Men, resist the frustration that comes with determining how she feels romantically. It’s not the same for women as it is for the uglier sex, so have some sympathy. Why sympathy? Look at it from her perspective. Romantic mistakes for women can be extremely costly. If she chases after a guy and hooks up with him, consider the ramifications. If he turns out to be an asshat, which is entirely likely, she’s left with fewer years to find a suitable guy. If she turns up pregnant, and he’s an asshat, she’s now connected to this guy for the rest of her life. No bueno.
It doesn’t end there. Women, concerned about their physical safety, run the risk of going after some psychopath with a bad temper. Just as bad, they could find a guy who can’t keep his junk in his pants and sleeps with her best friend. Even worse, he could still be into Dragonball Z – a total deal-breaker.
So, the reason it’s frustrating to find out if she’s interested is because it’s supposed to be a challenge. But, like beating M. Bison in the original Street Fighter, it’s totally possible to be successful. It just requires some attention to detail. Check out these 10 subtle signs she likes you.
10. She Plays With Her Hair
A woman’s sexuality is almost directly connected to her hair. Just look inside any beauty salon. There are products, pictures, and people all there to help a woman have the best hair she can. Why is this the case? It’s because nothing is as unstoppable as a woman who has big, beautiful, sexy hair. It’s an extension of herself and is a lethal weapon in her hunt for a man.
But guys, listen up. Because she’s so connected to her hair, paying close attention to what she does with her hair can be telling. When she’s talking to a man she likes, she will almost always play with her hair. It may be a full-on stroke of her hair with her hand all the way down to just twiddling the ends with her fingertips. It could be to get him to notice or it could be to just alleviate the stress of talking to a guy she likes.
A word to the wise: whatever the case may be, just don’t sniff her hair when she’s not looking. She won’t like that.
9. The Smile
Women know men want someone who seems happy to see them. Just think about it. If a man has his choice between two women, what’s going to be the deciding factor? Will he choose the woman that never smiles? The one who is sulking and brooding when he’s around? Or, is he going to go after the smiling, bright, woman who appears to find his presence thrilling? It’s a no-brainer.
A word to the wise: A smile by a polite stranger is not always mean she is interested. Some women are just nice generally and will smile even if she doesn’t know the person. So, before getting the wedding invitations drawn up, do a bit more investigation first.
8. The Heightened Voice
Women who speak with men they like raise the pitch of their voices. It may be intentional. A woman who has a high-pitched voice often exudes a higher level of estrogen which means she’s more fertile. Women know this and may use it to their advantage to get a guy’s attention.
It may also be unintentional. If a woman likes a guy, she may just get a little more nervous and can’t control how high her voice goes. It could simply be a case of nerves, but the bottom line is that his presence has some effect on her. It’s subtle, but it counts.
A word to the wise: nerves come in two forms. The first is like the one described above. The second: she’s creeped out. When she’s creeped out, the tone of her voice will go up unintentionally. In this case, watch her eyes. If she’s eyeballing the exits, it’s a non-starter.
7. The Eye Contact
For women, it’s all about making that connection that is beyond the physical. Because of this eye contact is a subtle, surefire way to tell whether she’s interested. With eye contact, it’s a form of communication that says, “I like you and I’m interested in what you have to say.” If a woman is interested, she will usually ensure that the object of her affection gets this message.
A word to the wise: Look in the mirror. If there’s barbeque sauce that’s dried up from that sandwich at lunch, she may be staring at that. Plus, if her eyes widen during eye contact, turn away. It means that she’s already dialed “9-1” and is ready to press the other “1” because she’s been completely creeped out.
6. She Speaks Up
Women refuse to talk to people they don’t like. This goes for women and men in her world equally. Think about some other women that come to mind, but in a non-sexual way, like mom. Surely, mom’s mentioned people that she doesn’t like. Chances are she’d rather fake her own death than talk to them. The girl that’s interested on the other hand? She’s no different than mom. Hopefully, those two women aren’t the same people.
Bottom line: women want to make the connection and there’s almost no better way than talking to the guy she wants.
A word to the wise: “Talking” does not mean an occasional, friendly greeting. Everyone has a friend that swears mightily that the last girl to say, “Hi” to them wanted to jump his bones. Obviously, he’s wrong and in for a very, very sad life. Use discretion when picking up on this sign.
5. She Wants To Hang Out
Just like she will refuse to talk to people she doesn’t like, an interested woman will refuse to hang out with people she doesn’t like too. If she does like someone, especially a guy, she’ll find any excuse to get by his side. A project at work? She’ll jump on it. Planning a party? She’ll help with the details. Working out? She’ll spot you. It’s just all about taking advantage of the opportunity.
A word to the wise: She also wants to hang out with people she doesn’t want to have sex with. They’re called her friends. So, if she’s made good on her promise to buy those “Best Friends Forever” sweatshirts, she’s not interested.
4. She Tells Her Friends
One fundamental difference between men and women is that women tell their friends everything. This isn’t a joke. It’s everything. Her bra size? Her friends know it. How she slept last night? Her friends know the details. The guy she’s interested in? Her friends even know his shoe size. For male friends? Well, they may or may not know each other’s last names, but who cares, right?
In the case of the guy she’s interested in, he will be a hot topic. So, pay attention to what her friends know and how they engage in conversation. It’ll be a dead giveaway.
A word to the wise: If what she tells her friends something along the lines of, “6-foot male, dark hair, small build, with a thin, creepy mustache,” then her friends are the cops. Stay away.
3. She Doesn’t Bring Up Other Guys
Women subtly need the guy they’re interested in to know she’s available without appearing desperate. The best way to do this is to pretend as if the guy she’s after is the only guy in the world. Plus, if she’s actively looking, she probably doesn’t want to go into detail about why her last relationship flamed out. She may not yet be ready to explain to a future lover that she kidnapped her ex-boyfriend’s dog at the end of the relationship. That’s something she’ll want to tell him after he’s already hooked.
A word to the wise: She may bring up other guys so her love interest doesn’t think she’s a leper. So, put everything she says in context.
2. She Gets Dressed Up
Women want to look their best for a guy they like. Now, this basically means the man she’s interested in will never catch her without her having given herself a once-over in the mirror. Everyone knows men love with their eyes, so she’s going to take advantage and give herself the best chance at success.
A word to the wise: Just because she looks good doesn’t mean she’s looking good for a specific person. If a guy says to himself, “I love her in those yoga pants,” then she wears yoga pants the next day, consider that the pants are just comfortable; not a sign.
1. She Notices The Little Things
Women pay extremely close attention to the men that they like. It’s her way of showing her affection without being totally obvious about it.
So, does she happen to bring pizza, knowing it’s your favorite? Does she casually drop off some allergy meds when she hears you sniffling? Did she notice your hamburger came without the ranch dressing you ordered? Did she hold in her barf when she realized that you like ranch dressing on your hamburger? Well, she’s noticing every move, in the hopes you’ll notice she cares.
A word to the wise: Don’t wait around hoping she will notice the little things. She either will notice them or she won’t. If she doesn’t, don’t feel bad. She may just think you’re ugly.