We’ve all heard about people getting married and then claiming that they discovered that they really didn’t know their mate at all. Sure, marriage can be filled with surprises. You’re entering into a new phase of life with another person. You’re pretty much merging your existence with theirs, and if you didn’t live together or spend every day together before marriage, the changes are definitely going to take some getting used to.
However, there are a few things that you should probably know about your spouse before you walk down the aisle. For instance, you should be clear about your spouse’s sexual preferences before you say “I do.” It’s important to be aware of little things, too, like your mate’s favorite color or restaurant. You should even have an idea of your spouse’s home decorating style. But if you don’t know all the details in these areas, it shouldn’t be that big of a deal. Your spouse’s sexuality, on the other hand, is definitely an issue that should be discussed in detail long before you decide to pledge your lives to each other.
Getting divorced comes with its own set of stressors, and calling it quits because your partner is gay is definitely the type of stuff gossip magazines and blogs go for. At least celebrities who have gone through this can take comfort in the fact that the divorce isn’t completely their fault. Here are 12 celebs who thought they were marrying straight men.
12. Carrie Fisher
Carrie Fisher is the actress best known for portraying Princess Leia in the original Star Wars movie. She is also in the newest version of the film. Fisher doesn’t do many interviews, but when she does sit down to talk to the media, she’s pretty candid about the aging process and coming to terms with getting older. So, we’re guessing that’s why she was able to deal with the fact that her talent husband agent, Bryan Lourd, was gay. In 1991, the couple exchanged vows, and the following year, they had a daughter named Billie, who is also an actress. In 1994, Bryan came out as a gay man, and he and Fisher got divorced.
11. Angela Lansbury
Sure, actress and singer Angela Lansbury has starred in several productions, but she is best known as the main character in the popular series Murder, She Wrote. Lansbury also lent her voice talents to Disney’s Beauty And The Beast as Mrs. Potts. Angela Lansbury was once married to actor Richard Cromwell, but she obviously didn’t know that Cromwell was gay when the two tied the knot. The pair was only married for a year, from 1945 to 1946. Years later, Angela revealed that the marriage ended because of Cromwell’s sexuality. The two remained good friends until Richard Cromwell passed away in 1960. Just goes to show you that nothing is really new in Hollywood—but it is much more publicized these days.
10. Judy Garland
Judy Garland will always be known for her legendary role as Dorothy in The Wizard of Oz. However, she is also known for her marriage to Vincente Minnelli, who was Liza Minnelli’s father. Minnelli married several women to hide his sexuality, because he didn’t want to ruin his reputation in Hollywood. Reportedly, Minnelli was “in the closet” when he was working in Los Angeles, but felt comfortable living as a gay man whenever he was in New York City. Liza Minnelli went on to snag her own gay husband later in life. Maybe she didn’t think twice about it, because this was the “norm” in her house.
9. Danielle Fishel
Danielle Fishel will always be known as Topanga. She starred for years as Cory (Ben Savage)’s love interest in the popular 1990s sitcom Boy Meets World. She and Savage have teamed up again to reprise their roles as Cory and Topanga on Disney’s Girl Meets World. There are conflicting reports about whether Danielle and Lance Bass of N’Sync got married for a short time, but it is confirmed that the two dated for at least a year. Fishel says that she was completely surprised when Bass came out as gay six years after their relationship ended. Fishel married Tom Belusko in 2013, and she and Lance have remained really good friends.
8. Liza Minnelli
We’re starting to think that Liza Minnelli likes marrying gay men. Maybe she doesn’t like commitment, but enjoys the idea of marriage. She may also get her affinity for gay men from her mother, legendary actress Judy Garland, who also married a gay man. From 1967 to 1974, Minnelli was married to musician Peter Allen. Allen later came out as gay, and was in a relationship with Gregory Connell for a number of years. Minnelli later married David Gest, a UK television personality and U.S. television producer. There have long been rumors that Gest is gay. However, Gest says that he divorced Liza because she was abusive.
7. Carol Channing
Legendary actress Carol Channing married her manager, Charles Lowe, in 1956. For the duration of their marriage, it was widely believed that Lowe was gay. However, Channing chose not to let that get in the way of their love, since she stayed married to him for nearly 42 years, and Lowe continued managing her career. However, in 1998, Channing started divorce proceedings against Lowe, supposedly because she was tired of his extramarital relationships. Charles Lowe passed away in 1999, before the divorce could be finalized. Carol Channing then went on to a relationship with Harry Kullijian; the pair were married from 2003 until Harry’s death in 2011.
6. Berry Berenson
Berry Berenson was an actress who was also well known for her marriage to actor Anthony Perkins of Psycho. The pair was married for decades, although there were long-standing rumors that Perkins had relationships with men throughout his marriage to Berenson. Perkins passed away in 1992 due to AIDS-related complications, and he and Berenson had two children together. Berry Bereson passed away in the 9/11 attacks, when the plane she was on (Flight 11) crashed into the World Trade Center’s North Tower. In addition to acting, Berenson was also a model and photographer, and had photos published in magazines such as Glamour, Newsweek and Vogue.
5. Rebecca de Alba
Even though Rebecca de Alba and Ricky Martin didn’t officially tie the knot, they were “common law” married, since they were together for 14 years. De Alba is a model and TV presenter from Mexico, and she and Martin had a pretty passionate romance during their on-and-off years together. Rebecca stated that before Ricky Martin came out in 2010, she had no idea that he was gay. Needless to say, she felt very betrayed. After all, she spent a good portion of her life with this guy, and claims she didn’t know that he wasn’t straight! As a result, de Alba has stated that she doesn’t want to work with Martin in any capacity. We can’t say we blame her.
4. Star Jones
Celebrity attorney and former The View co-host Star Jones thought she was marrying her Prince Charming when she planned an elaborate wedding to Al Reynolds. The two were married for four years, but their union ended in a nasty divorce after there were widespread rumors that Reynolds was gay. Even though Al Reynolds has never publicly stated that he is a gay men, he also hasn’t denied the rumors, which leave many to believe that he is bisexual. Obviously, his sexuality had a lot to do with why the relationship with Jones ended. It looks like Star is wising up and keeping her romantic life private these days, which is probably best.
3. Margaret Whiting
Perhaps singer Margaret Whiting was the only one who was naïve enough to think that her husband Jack Wrangler, was straight. After all, it was widely known that Wrangler, who was an adult film star, identified as a gay man. Wrangler, however, remained married to Margaret Whiting from 1994 until he passed away in 2009. John Wrangler was even quoted once as saying that he didn’t want to “live the gay lifestyle.” We’re guessing that means he didn’t want to have romantic relationships with men, even though he was gay. Whiting is known for singing jazz classics, and for performing duets of popular songs like “Silver Bells” and “Baby, It’s Cold Outside.” Whiting passed away in 2011.
2. Terry McMillan
Author Terry McMillan is the writer behind popular books that turned into movies, like Waiting to Exhale and How Stella Got Her Groove Back. From 1998 to 2005, McMillan was married to Jonathan Plummer. Plummer was much younger than her, which led many people to believe that she intended her life to imitate art, since she fashioned the romantic hero in How Stella Got Her Groove Back after Plummer. When Plummer came out as a gay man, McMillan sued him for $40 million, citing emotional distress. The two even went on Oprah to air their dirty laundry, and the whole thing was a mess. We haven’t heard much from either party lately, except for the social media commentary McMillan has provided these days. Maybe it’s better that way, unless of course, McMillan plans on releasing more written work soon.
1. Fran Drescher
Fran Drescher is the actress with the unique voice, and an even more unusual story. She was married to Peter Marc Jacobson, who was the creator of The Nanny, the show that made Drescher a star. The two were married from 1978 to 1999, which means that they were husband and wife while The Nanny was on the air. Jacobson officially came out as a gay man after he and Fran ended their marriage. But of course, near the end of the relationship, Drescher started to see that Jacobson wasn’t exactly the man she married. The former couple went on to create the TV Land sitcom Happily Divorced, which chronicled many of their real-life experiences. They are still great friends, which is quite a feat in Hollywood these days.