We’ve all heard the expression “men are from Mars, women are from Venus.” Indeed, women usually do think quite differently from men, and thus express themselves differently as well. It should be no surprise how frustrating attempting to communicate with the opposite can be. You have probably found yourself more than once in a situation where you’ve been confused and frustrated trying to understand what your girlfriend was thinking. (Your girlfriend was probably also frustrated as to why you were not understanding.) In order to save you the trouble of racking your brain the next time such a scenario occurs, the following list will help you decode 10 common things that women say, and what they actually mean.
10. “Sure, we can go out, but text me the day of”
Your initial thought may be that she wants you to text to her as a reminder of your date since she is probably very busy. However, that assumption would be wrong. What she’s actually saying is something more along the lines of, “keep that day open, if I don’t find anything better to do, then we’ll go out.” Though it may seem mean, the woman you asked out may be also courted by a lot of different guys. She may thus simply be taking her time to decide which she should prioritize. Your best bet to avoid such a scenario would be to plan a date for either the following day or at the latest, within two days. The more time you wait, the more time she has to decide to change her mind.
9. “Wow! You’re really great with kids!”
Try not to be frighttened, but what she’s actually saying here is that she is considering you as the potential father of her future children. The first thing to do when you hear these words is not to freak out. It is important to note that she is not saying, “let’s get married and have babies.” She is merely pointing out the fact that she can see your relationship going long term, and is wondering if you feel the same as well. Again, there is no point in making a big deal out of it, as she is most likely thinking about children for the very distant future. If you are certain that you do not want children, this would probably be a good time to bring it up.
8. “Some guy kept hitting on me last night”
Sometimes, a woman just needs to hear that her man cares about her. Of course, she doesn’t want to cause a big scene, and will therefore opt for a more sneaky approach. “Some guy kept hitting on me last night” actually means “I’m trying to see if you get jealous so that I can be sure that you care about me.” There is no reason to get angry or threaten to kick anyone’s butt. Your lady just needs to know that you care about her, and appreciate her. In this situation, giving her simple compliment will make her happy and prompt her to drop the subject.
7. “We always do the same thing”
This sentence depends on the context, however, it occurs when discussing being intimate. When a woman says that you always do the same thing in bed, she is not just whining for the sake of whining. She is telling you that she wants you to initiate something passionate and new. Why wouldn’t she just tell you she want to try something exciting and fun? According to the Huffington Post, lots of reasons: shyness, awkwardness, fear of being judged, fear of hurting your feelings, these are just a few reasons why she may be hesitant to tell you what she really wants.
6. “I look awful in this dress”
Think your girlfriend is fishing for a compliment by stating that she looks awful in what she’s wearing? You’re completely correct. It’s easy for a woman to feel insecure about her looks, and it usually does her a world of good to hear that she looks beautiful. When she says that she looks terrible, it’s best not say that it’s simply the outfit, nor that she looks “fine.” She needs to hear that you think she is still attractive.
5. “Are you sure you want to visit your parents this weekend?”
No girlfriend wants to seem stubborn or wants you to think of her as a bad girlfriend. She’ll therefore word her thoughts very carefully. By asking you if you are certain that you want to go visit your parents, she is trying to subtly show you her hesitance in going. She does not want to go, but she also does not want to hurt your feelings. It is most likely that she is hoping that you will suggest another plan which may suit her better.
4. “I’m probably PMSing / It’s fine”
Both of the statements above mean that everything is definitely not fine. However, for some reason or other, your girlfriend is simply not ready to talk about what’s wrong yet. It may be that she is trying to assess her emotions to know if she’s over-reacting, or it may be that she is so upset she needs a few minutes to calm down and collect herself. The best thing to do in this situation, it to acknowledge that she is upset, and give her the space that she needs. When she is ready to discuss whatever it is that’s afflicting her, she will come find you and open the discussion.
3. “I wish my boyfriend was more like you”
Sorry to disappoint, but if a woman says, “I wish my boyfriend was more like you” she is not actually saying “I want to leave my boyfriend and be with you.” She is being totally sincere in what she is saying, but is trying to condense her thoughts into one easy, compact sentence. For example, how long would it take to say, “my boyfriend frustrates me sometimes, and when those situations arrive, I’m glad that I have you for emotional support. You are not threatening, and always there for me when I need you. I wish my boyfriend was like that too. Of course, I still want to be with him, despite the fact that he isn’t as nice as you though. I just also really need a friend to vent to, who understands me.” See?
2. “Do you think she’s pretty?”
No, your girlfriend is not trying to set you up in a catch-22 situation, and there is a way out without getting slapped in the face. You must simply tread carefully. Your girlfriend will know that you’re lying if you say an obviously beautiful woman is not pretty. However, your girlfriend does not want you to say that you find another woman more attractive than herself. What she’s actually doing, is showing you that she is feeling particularly insecure about herself and her looks. Therefore, the best way to approach this situation would be to agree, that the other woman is beautiful, but to remind your girlfriend that she is beautiful too, and that she is much more than just a pretty face to you. She wants you to remind her why you are with her, and what is special about her.
1. “What’s Wrong?”
Awkward situations can sometimes occur in bed. There is no need to be embarrassed, it happens to everyone. However, it can cause some slight miscommunciation between you and your partner. For instance, your girlfriend may try to initiate a night of passionate love-making, but for some reason, it simply isn’t happening. In such a case, a woman may ask “what’s wrong?” Your girlfriend does want to know if you are alright, but she is also worried that she did something wrong to cause the affliction. In such a situation, she is probably feeling quite insecure about her looks, and hoping to hear that you had a particularly stressful day at work, not that you no longer find her attractive. Simply reassure her and let her know that she is not to blame and all will be well.