Whether you are single or in a relationship, there are advantages and disadvantages that come with both options. It can be easy to think that when it comes to life, there are inherent advantages when it comes to being in a relationship in contrast to being single, but you would be wrong! The key is being in something healthy, because there is no “right” way to live, only a right way for you. While there is something to be said about cuddling up after a long day, there is also something to be said about the true sense of independence that comes with being a single adult.
Whether you have been single a while, have always been single, or are recently on the rebound from a relationship, there are advantages that you can always try to remember when you are starting to get down in the dumps.
Who and when you choose to date is something that, as much as we feel it’s in our control, really isn’t. What you do control is the quality of relationship in which you engage. A lot of people stay in relationships that are not healthy, and that is far from a perfect situation. In fact, if you are in an unhealthy relationship, really study the answers on what makes being single so amazing and know that you deserve to be happy.
If you are in a relationship and you are happy, then hopefully you can relate to the advantages of being single, but also know the ten advantages of being in a healthy relationship, which are discussed below. So, without further ado, here are the ten pros of being single.
10. You Feel Free To Experiment With Your Look
Now, this isn’t to say that you aren’t able to switch up your look or wardrobe while in a relationship, but it can be all the more freeing to experience some shake ups while you are rocking the single train. Being single is a huge time in your life to find things that you love about yourself and further your own sense of identity, and your overall physical look is huge to how you may perceive yourself. If it doesn’t look good, who cares? Just try again. Sure, you might have more confidence if you are in a relationship to do something radical, but you’ll certainly get a wider sample of people’s opinions if you mix up your look while you are single.
9. Time To See Friends
One thing that should be evident in your relationship is that your partner is also your best friend. You should want to spend more time with that partner than anybody else, and that can make any breakup seem like quite a shock to your system. When you are newly single, one of the first things you may become aware of is just how much more time you feel you have. As a result, you may be able to reach out to old friends, who you could only see once a while when you were in a relationship.
8. You Learn A Lot About Yourself
There is no doubting that you can experience self-growth while you are developing a relationship. In fact, one of the best ways to know you are in a healthy relationship is that you still constantly feel yourself striving as an individual. Yet, one of the things you should be most excited about when you realize you are single is the extra time you can spend learning to love yourself. It is easy to lose your identity when you are in a relationship, and as you start to rebuild your new identity, you may find yourself in a stronger place than you thought you would be when you got started.
7. You Can Focus On Your Interests
Now don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with sitting through six super awesome romantic comedies that all have a super original plot, especially when all your friends are doing boring things like drinking beer and watching sports. Even the most patient of guys may get tired of romantic comedies quicker than their girlfriend. When you’re single, do you know what you’re going to watch on Netflix? Whatever you want, buddy. Sure, that might not be enough of a win to overcome the loneliness of watching Netflix alone, but at the very least it should give you a feeling of freedom and independence.
6. You Can Expand Your Interests
There is nothing wrong with being in a relationship with someone for an extended period of time and realizing that you may not have as many interests or hobbies as you once had. It is only natural to have less time to go around. When you are single, that newfound time can be spent not only on focusing on your own interests but on developing new ones. It can be really awful to just sit at home and not do much after a breakup. Instead, use this as an opportunity to get out of the house and continue to grow as a person.
5. You Learn What You Want In A Partner
If you are currently riding a wave of heartbreak, this advice might not be the most comforting to you at the moment, but I assure you it will be one day. The realization that you get to pick a new partner, while overwhelming, can also be exciting. You will hopefully learn something from every relationship you are in, and as you get older, you should be picking partners with whom you know you are compatible. As a result, hopefully dating is something that is a lot more fun with potential partners.
4. You’re Out Of That Unhealthy Relationship
This definitely won’t apply to everyone, but is the relationship that you just got out of not a very healthy one? One of the best feelings can be knowing that you have removed yourself from a relationship that was not healthy to you or your partner. You may have forgotten some of the things that you were passionate about, and being single, as you know, is a great way to rediscover them. Remember though, just because you know a breakup needs to happen, does not always make it easier right away. One thing is for sure, when you get given the gift of some time, you will see that the whole thing was for the best.
3. You Can Focus On Work & Other Obligations
When you are busy being an amazing partner to your significant other, different areas in your life may start to slip. If you are someone that is clearly passionate about your career or other time consuming activities, being recently single can be a really great opportunity to continue to put the time and effort in that you need to succeed. If you are a student, no matter how upsetting your breakup may be, you can only spend so much time focusing on that when you have finals and other obligations coming at you. Sure, cuddling is nice, but you know what else is nice? Getting promotions.
2. No Pressure To Spend Money
It can be amazing to go out on the town and have a fantastic date with your partner. One of the downfalls of that fantastic night out may be the bill. Every relationship is different and they don’t all need to zap your wallet, but there is no doubting that dating in general is not a poor man’s game. If you are struggling with funds, you need to hope that your partner will recognize the little things you do in your life to make their life all the better.
1. You Can Flirt
Forget dating! That’s way too much work! Sometimes it can just be nice to sit back with a glass of wine and get your Tinder on! If you are single, especially recently single, you may feel like your ego and confidence are not as high as they once were. One way to inflate that, albeit a bit superficially, is to go out and flirt with different individuals. Not only will you get an idea of what other people are out there, but you may realize that this ‘dating thing’ that you haven’t had to experience for a while, might not be so bad. Just make sure you’ve got your classic eye roll ready for when a guy inappropriately comments on your outfit!
Now if those 10 reasons are having you second guessing your relationship, maybe these 10 reasons as to why having a healthy relationship is amazing will be enough to swing you back around to the love!
10. They Are Your Best Friend
There should be nobody in your life who you are more excited to see than your partner. Sure, you have friends, but there is no doubting that life is better if your partner is also your best friend. You are going to see your partner more than anybody else, and you’re just going to spend your time staring at the clock if you are wishing you were with someone else. Be with the partner that makes you wish every activity you do without them was shorter, because it means getting to get back to hugs!
9. You Get To Be Excited For Them
Along with being your best friend, one of the advantages that comes with being in a healthy relationship is that you get to get incredibly excited to see your partner at the end of any day. One of the best parts of my day, every day, is when I get walk through the door and see my girlfriend. Even the most mundane activities in life can seem more exciting if you know that your partner is on the other end. Similarly, if you find yourself dreading the time that you need to spend with your partner, what are you doing in that relationship?
8. They’re Your Biggest Cheerleader And Support System
Life is not always going to be easy and sometimes things are going to come along that require the support of those around you to help you get through. Friends and family are all wonderful outlets of support, but your significant other should know you better than anyone, and as a result, hopefully know the steps that you need to take to feel better. If you come across things in your day that are exciting, they are even more exciting if you get to share that news with your partner because you know they will have nothing but love and support for you.
7. Sex Is Better
Now, don’t get me wrong, you can still have sex even if you are not in a relationship, but sex with someone that you truly love and care about really does feel all the better and makes it a much more impactful experience. Sexuality is something that gets better the more experience you have, and I guarantee sex with your girlfriend of one year should feel a hell of a lot better than the random girl from the bar. Not to mention, you may have a few more toys or things to help add to the experience with your girlfriend in contrast to someone with whom you are on a first date.
6. You Get To Go On Fun Dates
It’s too bad that in many relationships, once they get too comfortable, couples start to forget the importance of romancing and dating. It’s extra too bad when you consider that going out on dates can be one of the best parts of being in a relationship. Even if the activity may not be in their interests, they may be up for going because you are, and that could greatly increase your enjoyment. You see fun date ideas posted all over the internet, and it can be extra fun to re-enact them with the person that you love. Even standing in the rain is more romantic when you get to do it with your partner!
5. Some Activities Are Just Meant For Dates
How I Met Your Mother has a fantastic episode near the start of the series in which the characters are discussing brunch, and how it is not a meal that you can eat as a single person. This upsets newly single Marshall, who, of course, loves himself some brunch. While the angle is humorous, it speaks to the true nature that some things in society are just meant for couples. Sure, you can go ice skating, but it’s a lot more fun to go with your partner. I also don’t think there will be too many movie tickets sold to single people on February 14th. Don’t get me wrong, there are also activities that are better when single, but that doesn’t take away from this point.
4. You Get To Split Some Costs
While it can be true that dating can be expensive, one of the advantages of being in a relationship is knowing that your partner has your back in several ways, and one of those ways may be financially. Are one of you having a slow month at work? Hopefully your partner is able to help pick up the extra costs and knows that you would do the exact same if you could. It can be stressful borrowing money, but even more so when it is from friends or family. At least when you borrow money from your partner, you know it’s coming from a place of love and it benefits both of you.
3. You Have Someone To Talk To
Do you have a job that maybe allows for a great deal of downtime? If so, you may already know the inherent advantage of having somebody around to whom you can talk. You get to talk about things in your day, learn things about theirs, and ultimately it can make time pass by a lot quicker. Before I took this writing job, I waited until I could talk to my girlfriend. I knew she would be supportive, because she’s amazing, but it was still so nice to just have that person there that I knew I could talk to about my fears and concerns, but who was also not shy of telling me all the amazing potential that could come from it.
2. You Get To Expand Your Own Interests
Nobody wants to be in a relationship with someone that they think might be close-minded. Your partner is not your identical twin, and, as a result, you may find that the longer you date, the more of their hobbies and traits start to develop in yourself. I didn’t know one year ago that I would know some of Meghan Trainor’s music, but I do, and I guarantee you that is because of my girlfriend. If your partner has different passions (such as cooking), it can be really fun to interact with those areas in your own life as well.
1. You May Get To Grow Old With Them
When it comes to things that you want to achieve in this lifetime, everyone is going to have a different answer, and that’s totally okay. For myself, I want to be able to grow old with my girlfriend and reflect on a life where I can say I know I made a positive impact on the people around me. As a result, there is no better advantage to being in what is a perfect relationship than being able to grow old with your partner. It will hopefully be an amazing and rewarding experience when I am older and I get to look back on my past, and do so with the help of a partner who I know has seen me and loved me on all of the days, not just the easy ones.