Call them opportunistic or cunning, but sugar babies exist because there are sugar daddies and sugar mommies who are looking for them. And in this very competitive world, one has to be open to anything in order to advance in life.
What are Sugar Babies?
Sugar babies are those young men or women who are spoiled or pampered by an older woman or man in exchange for companionship. This is a real phenomenon and you can actually Google the Internet and easily find young people offering their friendship to more mature people. As a matter of fact, there have been websites created especially dedicated to matching up sugar babies with sugar daddies or sugar mommies. An example is the website of www.seekingarrangements.com.
A review of the data has shown that out of the site’s many users, 44 percent are female college students. As a matter of fact, in 2012 alone, there were 183 students from Ryerson University in Toronto who signed up. There were also 179 young women from the University of Ottawa, as well as 156 students from the University of Toronto.
Most, if not all, signed up in order to get help financially from willing sugar daddies or sugar mommies. Sugar babies tend to get regular allowances from their patrons and sometimes, they would even get surprise cash gifts. There have been stories of one sugar daddy giving a young woman $500 for simply having lunch together, while another spent a month hanging out with a sugar daddy and was given an extra $1,600 for the effort. She was even given the leeway to decide how to spend the money.
Some may judge the arrangement to be a form of prostitution. But there is no statute or law that makes it illegal to get paid for providing companionship. Besides, those who take part in this arrangement are usually savvy enough not to say anything that happened beyond companionship. Besides, isn’t that how we really normally deal with things? Only the absolute perverts would go around bragging about their sex lives anyway.
It is not that sex is not on the table. One has to be foolish to think that intimacy will not be sought, especially by the sugar daddy or sugar mommy. It is impossible to believe that they only do these things out of the goodness of their hearts. Still, sex and intimacy are not automatic things. Usually, sugar babies are used as trophy companions that sugar daddies or sugar mommies would want to show off to their friends as proof that they still have it in them to attract pretty young things.
Advantages of a Sugar Baby
There are a number of advantages of being a sugar baby. Among them are:
- You can remain childishly cute because the sugar daddy or sugar mommy is aware that you are indeed much younger than them. If they want someone who is mature and emotionally stable, they would probably go out with someone their own age.
- Sugar babies are pampered and spoiled by the sugar daddy or sugar mommy.
- You will get to go out on fancy dinners in high-class restaurants. This will certainly be a welcome break from all that fast food diet of burgers, burritos and pizza that you are accustomed to with your dorm friends. Finally, you will be getting real food!
- For young women with sugar daddies, if things do get intimate, you can expect a gentler and more mature partner who is more sensitive to your needs.
- For young men with sugar mommies, if things do get intimate, expect a sugar mommy who will appreciate and probably even match your wildness. After all, women tend to mature sexually much later than men. So those in their early twenties will do well to have a partner in their late thirties or early forties. It would be like a perfect bed match made in sex heaven.
- Sugar babies will have the advantage of having a partner with a steady and, more likely than not, generous source of income. Gone are the days when you will have to scrimp and watch every cent of your spending when you go out with a partner of the same age. Eventually, you may get an attack of nostalgia for the days when you and your college partner would share food bought from a street stall, but remember that you can only be nostalgic about the past and it should remain in the past.
- You will probably get a chance to travel with your sugar daddy or sugar mommy across the country and even around the world. Locally, you can ride in a nice car owned by your sugar daddy or sugar mommy instead of taking the bus or metro.
- Sugar babies are usually provided allowances on a regular basis. The money can be used to help pay for rent, utilities or even school tuition. It will certainly go a long way in helping defray your student loans.
- Sugar babies will benefit from the mentorship that a sugar daddy or sugar mommy can provide. They are more knowledgeable with the ways of the world and you will get a heads up on those things.
Disadvantages of a Sugar Baby
Sugar babies can also suffer from a few disadvantages. Among them are the following:
- You will always be viewed as an opportunistic person taking advantage of wealthy people.
- It will be hard to take a sugar daddy or sugar mommy out on a date with your friends. Even if your friends are fine with your relationship, the chances of your partner enjoying the party scene and the music you listen to are slim to none.
- Your family will probably not approve of your relationship. And even if they do, it will be awkward to see your sugar daddy or sugar mommy having more things in common with your parents than with you.