How do you know you’ve just engaged in some passionate love making? A good sign would be your partner looking at you and saying “Hey! That was some damn good loving!” but that is not the only thing that may be going through their mind.
Sexuality, as lovely and as sexy as it can be, can also evoke all kinds of different thoughts and emotions that occur throughout the duration of the act. They aren’t always going to be sexy, and they aren’t always going to be happy ones (such as “OW!”) but if you are in a healthy relationship, you need to feel comfortable and relaxed in the bedroom.
If you’re a woman, you may find yourself thinking certain things that the other gender may not experience. Call me crazy, but I don’t think men have quite as much experience with getting hammered in the cervix, the way that some poor unfortunate women may experience with less gentle lovers.
There are a lot of advantages in terms of sexuality when it comes to being a woman (I hear multiple orgasms are neat), and that also opens the door to more things that they may think don’t occur to their male counterpart.
But with proper communication, the things that your lady is starting to think in bed may start to come second nature to you. As a result, you may start to develop a deeper sexual connection that allows you both to feel comfortable to explore your sexuality further.
If you are curious what thoughts may be going through your man’s mind at any given moment during the love making, feel free to also explore that side of the conversation through another one of our previous lists.
10. You’re Pulling My Hair!
One of the disadvantages that many women may face in the bedroom is the length of their hair. Sure, it may look super sexy when you let your hair down, but that doesn’t make it any less painful when your partner accidentally falls or gets caught on it during intimate moments. Coincidentally you may tell your partner that you like having your hair pulled, but that does NOT mean, you like it to feel like it’s being ripped from your scalp. If the pain isn’t enough of a deterrent with long hair, you also may have to deal with it getting in your face/mouth throughout the session, and that hardly works as foreplay.
9. We need to do THAT again
If you are currently in a relationship that involves regular sex with the same individual, you need to hope that you are often thinking about how good you feel during the act. Rumor has it a quick way to make sure someone is turned on, is to make sure that what you are doing to them feels good and the more you are thinking and communicating that, the better off you will be. If you don’t often find yourself thinking about how nice it feels during the act, ask yourself if that is a relationship that is worth continuing.
8. Just Like That…(Please Don’t Change Your Rhythm)
One of the quickest ways to make sure that a female is hitting her maximum pleasure in the bedroom, is making sure that you are able to stick with a rhythm that works for her. Shockingly, if she starts saying “oh yeah, just like that” it does not mean that it is time to start hammering away like you’re Ron Jeremy. I know it can be hard to keep the same pace going for a while, but if something is feeling good, hopefully your partner does a great job communicating that to you. Even if you are not able to keep at that pace the whole time, you may hopefully remember it for the next session and help get her closer to the peak, in a more efficient manner going forward.
7. Can You Finish Now?
Sex is great and all, but it can also be exhausting and after a while you may just want to go and get some hydration! Plus, it might feel amazing, but that doesn’t change the fact that if you don’t stop, you’ll miss your dinner reservations. This thought doesn’t have to occur during every session (in fact, I hope it doesn’t!), but once in a while you may just wish that your partner would hurry up and finish. This thought might get amplified all the more if you are with a partner that is…less skilled in the bedroom, and there are better things that you could be doing with your time.
6. I Don’t Bend That Way
Despite all the build up that goes into sex, for a guy, there aren’t a whole lot of acrobatic moves that need to be performed throughout the act. That might not be the case for a woman who may constantly have her legs and body thrown every which way throughout any given session. That’s not to say that sex doesn’t have to be a performance straight out of the Cirque du Soleil, but there may definitely be moments where you want to yell “HEY A-HOLE, LET’S BEND YOU LIKE A PRETZEL AND SEE HOW YOU LIKE IT.”
5. I Can’t Feel My Legs Anymore
For all of the disadvantages that come with being a woman, one of the main advantages in the bedroom comes from your ability to have multiple orgasms. If you do find yourself able to experience multiple orgasms in a session, you may find that your legs are weak and shaky by the end of it. While this is not true for every woman, there is still no doubting that a great session can leave you particularly weak in the knees. As you may feel your legs getting hoisted up, or held in certain positions for extended periods of time, this may further increase the feeling of numbness in your legs. This isn’t a bad thing, but it does mean that you might want to go run that marathon before you have sex and not after, when all you’ll want to do is cuddle.
4. Should I Fake It?
There might not be anything as devastating to bedroom life than starting a habit of faking your orgasm. Not every person is going to be able to have an orgasm, and that is totally okay. Hopefully you are with a partner that respects you enough to realize that you can still have a great time without the big O. That being said, for those who may be feeling insecure in the bedroom or are with a partner who is, the idea of faking an orgasm may cross their mind. If you are with a partner that is not exactly revving your engine, the idea of faking an orgasm so that the session will end sooner may also be appealing.
3. How do my boobs look?
Now, I am going to be honest. As a man, I am not often thinking about how my nipples are looking during any given moment of intimacy. That may not be the case for women, whose boobs come in all shapes and sizes, and may come to the forefront of their mind during any given session. If you are on top, you may be thinking about how your boobs look when they bounce (or fail to bounce). Similarly, the angle changes when you are on your side, and on your back or whichever way you end up positioned. Boobs can have a fantastic role in the bedroom, so if you constantly find yourself thinking about your own, perhaps open the conversation with your partner. Your partner may either dispel some of your insecurities, or find other ways to increase your level of comfort.
2. Can You Make A Sound Please?
There are absolutely going to be sessions with your partner where the most important asset is being stealthy (just pretend you’re ninjas!) That doesn’t have to be every session, and for many women, they may find that their male counterpart is far too quiet during the love making. This need for the guy to be vocal, may be further felt if you feel that you are particularly loud in bed. If you are someone that is quieter without noticing it, it is important to make sure you still make an effort to ensure that your partner knows you are having a good time. Nothing can kill your sexual confidence quicker than always second guessing if your partner is having a good time.
1. Your Lover’s Name
One of the most important foundations of a healthy sexual relationship is making sure that you find your partner physically attractive. As a result, their name and what they look like should be a constant thought throughout any given session. One thing that can derail even the steamiest of sessions is if you accidentally call your partner by the wrong name. It is one thing if you have an accidental slip of the tongue and call Alex, Al, but calling him Michelangelo might be a harder pill for your partner to swallow.