, it releases endorphins and gives you one of the best (and natural) highs you will ever feel. Do not wait until you are past your twenties to get to the gym, the younger you get yourself into the habit the better.
10. Caring Too Much What People Think
Caring what people thinks usually begins in high school and sticks with you usually until you are in your thirties. Which is sad if you let it bring you down because one of the greatest feelings in the world is being content with yourself, regardless of what is said about you. This is something that everyone realizes at different points in their life, however, for most of us, it happens sometime after your twenties.
At a certain point, you will realize that the most important person to please is yourself. If you want to do something do it, if you want to go after something go after it- whatever it is that you feel you need is usually exactly what has been missing. People will always have an opinion and once you realize that, you will find a sense of inner peace you never thought imaginable.
9. Credit Card Debt
For some reason, until you reach a certain age, credit cards have a different meaning. Your twenties are a time where you learn a lot about money. Usually, somewhere in your mid to late twenties, what you will learn is how much money you spent on useless things like drinks, clothes and drive through McDonald runs. These purchases are all usually put on one of your credit cards, which, for a lot of twenty some year olds go unpaid for quite some time. One of the most common groups of people to go in debt are those between the ages of 20 and 30. Between student loans and credit card debt, a lot of the time people find themselves to be thirty-something literally paying for the stupid choices they made throughout their youth.
8. Letting Your Parents Dictate Your Life
Parents are amazing, they support us and believe in us when no one else does but the thing about parents is, they don’t ALWAYS know what is best for you. A lot of the time, parents, without intending to, project their insecurities onto their children. Parents always want what is best for their children, however, sometimes they do not see that they are pushing their children into a path that won’t bring happiness.
The sad reality is that sometimes, parents may disown their children for making choices they do not agree with. Although parents have brought us into this world, that does not give them a right to dictate our adulthood. Everyone deserves to feel loved and supported and everyone should have the right to choose their own paths. A lot of people who pick a career or a spouse based solely on what their parents believe tend to end up losing focus on what they really want.
7. Not Living Alone
A lot of people go from living in their parent’s house to living in a dorm, to living with their significant other. Although this works out for some people, a lot of others crave their independence at one point or another. A person can learn a lot about themselves by living alone. There is a tranquility that comes with being your own priority and with having to worry about nobody but yourself.
To many, living alone is a privilege we are aware of that, however, we can’t deny that it is something that everyone could benefit from. By the time you reach your thirties, most people begin to start families and the silence and comfort of being alone is no longer so easy to find. Regardless of whether you think you need it or not, being independent has a lot of benefits.
By learning the importance of independence throughout your twenties, it will make you more likely to find happiness as y0u get older. If you are able to experience solitude in your twenties, a busy lifestyle in your thirties may also be a welcomed chance.
6. Not Flossing
Your smile is usually the first thing people notice about you. When we are children, our parents try to force us to floss our teeth, however, the reality is, for some reason most of us hate flossing. Although we know the benefits of flossing, a lot of us choose to ignore the commercials, the dentists and of course our parents. Flossing is not only good for your teeth but it is good for your gums. The older people get, the more they understand the importance of taking care of themselves, which includes their oral hygiene. Your smile is one of the most beautiful qualities about you, make sure you take care of it. You may not see a difference right away, but you will be happy in the long run, we promise.
5. Not Travelling
Travelling is something almost everyone wants to do, however, so many people hold themselves back because it is not the “right” time. Well, let us be the ones to tell you, if you are waiting for the “right” time, it will never happen. In life, there is always going to be something that holds you back, however, when you are in your twenties you usually have the least amount of commitments.
You can’t take off for six months when you have a family because rumor has it you still have a baby or children to take care of. You can understand, especially if you have traveled, why not seeing the world in your twenties is one of the biggest regrets people have. There is nothing that is comparable to seeing, learning and exploring different parts of the world and different cultures.
4. Not Saving
Why didn’t I save more of my money? It’s a thought process that many people experience throughout their life, but it may be a very apparent feeling once you start hitting your thirties.
For many throughout your twenties you live paycheck to paycheck, which can be nice, yet a lot of the time you have nothing to show for your earnings. Instead, you will spend your income on trips, food, clothes, shoes and of course drinking.
This goes back to people in their twenties thinking that the rules do not apply to them. A lot of parents try to emphasize the importance of saving, however, for a lot of us it goes in one ear and out the other. Although it is difficult, try to put away twenty dollars per paycheck throughout your twenties, your thirties will thank you for it.
3. Getting Married Too Fast
We at TheRichest are not hating on those who get married in their twenties, we believe that when you find the right person, regardless of how old you are then you should stay with them. But it should not be a race to the altar, take your time, if you are going to spend forever with the person, what’s the rush?
Divorce is definitely no fun and it is confusing to see more and more people in their twenties getting married before they are truly sure about their partner. By the time a lot of these couples reach their thirties, they are already divorced and forced to learn how to live life alone.
Throughout the past few years, marriage has lost its significance and it seems a lot of people do not have the same respect for the sanctity of marriage as they once did, but it is still arguably the most important decision you will ever make. Many people regret not who they marry, but when they got married. Don’t be one of those people.
2. Not Saying How You Feel
People lose out on a lot of opportunities because they do not say how they feel. Whether it is with your friends, at your job or with someone you are or want to be romantically involved with, you should always say how you feel.
Although some people who get married in their twenties spend their lives together, many do not and the reality is that if they communicated, things would have been different. Many people put pressure on themselves and feel that by getting married a lot of their doubts or fears will simply fade away. But by avoiding expressing your emotions, you end up hurting yourself as well as your partner.
People in their twenties have a huge fear of rejection and an even bigger fear when it comes to talking about things that make them uncomfortable, such as feelings. This is one of the biggest regrets people have as they get older, however, that does not mean that you need to have that regret. Say what is one your mind and open up about how you feel, especially if you are dealing with something like an unhealthy relationship. You will regret it if you don’t.
1. Not Being Your Authentic Self
What is the point of being here if you are not going to stay true to yourself? The thing is, that in your twenties all you want to do is fit in, but by the times your thirties hit the idea of standing out is so appealing. The older you get, the more you become attracted to individualism. Being authentically yourself is one of the most desirable qualities in a person, and those who possess this quality end up exuding a lot more happiness. If you can take tips from our number 10 entry, you can also understand the importance of this quality.
At one point, you will reach a certain age and you will realize that there is nothing more satisfying than knowing yourself and being able to be yourself. You may look back at all those years when you saw yourself trying to be something you’re not and wishing you could take it back, but it is all part of the learning.
That being said, the sooner you realize how special and unique you are is the day you will begin to live without regrets and this comes through caring and appreciating yourself.
Just remember to be yourself, everyone else is already taken!