Finding someone you like is hard enough as it is, especially since there are many factors that go into finding somebody you are attracted to. Yes, good looks help, but that is not the only thing that makes a person worthwhile. In order to want to be with someone, you need to be attracted to them both physically and mentally.
Not every individual will meet your list of criteria, but it is important to keep an open mind. Unfortunately, some people don’t even get to make the list because they exude certain traits that tend to be repulsive. What’s worse is that many of them do not even know that they have these tendencies.
Some men might think that their personalities are untouchable, but later they’ll wonder why their relationships never last. Just because your mom says you’re perfect, that doesn’t mean you don’t have anything to work on!
Men and women alike have many distinct personality traits that repel the opposite sex, but do not despair! Every trait is reversible as long as you try!
15. Being Too Full Of Yourself
Believe it or not, being proud of who you are is a good thing. In fact, it’s even encouraged, but when every little compliment is returned by an “I know” or an “Obviously,” then maybe, just maybe, you need to put a sock in it.
Women like a confident man, there’s no doubt about it, but there’s a fine line between being comfortable in your own skin and being full of it. So if the girl you’re seeing frequently roll her eyes at your narcissistic comments, then you should probably just stop. If you want to keep her, that is.
If you don’t want to keep her, because she’s not as into you as you are into yourself, then let her go and surely you will find someone who exudes the same cockiness you do. However, odds are you will find them annoying because all they do is talk about themselves.
14. Checking Out Other Women
There are a lot of beautiful women on this planet, and you never know when you’re going to cross paths with one. Hopefully, you will have the courtesy not to do a ‘double-take’ every time you see one of these ladies walking down the street, especially if you are with your girlfriend. Not only is it a major turn-off, but it makes the girl you are with compare herself to every girl she sees. It can even cause her to become jealous and paranoid, and frankly, why on earth would you want that?
If you’re just getting to know someone and they are repeatedly looking at every women they see, and maybe even making small comments like, “Wow, did you see that girl?”, it’s almost as if you are putting them in the “friend-zone”. The girl will become confused, and at the end of the day you will have more chance of being with any other person than the one you went on a date with.
13. Getting Too Drunk
We all have those nights where you find yourself in an embarrassing situation. Maybe you puked in the cab, maybe you fell on your face or maybe you even went as far as being rude to your friends. Whichever the case, we’ve all been there at some point, and so it is normal to see your partner get a little too drunk every once in a while. But when you start to see a pattern, and it’s an ugly one, surely it will make you run for the hills.
No one wants to take care of someone every single night. If that was the case, we would all have children and stay home to take care of them instead of going out with friends. Have you ever gone out on a date with someone and they’ve gotten so trashed that you contemplated ditching them on the spot? Well, if you have and you did — good for you. Showing someone that they constantly need to become your baby-sitter every time you go out is a sure way to get dumped. So be a bigger man and have a smaller glass.
12. Being Too Competitive
When you first start dating someone, there’s a limit to the things you can do to together. You can go to the movies, to supper, to a bar, or you can go mini-putting or bowling. Sounds fun right? Well playing a game with someone who is extremely competitive can ruin someone’s date altogether.
The last thing you want to feel when on a date is a sense of competitiveness. It is normal to joke around to make your partner laugh, but when you are visibly irritated by the fact that you are losing, you come off as a sore loser. And nobody likes a sore loser.
Imagine being with someone who turns everything into a competition. Sounds annoying, right? Most of the time, people want to find someone who they can just hang out with, without any pressure or obligations. Everyday life is competitive enough. Leave those insecurities out of your relationship. If you need to win every single little battle, then you should ask yourself if you’re receiving enough validation outside of your love life.
11. Talking Bad About Other Women
With all the scrutiny that females are under, it is important to know that the person you’re dating doesn’t add to the problem. Women are constantly being shamed for their weight, looks and attire. So why would they want to date someone who is going to make them feel like they are doing something bad by simply being who they are?
It’s bad enough when girls hear their guy friends referring to other women as sluts, whores, or ugly. But when they hear their partner say something similar or spread useless gossip about a girls personal life — well let’s just say they won’t like what they are hearing.
Women are mean to each other enough as it is. By talking badly about other women, you might even make your girlfriend question what you say about her or her friends when she’s not around. It also makes you look like a woman hater. Now if that’s not a major turn-off, I don’t know what is.
10. Anger Problems
When you first meet someone, they are usually on their best behaviour. They smile big and act sweet, so it can come as quite a shock when you come face-to-face with their dark side. There are certain things that are normal to get mad at; your car breaking down, an unexpected bill, an extremely slow computer. But sometimes normal can turn to scary real quick, depending on the volume of their anger.
If someone walks into them or cuts them off and they start raging or wanting to punch walls, it’s better to get away from this person as quickly as possible. You never know when the anger will be directed at you, and if it can turn to verbal or physical abuse. Being assertive and defending yourself is not the same thing as being an angry person, and when someone’s normal demeanour can quickly jump to one of The Hulk’s, then you know right off the bat that this person is not normal.
If you’ve got anger problems, then go to anger management and resolve your issues before commencing a relationship. Because once the girl you’ve been dating sees the real you, it will be a huge turn off and she will run for her life.
9. Being Obsessed And Secretive With Your Phone
Some women are nosy and jealous by nature, and some just have something called intuition. Most girls will admit to having gone through their partners phones. Why? Well some of them have been cheated on beforehand and want to make sure they’re not wasting their time, and some just straight-up don’t trust who they’re dating. The easy thing to do when you don’t trust your partner is to tell them your insecurities and why you feel that way, but then again nothing about a girl’s mind is easy.
If your boyfriend is constantly on his phone when he is with you, and he takes it with him wherever he goes, then obviously he might be up to something. When you have nothing to hide, you don’t sneak off looking guilty. If you are dating someone who doesn’t treat you with respect and would rather have a relationship with his phone than you — just dump them. It’s not worth the heartache. If you feel the need to snoop to validate your relationship, then you’re not dating the right person.
8. Breaking Promises
There is nothing more annoying than a person who can’t keep a promise or doesn’t mean what they say. If you had plans with your girlfriend and you are constantly bailing on her, then expect a furious female when you come home.
Whether you live with your partner or not — do what you say and say what you mean. Trust me, this will save you a lot of trouble. If you don’t feel like doing something — then say so! At least you were honest.
The more promises you break, the less fate your girlfriend will have in you, and this is one of the main reasons why relationships fail. Yes, it’s normal to get sick or to forget to do something from time-to-time, but if this becomes an everyday occurrence, something isn’t right. In a girl’s mind, making a promise is as easy as keeping one, and if you can’t keep a promise then surely you can’t keep her.
7. Being A Slob
Do you live in a dark room? One where dirty clothes and Cheetos bags line the floor? Well then sir, you might be a slob. When you first start dating a girl, you’re eventually going to be introduced to her friends and family, and if you show up with wrinkly clothing, wild hair and stained trousers — your girlfriend might feel a little bit embarrassed. Being embarrassed about how your boyfriend composes himself can become an issue for any girl.
A girl doesn’t want to stress over what her boyfriend is going to be wearing to supper with her parents or drinks with her friends. And believe it or not, being a slob has a certain smell to it: old clothing, moisture and cheese. Now that is definitely not something you want to hug every night. You might not even smell it yourself, and that’s when you know you’ve gone too far with the slob life. Time to clean your act up.
6. Bad Hygiene
People sweat. It’s a known fact, and a natural one. However, what you choose to do with this inevitable occurrence is up to you. Telling someone that they don’t smell good is never a conversation you want to be having, but it can be an extremely helpful one.
Take Tom for example. Now Tom is a great looking guy, he’s fun and smart but there’s a catch — he smells like your uncle Herman on a hot summer day. Well this could easily be arranged by applying some deodorant and taking frequent showers, but unfortunately no one ever told Tom that he has a body odour problem and for some reason, he can’t land a date. It also appears that Tom’s nose has abandoned him and left him to figure things out on his own.
Now Tom is depressed and he doesn’t understand why women flee the second he approaches them. It just doesn’t make sense for crying out loud! Well Tom, hate to break it to you, but you smell, man. You really smell.
5. Being Late All The Time
Imagine waiting in the rain — without an umbrella — for your boyfriend to show up at the movie theatre. Yes, there’s a ledge you could seek shelter under, but that’s not the point. You’re being dramatic. Anyway, imagine holding onto two tickets that say the movie starts at 8 o’clock, but it’s 8:30 and your boyfriend is nowhere to be found.
Well, I’m sure you would feel a little irritated, especially since this isn’t the first time. So you call him up. “Hey babe, I’m five minutes away,” he says. But wait – what was that in the background? A car door slamming? You realize in dismay that he has just gotten into his car, and he lives 15 minutes away.
That’s when you’ve had enough. “You know what don’t bother,” you say. You hang up and trade in his ticket for a popcorn. You watch the movie alone and leave the theatre dry and happy. Popcorn never lies, popcorn is always on time.
4. Being Inappropriate
Acting inappropriately with your partner can sometimes be hilarious, but there is a place and a time for that sort of behaviour. When meeting a girl’s parents for the first time, it is crucial to leave out all sexual innuendos in order to make a good first impression. However, some guys have trouble censoring their mouths and end up looking like a two year old. I think we can all agree that a dirty joke can make a crowd go wild, but when directed to a crowd of senior citizens, it might very well make them all break a hip.
When you first meet a girl and she gives you her phone number, she is by no means inviting you to send her pictures of your member. Being inappropriate and creepy will surely leave you wondering why she stopped texting you back. Asking her to send you naked pictures will only make her feel uncomfortable.
3. Being Rude To Workers
If you’ve ever worked in the service department, then you know first-hand that customers can be your worst enemies. Which is why it is so important to treat workers with the utmost respect — unless they are being awful of course!
How you treat people is very important. If you are rude and lash out on staff for something as small as getting your order wrong, then there is definitely something up with your personality. Girls like a guy that can keep their cool, not someone who yells at the top of their lungs the second something doesn’t go their way.
If you take a girl out for supper, and you end up giving attitude to the waiter or calling him an idiot, it shows that you don’t respect or value anyone but yourself. The woman you are with will not be impressed by your actions, and she might even storm off on you.
2. Taking Too Much Care Of Yourself
Most women like to take care of themselves from head to toe, and so it is definitely nice when a guy can also take care of himself. If you smell good, have clean clothing and brush your teeth daily, then let’s just say you are on the right track. However some men like to take it a little too far, and end up taking better care of themselves than their girlfriends do.
If you get manicures and pedicures on the regular and have nicer eyebrows than your girlfriend, then she might think that there’s something you aren’t telling her. Some men like to take an excessive amount of time getting ready in the morning, and even wear makeup! If your overnight bag weighs more than hers does, that can be a huge turn-off.
1. Having No Manners
When in a relationship, it is important to treat your significant other with respect, but somehow this isn’t always the case. Many people go unappreciated for a long time before they snap and say, “I deserve better than this.”
If you are constantly doing little thoughtful actions to show your partner that you care, and they never thank you or reciprocate the gesture — something might be up. Not everyone is raised the same, but there is a certain level of etiquette that we should all know. Like taking your shoes off when you walk into a house, or not opening the fridge of someone you aren’t close with, or simply saying thank you when someone does something nice for you.
If you aren’t showing the person you’re with that you appreciate them, they will surely find somebody who does. Having no manners is an extreme turn off.