Single men are everywhere. They roam the streets, they squeeze three deep at bars, they even walk their dogs at the local parks! Society may make it seem like every thing that a man does, is with the intention to try and get laid. While the truth is, there are plenty of non-sexually-driven reasons for single men to be doing all of those things. Anyone is allowed to walk along streets to get to work! And you can do so without the idea that you are going to fall in love with a stranger. Bars can be really fun, especially with your bros. And a balmy 75 degrees when you have a pup is the perfect time to give that little beast some exercise.
Still, there are plenty of single men out there looking for women, and men. Are you one of them? Get ready to learn a little bit more about the habits of other single men. This list takes a look at some of the statistics of men, specifically surrounding intimate habits, relationship habits, and courting habits (so you better believe something like sexting also gets covered!)
Which United States city has the most intercourse in the country? How often are single men doing it? What percentage of men would lie about wanting a relationship just to get laid? All of these questions, and more, are looked at on this list of 10 facts about the love lives of single men. Some of you will be able to relate, others of you might just be thankful that you have a girlfriend!
10. Benefiting From Friends
According to a Match.com survey, 53% of the men who were polled said they have had a “friends with benefits” relationship in the past. This particular study took place in 2013. This FwB trend has increased rapidly from 2011, when only 20% of those polled said they’d had a friends with benefits relationship (compared to 47% of the singles polled in 2013, of which 53% were men).
There are definitely some advantages to taking things slowly, especially at the start. Having a friend with benefits is like testing the water before diving in. Given that we now have technology that allows us to meet people easier than ever before, perhaps it is not a shock that a lot of people are preferring ‘more casual’ arrangements.
9. Waiting For It
While there is a rise of casual intercourse in America (exemplified partly in the friends with benefits trend above) there is also a decrease in a certain other area of love making. The amount of women willing to put out before establishing an exclusive relationship with their partners is declining! Or, to put it another way, more women want to wait longer before getting into bed with someone they’re meeting for the first time.
Men may try, but it is looking more and more like men will need to make the exclusive relationship commitment before getting it on with a growing percentage of women! Now the question is what percentage of men would lie about wanting a relationship simply to get laid? But we have that answer for you below!
In 2010, 20% of women would wait to be exclusive. In 2012, the number had climbed to 37%. Looks like the pond is drying up!
8. Sext And Tell
When it comes to sext messages (categorized in the poll as an explicit text or a sexy, scandalous photo) over half of the single men surveyed have received one (57% of the men polled). Receiving a sext is great! It’s also probably assumed by the sender that it will be kept private. That, however, is not always the case.
According to the same survey, 23% of the singles polled have shared their sext messages with other people. Within that sample group of 23%, a whole bunch of men admitted to sharing the sext with three or more other people!
When it comes to being offended, 42% of men said they wouldn’t mind if a sext of theirs was shared with others.
7. State Of The Union
Insidehook ran a male sex survey of ~10,000 males to see just how happy America was with their love life. It turns out that singles across the country have extreme variation in their sexual satisfaction. The singles most unsatisfied with their love lives are in Los Angeles. Maybe it’s all the terrible commuter traffic. But then again, the men in a couple that live in Los Angeles are the most satisfied. Go figure!
As far as overall satisfaction, Chicago takes the cake. What’s curious about that statistic is that Chicago is also the city with the highest percentage of men doing it once a month or less.
San Francisco sees the most men having intercourse on a daily basis. And for some east coast representation, New York ranks as the most…average? That’s right. In terms of satisfaction, frequency, and number of partners, New York is right in the middle.
6. Digital Content
A whopping 82% of the men polled admitted to watching adult entertainment and just under half of them claim it has had no effect on their love lives. Just under a third of them claim it’s actually made them better at pleasing their partner. There are certainly some “innovative” videos to excite and inspire the viewers out there. Fifteen percent of the men polled claim that it’s actually given them unrealistic expectations in regards to their lovers.
And then of course there’s the last 8%. These poor men (read: geniuses) claim that watching the industry is their substitute for dating. Living the dream? Or living in a dream? It’s hard to tell from here…
5. Might As Well Face It, You’re Addicted To Love…Making
The odds, according to the Insidehook study, are in your favor when it comes to not thinking you’re an addict. Seventy-two percent of the men surveyed claim they are free from an intercourse addiction. Another fourteen percent of men are stuck in that limbo of confusion, where they couldn’t determine for themselves if they were addicted or not. And the final 14% are able to state, quite officially, that they have an addiction to sex. Hopefully these aren’t the same men that are located in Chicago, doing it a maximum of 12 times a year. If that’s the case, it might be time for them to move to San Francisco!
4. Who’s Your Fantasy?
Thinking about love making is something that people do all the time. It’s not new. And it can be a lot of fun to fantasize. But what do men think about when they have an unoccupied brain? According to the Insidehook study, only 1% of men will fantasize about a boss. Only 5% of men admit to thinking about their significant other’s friend. Exes and coworkers are next, at 12% and 14% respectively. Celebrity fantasies do the trick for 19% of the men polled. And the only thing that beats significant other (with 24% of the vote) is the “friend” category, getting 25% of the vote.
3. Would You Rather…
Getting intimate can be a great time, but the same positions over and over can make the experience a little stale. Trying new things is a great way to rectify that, but what if you couldn’t? What if you were stuck with only one position for the rest of your life?
When asked this question, 31% of the men who were polled said they’d choose cowgirl. The second most highly ranked position, doggy style, came in at 29%. Missionary was next at 27% percent, and then the favorability drops off considerably. Only 7% would choose reverse cowgirl. A brave 2% chose standing, and 4% picked something other than the positions in the survey. A raunchy bunch, those guys!
2. Wandering-Eye Worries
Chances are you aren’t a Greek God (and if you are, why do you want to know about the love lives of mere mortals?). Maybe you’ve spent hours in the gym so that your body looks like it’s carved from stone. Most men, however, are self-conscious in some way when they’re in the buff.
In the Insidehook study, 43% of men claimed the stomach as their most worrisome body part. Surprisingly few men were self-conscious about their “manhood”, with only 9% of the subjects picking that part. 4% stated it was their chest, 3% marked their hair, and 2% had scars that made them self-conscious. 39% percent were romantics that said they weren’t self-conscious at all because they were “too busy looking at her.”
1. King Con (Man)
People have been conning other people for years. Since the dawn of time, really. It’s a practice that still goes on and will likely never die (bummer).
So when it comes to the love department, what’s the biggest lie that the men from the survey have told to try and get laid?
To start, 48% of men claimed they lied about being interested in a relationship. This correlates with the earlier trend we saw with more women waiting to be exclusive to have intercourse. Of course some men would lie to get around that.
19% said they lied about being single. 19% also said they lied about not being interested in a relationship (friends with benefits strikes again!). 6% had lied about having more money than they actually did, and the same percentage had lied about having a better job than they really did. And finally, a low 2% lied about having a job that could help a woman with her career. Talk about getting in on the ground floor!