“She loves you, she loves you not.” Love is a language that is universally spoken. There are different kinds of love, different ways of showing love and countless ways of being in love. Sometimes, falling for someone doesn’t work out the way you anticipated. It has happened to the best of us, you meet someone who you are into and for some reason that person doesn’t reciprocate those feelings.
If a woman is into you, you will know it, and if you are reading this article you need to know that if someone doesn’t want to be with you, it is their loss. However, I thought you may enjoy getting a little insight into the female brain when it comes to men and relationships. If you get the feeling that the person you are into just is not into you and you want to know why, maybe this article can help.
I believe that there is someone out there for everyone and although you are probably a great guy, sometimes she just doesn’t feel the same. These are the ten most probable reasons as to why she isn’t into you. Enjoy!
10. She Doesn’t Trust You
Don’t get me wrong, some women will date men they don’t trust, but many women believe trust to be the foundation of any relationship, and let me tell you something, those women are right. Trust IS the foundation of any relationship – if you don’t trust someone you ultimately shouldn’t be with them. Many couples don’t trust each other and those are the relationships that become toxic in the long run. So, chances are if the girl you are into senses you aren’t trustworthy, she is not going to let you into her life.
9. Hung Up On Someone Else
Women are funny, if they have their minds and hearts set on someone, there is no changing it until they are ready. Trying to get a girl who is in love with someone else rarely works out because, well, she is in love with someone else. Girls will talk to you because, let’s face it, we like the attention, but they won’t ever do more than talk. Sometimes, you briefly date this girl but that is because she is on the rebound. If you really want to be with her, let her get over the last f***boy and let her come to you – if it is meant to be it will be, don’t force it.
8. Just Friends
Getting out of the “friend zone” is something extremely difficult to do. However, it has been done before. Both men and women tend to place members of the opposite sex in categories: someone who is a friend and someone who you want to sleep with. For a woman, if she has labeled you the friend, it will take a lot for her to see you as anything else because she doesn’t want to ruin the friendship. In the long run, your partner should be someone you consider a best friend, but in many cases, friends remain friends and if they do get together, a lot of the time it has a messy ending. Unless it is the woman of your dreams, don’t ruin a friendship for a fling – trust me, it’s not worth it.
7. You Don’t Fit Their Checklist
Whether we want to admit it or not, everyone, male and female has a checklist – a certain criteria that they set for everything, including a mate. For women, finding a man is an extremely hard thing to do because we are such analytical beings. Think about it, it takes so long for a woman to find the perfect dress, shoe, lingerie and even foundation so imagine how long it takes them when it comes to finding a boyfriend. Although this is part of women’s problem, sometimes you don’t quite fit the bill and that’s okay. You want to find someone whose wants and needs align with yours and sometimes ending something before it even begins is the best thing to do.
6. You Aren’t Ambitious Enough
I am sorry to break it to you gentlemen but any woman of quality seeks ambition in their men, and not to be harsh, but ambition is a quality not all of you have. After a certain age, partying till 6 am and sleeping until 3 pm every day just isn’t cool anymore. A woman likes a man who can take care of himself, a man that goes to work, pays bills and has a life. So boys, instead of acting like children, act like men and maybe you won’t need to read this article because you would be getting the girl.
5. No Sexual Attraction
This is something that happens often. When entering a relationship, one needs to be both emotionally and physically attracted to a person. Sometimes you love someone’s personality but to imagine yourself kissing him or her completely turns you off. Attraction is not something you can fake and if someone is not attracted to you that doesn’t mean you are ugly. Sexual chemistry can be best explained as the feeling of wanting someone on a physical level. I have been on some incredible dates, where the conversation is great and I feel extremely comfortable with the person but I just couldn’t picture myself being intimate with them – it has happened to everyone which is a possibility as to why she is not into you.
4. Slept With Her Friend
This is something a lot of girls have a problem with. If you have slept with one of her best gal pals, chances are you are never sleeping with her. Most girls feel weird “sharing” a guy with their friend. Yes, I know what you are thinking, there are a lot of girls who sleep with their friends’ exes. However, true friends don’t do that to one another. Women are territorial and they share everything with their girlfriends, which is why it can be weird crossing territories. Girls may share everything with their friends including makeup, clothes and information, but the best of friends do not share their men. Girl code.
3. Personalities Don’t Click
Just as important as sexual attraction (if not more) is the attraction of the mind. Sometimes all you have is sexual chemistry, but trust me from experience that does not make a relationship. A lot of girls have gone down that road before and if they see they are about to embark on the same disaster, they will keep away from you. The best relationships are those where both your minds and bodies are connected, having one without the other rarely works in the long run. Different from sexual chemistry, emotional chemistry can’t grow over time, which is why it is even more important than sexual chemistry. Women will never seriously date someone they can’t be themselves around and they shouldn’t. If it’s not there it’s not there, someone else will come around that understands you more.
2. She Thinks You Are Full Of It
Let’s be honest, a lot of guys are full of sh*t when it comes to what they say to women, and although there are guys who aren’t like that, almost every woman has had her own experience with men saying what you want to hear to get what they want. Instead of using lines or trying to impress her, just be yourself and tell her how you feel about her. You may get shut down but at least you will know that you were true to yourself. Most of the time, when a guy shows a girl who he really is, that is when she falls in love with him. Keep that in mind.
1. She Is Just Not Into You
Plain and simple. There are many reasons for a girl not being into you. Instead of focusing on why she isn’t into you, focus on putting your energy into someone who truly values and appreciates you. Better than putting energy into a woman, focus on yourself. Relationships and love come at the least expected times, which is part of what makes them wonderfully complicated. Instead of putting all your energy into getting one girl to fall in love with you, fall in love with yourself. Confidence is the sexiest thing anyone can ever posses. If she isn’t into you she isn’t into you. All that means is that she wasn’t the right person – move on and move forward and you will find your missing puzzle piece one way or another.