Recently, the idea of monogamy has come into question. Both celebrities and the public have debated whether spending your life with one person and one person only, is an outdated tradition that humans have been forced to mold themselves to. And why wouldn’t the idea of a happily ever after come into question? We’re all taught from a very young age that one day we’ll grow up, find “the one,” and ride off into the sunset together, to start a blissful and carefree life, just like Cinderella and Prince Charming. Unfortunately, this concept is more fairytale than reality. In reality, a lot of us will be surrounded by married couples who don’t seem as happy as they could be, and divorced couples who are happier apart than they were together. Of course, there is always the chance you’ll be one of the lucky ones who finds a partner that you can be happy with from age 20 to age 100, but that’s not in the cards for everyone.
Some people just weren’t built for monogamy and have come to the conclusion that having one partner for the rest of their lives isn’t going to make them happy. Below is a list of ten celebrities who don’t believe in the idea of monogamy. All of these celebrities have been vocal about their thoughts concerning the confining mold that comes with the words, “till death do us part.”
10. Scarlett Johansson
Although Scarlett Johansson was once married to Ryan Reynolds and is now engaged to Romain Dauriac, Johansson has voiced her opinions about the outdated concept of monogamy. In an interview with Cosmopolitan she said, “I don’t think [being monogamous] is a natural instinct for human beings, but it doesn’t mean I don’t believe in monogamy or true love. I believe in finding a soul mate. Monogamy can be a hard word for some people. I don’t think it applies to everybody, and I don’t think a lot of people can do it.” Here’s wishing that Johansson can stick with it and stay monogamous and happy with her fiancé, Romain Dauriac.
9. Hugh Hefner
This may come as a surprise, but Hugh Hefner is one of the celebrities who doesn’t necessarily believe in monogamy. In an interview with Fox News, Hefner said, “I think that monogamy is something that has been invented along the way to take care of the children.” Hefner has shown his undying support for the non-monogamous lifestyle, by having as many as seven girlfriends at one time. However, in 2011 Hefner was ready to say, “I do,” to 25-year-old Crystal Harris. Harris ended up calling off the wedding because she felt uncomfortable with Hefner’s playboy lifestyle.
8. Cameron Diaz
Cameron Diaz has dated her fair share of bachelors, but she’s never seemingly found the one that she wanted to settle down with. Maybe that’s because she doesn’t believe that humans are supposed to be in a monogamous relationship. In an interview with InStyle, Diaz said, “I don’t know if anyone is really naturally monogamous. We all have the same instincts as animals. But we live in a society where it’s been ingrained in us to do these things.” Later in an interview with ABC News, Diaz clarified her comment by saying that she was only voicing the opinions of the character that she was playing in the film, The Other Woman.
7. Shailene Woodley
At just 22-years-old, Shailene Woodley has voiced her apprehensions about the idea of a soul mate. In an interview with Marie Claire, Woodley said, “I just haven’t met anyone where I was like, ‘Wow, I could definitely see myself spending a season of my life with you.’ I don’t even know if humans are genetically made to be with one person forever.” Although Woodley seems certain that she won’t find her partner in life anytime soon, who knows, maybe she’ll still find her happily ever after.
6. Maria Bello
Maria Bello, one of the stars of A History of Violence, told her controversial views about monogamy to Esquire in 2006. In the article she said that, “when you have to stay sexually monogamous to this one person, I think it’s usually a big fat lie.” Bello also went on to say that she believes that the idea of being with one person for the rest of your life is nonsensical. The talented actress has written about being in a same-sex relationship with her partner Clare Munn and has a son with her former boyfriend.
5. Tom Ford
Although Tom Ford has been in a relationship with his partner, journalist Richard Buckley, for the past 18 years, Ford has still expressed his doubts about the concept of monogamy. In an interview with Arena, Ford said, “I think that monogamy is artificial. I do not think it’s something that comes naturally to us.” Although monogamy might not come natural to Tom Ford, he seems to be very much in love with his partner.
4. Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith
Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith have been very honest with the public when it comes to their marriage. They have even hinted that their marriage is an open one. In the Huffington Post, Pinkettt-Smith said that her husband is “his own man” and that the pair can “both do whatever we want,” because they trust and love each other. In another interview Will said, “our perspective is, you don’t avoid what’s natural. You’re going to be attracted to people. In our marriage vows, we didn’t say forsaking all others.”
3. Gwyneth Paltrow
Gwyneth Paltrow garnered some attention when she said that she “admired” people who have extra-marital affairs. Her reasoning behind this is that it shows our, “human flaws.” However, in another interview Paltrow said that, “I insist on monogamy. If my partner can’t live with that, he’s out of here.” Then again, Paltrow has made some comments to make people think that her and her estranged hubby participated in an open relationship. It seems like Paltrow can’t quite make up her mind on this hot topic.
2. Ethan Hawke
Ethan Hawke has been very candid when it comes to his feelings on monogamy. He’s said things like, “people have such a childish view of monogamy and fidelity,” he has even gone so far as to say that humans are poly-amorous by nature. To top it all off, he added that if your, “world was rocked because your lover wasn’t faithful to you, [it] is a little bit like acting rocked that your hair went gray.”
1. Emma Thompson
Emma Thompson, who is married to actor and producer Greg Wise, believes that, monogamy is, “an odd state, and actually it’s an odd state for women.” She added, “I think that we’re locked into certain ideas and certain romantic ideals that have shaped our thinking about relationships for some time.” She does however believe that we still have time to change our outdated ideals concerning monogamy.