It’s been a tough few weeks for Hollywood love with famous couples like Taylor Swift and Calvin Harris breaking up and Demi Lovato and Wilmer Valderrama calling it quits after six years together. Then there’s the darker side with marriages that have gone way south such as Johnny Depp and Amber Heard with the domestic violence allegations.
When it comes to dating and being in the spotlight, things don’t always go smoothly. It’s already hard for regular people like us so we can’t imagine how much harder it is for celebrities. On top of miscommunications, jealousy, and incompatibilities, famous people also have to deal with the limelight where their relationships are exposed to the public regardless if they want it that way or not. Their love life is out there in the media for people to watch and judge. That’s just one of the main reasons why you shouldn’t date in Hollywood.
Then there’s money, and other rich people’s problems that come into play when relationships don’t work out. While there’s usually compassion for these celebrity couples, sometimes the audience are the ones who get played as the two in the relationship are involved in the breakup act just for the fame. In other words, their breakup is fake and it’s just to gain more publicity.
It’s a twisted world out there in Hollywood and when you’re trying to date in it, it’s not any easier. So take a look at these 10 reasons why you shouldn’t date in Hollywood.
10. The Spotlight Is A Distraction
Don’t always under estimate celebrity couples. Some of them do seem like they were meant to be but the adventurous side of Hollywood can distract one of them and get in the way of what can really result from the relationship. In other words, if it wasn’t for being famous, they would most likely stay with their partner. Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth went through something similar in the past. The two stars got back together after breaking up in 2013. The actor recently spoke about his relationship with the singer, saying that “it was real.” “Of course it was hard, man,” he told GQ Australia. “But at the time we were going in different directions and it’s just what needed to happen. We were both super young and it was a good decision at the time…we both needed that.”
If you recall, that was when Miley decided to go all out, with her revealing outfits and questionable behavior. Sure she made a name for herself but if it wasn’t for the fame, she and Liam could’ve probably been married by now. Same goes for Jelena (Justin and Selena.) Due to being young and famous, the two decided to officially split and do their own thing. However, again, if it wasn’t for the Hollywood attention, maybe the two could’ve still been together. After all, everyone is rooting for those two to get back together. Blame it on the spotlight.
9. Real Or Fake?
It can be tough being a celebrity who’s trying to date someone out of Hollywood for two reasons. One, the sincerity of the relationship becomes questionable: is it real or is it for the advantage? It’s about security, like Noah said in The Notebook. Whether their motive is the fame or the money, it takes away the genuine passion two people share in a relationship. The second reason is because the other person might not be able to keep up with what the limelight has to offer. This is where difficult schedules, working with co-stars, and keeping your privacy on lock all come together. Dating a celebrity can be overwhelming and in the end, that life doesn’t suit the other person well. This is rather the opposite of the first reason where the “non-celebrity” doesn’t prefer the money or fame; they just want to share a regular life together.
8. Famous Co-Stars
When you’re an actor or performer, your job is to do your job, no matter who it involves. If you have a partner and she/he doesn’t like the fact that you’re going to be working with one of the hottest celebrities at the moment, then you need to make the decision if you love your job or partner more. Either way, someone gets hurt. Even if you do choose your partner over your career, chances are you’re going to regret it down the line. It happens often in real life and so to give up such a career like acting or singing or just being famous can be quite stressful in the long run. If you do choose your career over your lover, well it’s a no brainer they’re going to be heartbroken.
So why not choose both? Try balancing the two and see if it works. That’s not always the case when you’re working in Hollywood. Co-stars can get extremely intimate roles with each other, and make the other partner feel really uncomfortable. Sometimes nothing happens and sometimes your worst nightmare comes true. For example, Brangelina.
7. Difficult And Busy Schedules
Most ex-couples explain the breakup of their relationship due to their difficult work schedules, which is understandable. These celebs are working and traveling all the time and like I said above, this is their career and most likely they’re going to choose it over their love life. Especially for young, up and coming stars, the smart thing to do would be to follow their dreams but unfortunately, that is the age when you become so vulnerable and interested in the dating scene. It’s already stressful when you’re in a long-distance relationship but with the pressures of the limelight, it can get a little hectic. Emma Stone and Andrew Garfield probably know the struggle of being in a relationship while spending a lot of time apart because of their busy work schedules. The couple was together for four years before calling it quits for good due to the long distance. The two were known by their peers for having a lot of love for each other but they just couldn’t make it work.
6. The Desire To Live It Up
George Clooney takes the throne for being the ultimate player in Hollywood. He even embraced the idea of not wanting to settle down because he knew he was rich, famous and hot, so why not live it up while you can. Clooney was never successful in the dating department but he was a pro at seeking women and keeping them for a certain period of time without putting a ring on it. However, many flings later, he finally found Mrs. Right (hopefully) with Amal Alamuddin and decided it was time to get tied down. But other eligible bachelors like Leonardo DiCaprio and Justin Bieber, are still living the Clooney life. Leo knows how to have a blast and not rush to settle down. Justin is, well, Justin and trying to find himself at the moment while enjoying the single life.
Regardless of their motives, it’s the other side that suffers. While one doesn’t want something serious, the other is left hanging with her dreams of being “official” on hold. When JB and Selena Gomez broke it off, rumors were the “Sorry” singer wanted to be single and free to do his own thing. Almost the same thing happened with Zayn Malik and Gigi Hadid. Apparently, Zayn wanted to live it up while Gigi wanted their relationship to be serious. They got back together, though, just a few days after news broke they split.
5. Too Many Attractive People
Not only does jealousy exist in the Hollywood workplace, but it also exists out of it, especially in this industry where there’s a good looking person every time you turn around. There are countless of social events that provide the possibility of meeting attractive people and hooking up. Sometimes, staying relevant in the spotlight is the celebrity’s job so they have to go out and mingle. With that in mind, they’re bound to bump into someone else, famous or not, and canoodle for the meantime.
Just recently, Orlando Bloom was spotted flirting with Selena Gomez at a nightclub when he’s actually dating Katy Perry. Everyone thought it was officially over between the two but fortunately for them, they didn’t let those cheating rumors get to their relationship and are still going strong.
Being a part of Hollywood can take the reality of life away for some people. With that being said, it seems like it’s much more likely for couples who just met to get engaged and tie the knot immediately. This is obviously a recipe for disaster but it doesn’t feel that way when you’re a part of the glitz and glamour. It feels like a fairy tale story in the moment and the two who are involved are convinced that it will work.
Newsflash: life isn’t a fairy tale even when you’re famous and rich. Sooner or later, it’s not all fun and games and reality hits the couple and usually doesn’t end so well. Not only their love for each other in the moment is gone, but it’s out there for the world to get involved and twist the story.
3. Keeping Up With Each Other
It can get a little competitive in the Hollywood department. There’s that idea where you can’t do better than your ex. Well that applies to famous couples, too. Take Beyonce and Jay-Z. Sure, both are at the top of what they do, but let’s be real: Beyonce makes that relationship for what it is because she’s Beyonce. Anything she gets involved with, it explodes and everyone has to top it like the first Super Bowl halftime performance she did.
Every year, people wait to see who’s going to perform at the show just to compare it to Beyonce’s and see if they can top it. So even if Jay-Z wanted to split from Beyonce because he had someone else, possibly named Becky, he knows in his heart he can’t top Queen. So the rapper has some serious thinking to do. Fortunately though, those divorce rumors aren’t entirely true but they’re fun to play with for entertainment purposes.
2. Public Humiliation
It’s bad enough to read rumors and twisted stories about your relationship. So it’s even worse when the rumors are true and you can’t help but deal with it for the rest of your career. If anyone knows how that feels, it’s definitely Jennifer Aniston. After going through a divorce from Brad Pitt because of his alleged affair with Angelina Jolie, the “Friends” star hasn’t had a break from all the media attention. Soon after the split, Aniston was bombarded with questions regarding her ex-husband and his new love interest and it was obvious she was over the drama. It is a humiliating experience to lose your husband to another actress, and possibly of a higher profile, all in public. Eventually, it seemed like she realized she’d never escape it so the only option was to move on.
Another humiliating experience celebrities go through is the nanny drama. Being cheated on with the nanny of your kids is just not acceptable. Everyone carried sympathy for actresses like Jennifer Garner and Gwen Stefani. Both had long-term marriages and ended in such an undeserving way. These aren’t made up rumors, they are real stories and it’s unfortunate they couldn’t deal with it in a private matter like it should be dealt with.
1. Privacy Is Gone
This one’s probably the most obvious one. As celebrities, not only is your job exposed to the public, but also your personal life. You cannot run away from the media, the rumors, the paparazzi, the photos, etc. This comes with the whole package. It’s understandable when some famous people try to keep their life as private as possible, but at the end of the day there’s always going to be something said about them whether it’s true or not. It becomes even more irritating when the relationship doesn’t feel like it’s just theirs. It almost feels as if they’re sharing it with others and that must not be a pleasurable feeling.
Take three Kardashians as examples, especially since they’re the most media hungry celebrities at the moment. Kourtney Kardashian and Scott Disick have been on and off for years and everyone has watched them go through it all on their E! reality TV show. Kourtney unfortunately had to find out that Scott was canoodling with someone else overseas through the media and this was while they were still together. In contrast, Kendall Jenner has been open about keeping her dating life private. She is the most lowkey out of all of them and people always wonder who she’s dating. But that’s only because Kendall doesn’t expose her personal side for everyone to judge and get involved. Yet, there are still rumors surfacing about the model. There’s just no way in keeping a regular life without the exposure of the media.
Then there’s Khloe Kardashian and Lamar Odom, who have the biggest relationship drama out of the whole family surrounding some serious issues. Unfortunately, the fame doesn’t make it any easier for them to solve their problems. These examples are exactly why you shouldn’t fall in love and date in Hollywood.