Ah yes, some good old fun under the covers. Everyone knows that sex is something that is extremely intimate and special between two people, but when it comes to this bedroom activity, men and women can have differing viewpoints. The male perspective of sex compared to the female perspective is going to have a few gaps of knowledge in between the sheets, so that is where we come in. Here we have a list of 15 Things Men Wish Women Knew About Sex. It may seem like all we need to do is learn the basics about the birds and the bees, but there is a bit more to it than that.
Take for instance the fact that men do not simply want to screw around and be done with it. Men enjoy other forms of physical intimacy and romance, much like women do. And if your guy tends to escape the bedroom or fall asleep after sex, try not to hold it against him. It turns out that science has an explanation for that. Having sexual intercourse is such a passionate and close activity that men can sometimes feel very out of place and vulnerable.
Anyway, we are sure that these 15 tips will help to open your mind and see dirty business in a whole new light. By all means, enjoy your sexual activities, but keep in mind what your guy wants and needs. When you know a little bit more about what is going on in his head during this experience, you can help to provide an amazing time in bed.
15. Don’t Underestimate Foreplay
Sometimes people can bypass foreplay because they want to jump right into the real action. However, this prelude to sexual intercourse can be a whole lot of fun and it is pretty important if you want your time in the bedroom to be amazing. Guys appreciate foreplay and this is a nice time to engage in a variety of sexy activities. For example, you may try role-playing, using adult toys, or giving your guy a lap dance. Even doing some kissing on his body or talking dirty to him could qualify as foreplay. This all helps to build up the passion and desire so that sex is even more incredible.
14. Guys Actually Dig Romantic Gestures
You may have your doubts, but for men, it isn’t all about the intercourse. Sure, they absolutely love having sex with you, but that is not the be-all, end-all. There are many other factors that go into a pleasurable experience. Your man will love the small, intimate gestures that show your love and affection. Things like caressing his body, giving him little kisses and licks, and even dressing up in some sexy lingerie are other ways to play to his desire and up the romance factor. Talk to your guy and determine what really turns him on; then you can do it and the sexual fire will truly get going!
13. Sometimes Dudes Just Aren’t Feeling it
This is a really important thing that men wish women would realize. There are going to be times when you have sex with your partner and it’s just not that great. A ho-hum sexual experience happens to the best of us, but it is crucial to remember that the responsibility does not fall on you. Sometimes a guy is just having a tough day or he is experiencing difficulty with getting off. This is absolutely normal and every guy is going to deal with it at some point. Therefore it is the man’s duty to let their girl know that it isn’t her fault.
12. Men Don’t Always Have to be the Initiator
There is this long-held belief that the guy is always supposed to initiate sex. Well, girls can initiate sex, too! It doesn’t always have to begin with a guy getting frisky and tearing the girl’s clothes off. In fact, a dude can truly appreciate a woman who just takes the bull by the horns and starts getting down and dirty with her man. She can surprise him with some action in the morning, or break out into an impromptu sexual gesture. Whatever it is, you can believe that your guy will find it attractive and a nice change of pace.
11. Don’t Fake it Til You Make it
Ladies, please please please, don’t fake an orgasm. As a rule of thumb, do not fake anything in bed because your guy will totally be able to tell. Not only is it unattractive, but it makes everyone feel lame in the end. We have already told you that there are times when a man will not come or feel one-hundred percent into the sex. Why would your man expect anything more of you? There are bound to be times when he can’t make you climax, and that is okay. This is also why communication is so important between a couple.
10. The Taste is Appealing
There are too many women who worry about how they taste “down there.” Well, newsflash: you taste delicious. Your guy is already attracted to you, and he is probably really looking forward to having sex with you. So if he gives you kisses or tongue action down there, do not worry about it. Just as he doesn’t mind if there is hair or stubble, he is not preoccupied with your taste. The odds are that he will actually enjoy it. The fact that you are getting lubed up on your own is a turn-on in itself, and it gives your man an ego boost, too!
9. Please Use Proper Protection
Again, this segues very nicely into the whole communication between couples thing. By now, we all know that protection is super important. Be sure to have that conversation, even if it feels weird at first. After all, the worst thing is to have an accident that could have been prevented. Do you really want to be rushing to the drug store at 2am for emergency contraception? Be open with your guy about your preferred form of birth control, whether that be the pill, an intrauterine device, or an injection. And remember, condoms are wonderful too and they come in loads of varieties.
8. Girl, Get on Top!
You know what, ladies? Sometimes your man gets tired and he just wants to relax and have you take over for a bit. Is that too much to ask? Not really. Sure, there are a lot of times when your guy is totally content to just get on top of you and work his sexual magic. However, there are loads of sex positions out there that call for girl on top. And it is those moments that can give your man a break, let him take a breather, and feel some pleasure while lying down. Have you ever noticed how much your guy sweats or pants during sex? Not a surprise, is it?
7. Sweating? No Sweat!
Speaking of sweat, guys don’t really care if the girl is sweating; that’s actually kind of hot. It shows that she is working hard for her guy and it really getting into the experience. After all, it is kind of a disappointment to have sex with a girl who is just laying there like a limp rag. So a woman who gets her movement on in bed may ends up sweating? That is a-okay. Plus, at the end, you are both sticky and wet and it is all part of the magic. Too often women get self-conscious about truly giving into the session, but really, no worries!
6. Go Easy on Guys
This is an important one to remember. After sex, your guy might be sore, I mean after all, they worked really hard for you! So if your man tends to just laze around after sex or feel a bit tender to the touch, do not think it is anything that you did wrong. It is just a biological response to the intimate physicality and within an hour or so he will be feeling better. Besides, women get sore after sex too. This is a nice time to just engage in some sexy talk, smooth caresses, or some gentle kisses on his body.
5. Take Care of Your Lady Parts
Listen up, girls! It is time to go back to women’s health class. Be sure to take care of those lady parts; that means going to pee after sexual intercourse. It might sound a bit funny, but your man does not want you to deal with a nasty urinary tract infection. That means less sexy time with him! So girls, please pay attention to your body and what it needs. Practice safe sex and everything will be a-okay! Not only will you feel relieved, but you will have less of a chance of contracting a gross yeast infection or worse.
4. Men Like to Hear Praise
You may think it sounds kind of primal, but men actually get a dopamine response in their brain when they hear their girlfriend or wife saying their name. Especially when she says his name in bed. So being a bit more vocal could really make your guy happy as a lark! You could try whispering his name into his ear and telling him what you want him to do to you. Or you could be enjoying the sexual pleasure so much that you just scream his name at the top of your lungs. Hey, whatever works, it is sure to get your man going.
3. Guys are Weird About Intimacy
Are you ever enjoying the best sex of your life with your man and then once it’s over, he just gets up and walks away? Well, it turns out that it’s normal for men to just get up out of bed after having sex. Sometimes guys are physically, mentally, and emotionally exhausted after some amazing bedroom activities, and they just need to distance themselves from the situation for a bit. They may need to nap, get a snack, or take a shower. Another reason for this could be that your man feels so vulnerable about the extremely intimate experience and needs to get away for a bit.
2. Men Have Other Erogenous Zones
A lot of us think that in order to get a man going, we need to excite them down there. It is not unusual for a woman to go after that part first when it comes to sexual intimacy. However, there are other areas of a man’s body that can arouse them and get them in a passionate mood. And when his girl is the one initiating the touches, it just about drives him wild. So be sure to explore the other wonderful parts of your man’s body. Go for his chest and torso, behind his ears, and his neck area.
1. Men Enjoy Other Forms of Intimacy
The male brain is not hardwired simply for straight-forward sexual intercourse. There are other ways to get him in the mood and boost his libido. Spicing things up in the bedroom and giving him something out of the ordinary is a sure-fire way to keep the passion and romance alive. Even a massage can be a nice way to show that you care and find him attractive. Finally, just give your man some credit; he doesn’t think about sex all the time.