The experience of being in a divorce not only takes a tole on your emotions but it can negatively impact your mind and physical appearance. We live in a world that is focussed on status, income, and lifestyle. Now that women have a better chance at climbing higher up the corporate ladder, we are seeing more job opportunities such as trade work and executive positions opening up to females. I will never forget the day when I was driving on a busy road and saw a woman working with a team of men on a construction site.
While all of this sounds great, the reality is there are careers that will negatively impact the dynamic of a marriage and a relationship in general. This might be the very same reason that we all know at least one person that is simply not interested in being in a committed relationship, having children or settling down.
The amount of time a person has to spend on the job, the overall job environment, the stress that comes with the profession or the emotional investment of the position itself may all play a factor in why a divorce could be around the corner.
For all of the students or seasoned professionals reading this article, take out a pen and notepad and get ready for a quick education as we cover 15 female careers that are sure to lead to divorce.
15. Criminal Investigator
Thanks to reality television, we have a front row seat to watch the real lives of everyday people and how difficult it can be in law enforcement. Not only do these women risk their lives every day to save lives, but they are also discriminated on the job because of their gender. Let’s get a better understanding of what a criminal investigator does. This job includes gathering physical evidence at crime scenes, interrogating suspects, interviewing victims, and testifying in court.
You are probably thinking I knew that already, but you may not realize that being a criminal investigator means being woken up because of a phone call by a police officer at 3 o’clock in the morning to look at a crime scene. How about ending a night out with your husband during a romantic dinner to interview witnesses, or even canceling a family vacation because a case was reopened.
Saying no to the call of duty can mean being demoted or being taken out of a short list for a better position because your personal life is more important. Unless you have a very interesting marital dynamic or your partner also has a job that is high demand, you might want to reconsider if this is the journey you want to take.
14. Hollywood Actress
Whether you are a Baby Boomer, Millennial or Generation Z, we can’t count on both hands the number of actresses that have filed for divorce with their celebrity or non-celebrity spouse. As we look into the glass window of their relationships through tabloids and red carpet pictures, the life of an actress seems like it is to die for, but in some cases, the reality is far from glamorous. The job may bring with it several challenges, such as being selected for a movie role that requires you to be on the other side of the planet.
Not to mention that kissing a popular singer in a music video can create speculation in the relationship. We also cannot forget about the temptation of groupies, people close to them in their entourage, or the nightlife.
Even the headline of a tabloid can create a rift between you and your partner. Many believe that once a story is printed in a reputable magazine, it must be true. Yes, there are actresses that have been happily married for a very long time but they are usually the ones that keep their personal lives private. Perhaps because they know how hard it can be to protect their relationship in Hollywood!
13. Traveling Sales Woman
Who doesn’t want to see the world and have an opportunity to be a jet setter? The sales position that requires you to travel can be a dream come true. You get a chance to see different cultures, sightsee after your shift ends and meet new people every day, but what about your spouse?
While he is at home taking care of the house, he needs someone to hold late at night too. As your passport collects more stamps of foreign places, the love you have can die down. Not to mention the factor of trust on both ends. He might fall into temptation while you are out of town for two weeks. You might be in Brazil and see a man that reminds you of Enrique Iglesias.
Who knows what is bound to happen. A committed relationship can’t remain strong for too long with Skype video chats and pictures sent in text messages. Being physically there in person is a part of the packaged deal. If you find someone that will be fine with this type of career, good luck, but remember if it starts to feel like a permanent long distance relationship you may want to consider a new profession.
Working in a physical trade can be exhausting. Pounding away on a roof all day means using your entire body to remove roofing materials or fix complicated issues. Climbing walls and even enduring injuries from stretching the wrong muscle or swinging a sledgehammer is painful. Now that the workforce is changing, more women are making the choice to become roofers.
Working under grueling conditions such as being in cold temperatures or completing multiple jobs under the hot summer sun is the standard. This job also comes with being sexually harassed by their male counterparts and because every woman is different, this can have an impact on her relationship.
When she comes home, don’t be surprised if all she wants to do is sleep after dinner. She might also want to wind down and read a book or watch TV all night to save her energy for another long day ahead. An alternative to a roofing career is opening a business and hiring employees to do the tough work. As they work hard for your customers, you can stay home or in an office and focus on tasks that do not require physical labor. At the end of the day, the choice is up to you.
11. Transportation Worker
While you may have read this heading and thought I’m talking about being a bus driver, a day in the life of a transportation worker is on a whole other level. These women usually drive big trucks throughout their country and being away from home weeks on end means saying goodbye to their family for long periods of time.
Their personal safety is compromised as they drive through multiple cities carrying the delicious food that we buy from grocery stores and other products. This job can leave people feeling lonely when they spend most of their time commuting in a truck.
Sitting most of the time can cause back problems and all you want to do is be healthy to go home to your family.
It may start to feel like a dead end job and this can create a limited income if there is no ladder to climb at your company. You just need to hope that if you set up your lifestyle the right way, you can work for a certain period of time throughout the year and take an extended vacation.
10. Social Workers
Social workers help bring families together and handle problems in dysfunctional homes. They are often awake late at night working on cases and often have to show up to court to testify as a witness. Social workers are often on-call and have to be there for their clients at inconvenient hours. Women in this profession are the backbone of broken homes and quite often they end up having their own mental health issues to the point of seeing a therapist themselves.
On the bright side, social workers are good listeners and give helpful advice because solving family problems is their forte. What can be unfortunate is if a social worker starts to turn to drugs or alcohol to help muster the energy for another day of work.
An alternative to this career is becoming a professor and teaching about the fundamentals of this profession with real life examples to get your students ready for what’s to come.
Opening your own practice is another way to use your family-building skills to avoid this challenging job. Nobody ever said this career was going to be easy, but there are circumstances that you might see that will change your perspective about life forever.
Studies show that 22.75% of divorces are with people that work in the medical industry. Paramedics jump in trucks all day and rush people to the hospital with the goal of saving as many lives as they can.
If a paramedic works around the clock, they might be calling their paramedic truck their bed because losing sleep happens all of the time. The job itself is also traumatic, with many women helping people with horrific injuries, and that isn’t something that many of us can handle. They may save a life, but the realization that some people are beyond saving can be hard to take.
While these caretakers do their job, speaking about a difficult situation with your spouse after work might be difficult. Being in a high-stress environment can also get in the way of maintaining good health. While it can be a rewarding job, think about your partner waiting for you at home as you work late nights.
8. Property Managers
Have you ever read a job posting for a property manager? Some will entice you by offering a rent-free unit in a luxury condominium. What a great opportunity you are thinking, but think again.
Property managers have a lot of responsibility during their day. They have to interview renters, reject families due to bad credit, deal with abusive tenants, and even walk in dirty homes to complete home inspections.
Depending on the company they work for, property managers may have to take calls from tenants at all hours of the night. Free rent doesn’t sound exciting after all.
I have heard stories about tenants that treat male property managers with more respect than female managers. Working with dishonest prospective tenants can be depressing especially when you have to put your thinking cap on to discern truth from lies.
Reminding tenants that you are not the owner of the property can be repetitive. Tenants might get angry with you when they want something in their unit changed and blame you, even though you told them that’s not your problem.
Get ready to treat your job as if it is your home! You also have to be mindful that helping around your own place should not be the sole responsibility of your partner, just because it is a part of your day job.
7. Fashion Photographers
Fashion is one of the industries that helps make the world go around. If you sit down and think about it, fashion images teach us how to dress. Whether we see amazing photos in a magazine or at a museum, someone had to take that Kodak shot. Photographers are not guaranteed an income and competition in the business is expected. Accepting multiple clients to pay your mortgage can turn your job into a day, night and weekend schedule.
Keep in mind that buying new equipment that includes upgrading your camera can also get pricey. Home improvements might have to take a back seat and depending on necessary updates, it can bring with it a lot of stress on your partner.
When you have a lot of clients to handle by yourself, it can also become incredibly easy to feel burned out. Being paid on time because a customer is waiting for funds can also delay date night with your loved one. You might even have to put your values aside to get a client that has a different vision.
For most artists, this can be discouraging and make them feel like they are not being true to themselves. But you just need to hope they can keep their head up and hope they’ll be able to create art that speaks to who they are as a person.
The lifestyle of a model looks glamorous especially when we see Kendall Jenner or Joan Smalls walking down the runway. While this career offers many perks, they are women that are being told by men most of the time that they have to lose weight, cut their hair off and hide their true personalities to fit into a fashion designer’s image of real beauty.
Aside from the fact that the successful ones have to travel across the world, many feel the consequence of a low self-esteem at times and depression during slow times of not getting work is a reality. There are top models such as Liya Kebede and Doutzen Kroes that are happily married but they are seasoned models that have been working for 10+ years. They know exactly how to stay beautiful in front of a camera and make their husbands feel like the only man that matters at home.
But your partner will have to be comfortable with you being the center of attention at events. Watching photographers flirt with you and see you on an outdoor billboard next to a 6-pack toned male model may also be hard for your partner to take. He might even feel the need to quit his day job to follow you if you have to move for work between New York, Los Angeles or Europe.
To all of the artists reading this part, please take it with a grain of salt. What can I say? Artists can be eccentric, laser focused, moody and complicated, constantly changing their minds about life. When your life is dependent on how creative you can be compared to the competition, these personality traits will find their way into your daily routine.
Artists are easy to love but when work is starting to get slow or a client rejects their vision, their partner has to be emotionally available to handle the uncertainty that they may be faced with.
Being a successful artist attracts groupies and followers because an imaginative mind is a beautiful thing. Bringing art into the home can be less expensive than purchasing an open space or a loft. But not everyone is accepting of life-size paintings in their garage or customers coming into your home to be painted or to pick up a piece of work.
Talk to your partner and ask them what they think about you becoming a freelance artist. Whether they do or do not support you, you have to be ready for the sunny and rainy days. Nobody ever said that living your dreams was always going to be easy.
4. Telephone Operators
Imagine spending Monday through Friday, 8 hours a day on the phone talking to people on the job. That is almost 40 hours a week of communicating. This might sound like a piece of cake for those that love talking, but it isn’t easy. If you are in sales, you have to do a lot of listening, ask questions and face rejection. That can be quite heavy on anyone’s mind after a long day of work.
There are breaks in between with the occasional 1-hour lunch, but it may not still be enough to save your sanity. Going home and complaining about your daily phone calls can be therapeutic, but also a turn-off to some men. As you step your foot out of the door at work, the baggage that comes along with being on the phone may not be easy to forget or let go of.
While a slightly different type of operator, Halle Berry starred in the movie The Call as a 9-1-1 operator and opened up our eyes about how one phone call and a mistake can have a negative impact on one’s mental health.
3. Flight Attendant
What some of us will do to fly on a plane and be in a new destination every day is beyond me. If you haven’t noticed, most flight attendants are young. It is not common to see one with gray hair and although they are out there, I bet they have a story or two to tell.
Being up in the air involves meeting new people and depending on how secure your husband is, long periods of time without you can make him reconsider the marriage. Get used to passengers hitting on you and having limited time to see the places that your plane lands on.
We spend over 40 hours a week on the job and being unhappy with your career can put a monkey wrench in your marriage. Your work might simply become your life and your husband might be number 2 on your priority list. With so many people in one space on a plane, if you don’t eat healthy, you may also get sick a lot. How would your spouse feel if the times that you are home, you are coughing and blowing your nose?
2. Spin Doctors aka Crisis Management Specialists
If you haven’t watched an episode of Scandal with Kerry Washington, you are missing out on how crazy the life of being a Crisis Management Specialist can be. If you are knee deep in the industry, you are going to discover some shocking secrets about some of the most reputable companies and public figures on the planet. These women are paid to fix people’s reputations and ensure sloppy incidents do not get leaked to the Channel 10 News.
This might sound like an exciting job but brace yourself, it can get ugly. Many Crisis Management Specialists cannot speak about what is really happening on the job or name drop because certain information is classified. It can be very stressful and even if you know how to handle the negative aspects of your job, it can trickle down into your marriage.
The crème de la crème often find themselves climbing the corporate ladder but at what cost. If you are spending a lot of time going to networking events and even working late nights, don’t you think your husband is going to feel neglected? If something at work is taking a toll on you and you can’t explain the details to your husband, after a while he might walk out of your life.
1. Police Officers
With all of the negative press on the news these days, I wonder how any male or female police officer can walk the streets and do their job without wondering if they will make it home safe. It is one thing to watch COPS on television and think we know exactly what they endure but it is only a sample of what they actually go through.
Female cops are constantly compared to their male counterparts. They are teased on the job for being a woman that can’t live up to the male standard in the industry and often have to work irregular hours.
Many spend more time at work than in their own house that they paid for! What does that mean for her partner? Spending time with her a few hours a day, listening to her work related (dysfunctional) problems, watching her resort to alcohol to heal the pain or accepting the fact that the both of you might have to regularly see a marriage counselor.
The suicide rate for cops is also high because of the graphic situations they have to see on a daily basis. The salary of a security guard for a career change is not desirable, so taking on an office job at your police department might be a better fit if you were looking to mix things up.