A woman’s body plays a huge role in attracting men to her since it’s probably the first thing that men see in a woman. It will however surprise you to realize that, although a woman’s body is very important to a man, men would choose to have a woman with other physical and character qualities over a gorgeous body.
As controversial as the above statement sounds, there is a lot of truth in it. The media has wrongfully painted men to be mindless creatures that only consider a woman’s worth by the size of her waist and breasts – a representation that is very far from the truth.
Men looking for a one-night stand will only look at the body because nothing else will matter, but a man who is serious about a woman will look past the body and think of the things that she has and will never lose.
Look around and you will realize that the relationships and marriages that work out are those between people who take the time to know each other and appreciate each other’s inner beauty. A man looking to settle down with a woman will always look for one who understands what that particular man wants, how he ought to be treated, and how the woman should handle herself.
Here are 15 things men consider more important than a woman’s body with regard to a serious relationship and especially marriage. Which of these do you agree and/or disagree with?
Women are under the false perception that men like the idea of an intelligent woman, but they would rather not date one because they would feel intimidated. On the contrary, men want a woman who can challenge them on an intellectual level. Intelligent women are sexy, interesting, and they attract many men. No man wants to have an intellectually challenged bimbo who needs explanations and instructions for everything from how to use a blender to what’s going on in the news. If you know you are lacking in this area in any way, you can start by reading any type of books and within a short while, you will fall into the category of the intellectuals.
Men are wired to be the providers and protectors, and a good man will play out this role flawlessly. A woman who knows how to appreciate all that her man does in order to protect and provide for her is very attractive to the man and her attitude encourages the man to keep doing what he is doing. Men want women who recognize their hard work and appreciate them for it because such appreciation makes them feel good and it helps them to love their women even more. A woman who appreciates even the smallest things will always get the man, even if she is competing with supermodels.
Gone are the days when women sat in the salon all day getting facials, getting their hair styled, and polishing their nails in the hope of becoming trophy wives. Men want their women to have dreams, goals, and self-drive. It does not matter if you two were sweethearts from the tenth grade; if you do not step up, he is going to leave you for his secretary whose ambition is to climb the corporate ladder. In fact, women started this whole revolution when they fought for equal rights. Men want a woman who is not afraid to get her hands dirty to get her own things and not depend on him for everything.
Having too much of something is poisonous, even if that something is as sweet as honey. Women need to switch it up every now and then in order to keep their men interested. It is obvious that men get bored easily and they move on to the next interesting thing. It is time to drop your routines and add some unexpected surprises if you want to keep your man. It does not always have to be some weird sex game from Fifty Shades of Grey, women just need to step out of their comfort zone and do something out of the ordinary occasionally.
11. Ability To Listen
Men would rather date women who make deliberate efforts to understand what they say and try to communicate every time, as opposed to those who only see things from their perspective. When it comes to relationships, men always want to “wear the pants,” and this means that their words matter. However, a woman’s ability to listen does not mean that she has to agree with everything a man says, it means that she is willing to go out of her way to understand her man and work towards a compromise with him. Men know that a woman who can listen is a keeper and they will do everything they can to make them feel special every day.
10. High Standards
Men want women who have high standards when looking for a mate. As much as the Cinderella stories where the frog turns into a dashing shiny prince are overdone, every man wants to feel like a king in his relationship with his woman. If you only date the deadbeat men from next door, you set the standard too low and you will seldom attract a high-class man. Men do not want to feel as if you settled for them from lack of other prospects. Women have to set the bar high in order to catch the big fish in the sea.
Most men put up a tough front especially when dealing with women, but they all secretly want someone who will love and care for them just like their mothers did. As much as men are wired to take up the strong protector role in the family, caring for your man will make him love you even more. Caring for your man shows that you are not only after his physical and financial well-being, but that you genuinely care about him. When you care for your man, you encourage him to care for you as well, and that is how you jump from being girlfriend material to becoming wife material.
Ever since Jennifer Lopez released that hit song “I Ain’t Your Mama,” many women have mistakenly made it their anthem. You will be surprised to know how many men marry a woman just because she reminds them of their mama, especially if those men have a great relationship with their mamas. The truth is that men expect you to cook for them, do their laundry, buy their underwear, pick their socks off the floor, rub their jaw when they snore at night and keep their bed warm for them. If you are too good for that, then you are not good enough for them.
Confidence is a good character trait to have if you want to attract a serious man into your life. Men are not attracted to wimps who hide in the shadows instead of stepping out with confidence. Always speak your mind, go after your goals, and make your intentions known in confidence if you want to attract a certain man. Men do not want a woman who is afraid and apologetic all the time, because such women end up being annoying. Confidence begets confidence, hence if you want to attract a seriously confident man, you also have to play the part.
6. Fashion Sense
Women love fashion and dressing up to feel good. Men do not particularly fancy the type of woman whose good day comprises of an oversized tee shirt and mummy jeans from the eighties. A woman should dress to flatter her body so that she can attract the attention of a man. If you want to be seen as a woman, be fashion forward and dress to attract attention. The good thing with fashion nowadays is that you do not have to own a vogue collection closet straight out of the New York fashion week. Just dress to flatter your body, accessorize, and keep with the trends.
5. Sense Of Humor
No man wants a woman who is a bore. Men enjoy being with a woman who makes them laugh and have fun. An uptight, humorless person is intimidating and unpleasant to be around. If you are gloomy and serious all the time, men can mistake you for a snob and you’ll end up being single for a very long time. A good sense of humor is a big attraction to men, since they can interact with you, feel good around you, and even relax around you. If you feel that you have no sense of humor, watch some sitcoms, stand-up comedies, or funny movies and you might just pick up a few opening lines.
4. A Beautiful Face
As much as people like to say that beauty without brains is worthless, men beg to differ. The first thing men notice when they look at women is their face, and the attraction begins there. You find rich fat men with supermodels on their arms and seldom do you find them with aeronautical engineers who are not that attractive because nobody can see their brain. A woman should at least make efforts to make her face appealing to men as opposed to walking around with a unibrow. Men want a woman that they can hold hands with in public and feel proud of because she is appealing to the eye.
Nothing is more important to a man in a relationship than a woman who shows him respect, regardless of the difference in the amounts on their paychecks. It does not matter if you work on the tenth floor with the board members while he is at the basement with the IT guys, men demand respect. A disrespectful woman is both unattractive and undesirable to most men. Men want the assurance that if they settle down with you, they will be able to make major decisions in the direction of your life together, but that cannot be the case if the women they want to settle down with do not respect them.
2. Cooking Skills
This is the big one. The modern independent woman has a five-bedroom mansion with six bathrooms and two kitchens, but she uses all the rooms in the house except the two kitchens. If you have a drawer in your kitchen full of take-out menus instead of recipes, you are the type of woman that men do not want. No man wants to host his parents for dinner only to have his woman order Chinese for them. Men want a woman who can cook up a storm and feed his whole clan should they happen to visit. You do not have to be a gourmet chef, but at least learn how to fry, sauté, boil, poach, steam, garnish, serve, and bake stuff.
1. Honesty And Faithfulness
Ask any man in a relationship what his number one deal breaker is and the chances are that he will say that it is dishonesty and unfaithfulness. Men want women who they can trust and depend on, regardless of the time or distance between them. Honesty and faithfulness are hard to come by these days, since people have put less weight on monogamy and more weight on their current feelings of infatuation and happiness. Men are territorial, they do not like to share their most important things especially their women. A man will most likely not forgive you if he finds out that you have not been faithful to him.